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How To Forget A Girl In 10 Ways
Be a MAN and MOVE ON!
It has been four years since I last experience the tremors caused by heartbreak. It has been over six months since I got busted by the woman I loved seriously and it has been days since I heard as sad story about break up. I know breaking up with your girlfriend/boyfriend for years is a heart tearing moment— not just to me but also to my best buddy. He may not shed a tear in front of consumed beer bottles and beer mugs but I know how much he’s hurting from the inside. It was his first serious relationship and his very first girlfriend. Indeed, it was earth shattering. I have to take my iPod bombarded with songs from The Script away to calm him down.
His break up with the first woman he loved inspired me to read my older blog post about “How to forget a girl in 10 ways”. It was a bit too old as I checked that I wrote it during college back in 2006. I shared it to him and now I will be sharing it to the world. This inspired me to share my thoughts on how to forget a girl in 10 ways for the broken-hearted young boy and vice versa.
Take her out of your system.
I know how hard it is to take her out of your system especially if she has always been part of it. But you can always do it step by step. You don’t need to rush things, right? A wound takes time to heal so as your broken heart and probably, it will mend as soon as the right time comes. When I experienced this, taking her out of my sight was hard. She's my blockmate and every day we see each other. Every day, I always see the mall where she worked and I told myself that if I could only bring this mall down, I would. However, I can't. Not to mention, Jollibee stores are everywhere and it tortured me. If this is the situation that you're into, face the problem. Don't talk to her. As much as possible avoid encounters. Look for other people to talk to so you will not be distracted.
Cut the communication lines
As what they say, communication holds society together. And this is also the thin line that connects the both of you. As much as possible cut all the connections that you have. If you are friends in Facebook, block her. If you are following her on Twitter, unfollow and block her.
Burn all the memories
You might not talk but the memories of the past always reminds of her of you. Throw everything that she has given you that you think would bring the past back. Burn it, bury it in the farthest forest just to forget her. Don’t leave any traces of her memory in your room, in your system and in your life. You should know that such feeling lingers. Burn her pictures and tell her she’s just another picture to burn. Aww!
Call your friends
Friends will always help you out. Talk to those people whom you haven’t spoke to for years. Pay them a visit and enjoy the life of being single. Now that you are free, you may probably invite these people for drinks at a local bar. Meet new friends and enjoy the time without any attachment to anyone. Never lie in your bed and think about her forever. One day you’ll probably wake up that you have wasted the opportune time to make friends and be merry. Thus, re-connecting to people and the society is possible and just a call away!
Do things that you haven't done before
Your life will surely be a big cycle if you continue to do the same things over and over. This will just give you hurtful feelings of the past. It wouldn't be cool if you grow old not even experiencing the best things in life. Hence, make a move, flex your muscles and see what lies on the other side of the fence. After all, there is no harm in look at a different direction, right? Okay, just set your mind that it is better to regret the things that you have done rather than regret the once that you haven't.
Engage yourself to a new sport
Engaging yourself to sport is a good avenue to release all the heavy feelings that you can hardly bear. Try to kick some butt with taekwondo or muay thai or go to the gym for some power lifting. These new sports might give you that abs that will give her the greatest regret of her life. If you think that you are big, fat and ugly, this will help. Burn calories as you burn her memories. After a year, she will be surprised that you have a six pack and give her a doze of her own medicine. Sweet revenge, isn’t it?
Focus on what you do
If you are still studying, study hard. If you are working, work hard. Focus your attention on these things instead of giving your time to people who can’t reciprocate the love that you can give. This way you are able to divert your attention to important matters rather than think of her every day and every night. Experience in live like are are too painful to fathom, sometimes, are the circumstances that can either make us stronger or weaker. It depends on how people take it.
Find a new girl
Breaking up is not the end of the world. There are so many birds in the sky and fish in the sea. Talk to your friends and ask them to introduce you to their network. You may also go on blind dates and speed dating. You might probably get a girl better than your ex. But don’t compare, this will only lead you back to her.
Go on a spiritual journey
Corny as may sound to some but going on a spiritual journey will help you find your soul and mend your heart. Do charity works and translate your erotic love to the people in need in the form of relief goods and gifts in kind. Volunteering for a charity will surely help you spend your time in more important things. Plus, you might probably get to know other people and make new friends. You can also go to other place without seeing traces of her. Go on mountain climbing, canyoneering, biking and other fun activities that can be done alone. You can also travel to some parts of the world where you heart can find tranquility. Doing things like these will give you the time to think, to refresh your mind and to start anew.
Realize your mistakes and accept the fact that she is gone. Everything else will not work out if you keep denying the truth to yourself. Don’t cry over spilled milk if you have a wide selection of coffee cups in front of you. Don’t dwell on the past and follow the nine aforementioned steps to totally erase her on the new chapter of your life. After all, you deserve someone better.