- Gender and Relationships
How To Handle a bad day
First of all, when you arise in the morning, you have to set the tone for your day. Turn to your spirituality and faith. Pray, and ask God to protect you and lead your steps. Accept your day and be thankful that you awakened to your new day no matter if your day is cloudy and there is no sunshine in sight. The weather is something that is out of your control and any situation has the possibility of turning for the worse.
If you know that you will be facing that morning traffic on your commute to work. Make the best of it. Put on your favorite music and sing along while you are sitting in the traffic, tap your fingers on the steering wheel and bop your head to the music. Okay, you are ten minutes late getting to work and your boss is yelling at you. Don't get all huffed and angry, try and keep your composure and tell your boss that you were stuck in traffic, that you are sorry and that you will try and make sure it won't happen again. Take a different route to work the next morning, even if it is a longer drive, but you know that you will avoid traffic and construction work on the freeway.
While you were sitting at your desk working on your computer, you checked your personal email when the boss wasn't around... it is from your boyfriend who you've been in a relationship with for five years. He is sending you a break-up email letting you know that he wants to move on with his life and that he has a new girlfriend. This could definitely put you in defcon one and you will be in a bad mood and in attack mode taking this breakup out on everyone that is near you.
You have to take a deep breath while you are sitting at the desk or excuse yourself and go to the restroom to cry and force yourself to calm down. You can't let this personal matter destroy your work performance. Save this for later when you are home and try not to bring co-workers in the middle of your business, because rumors spread or they will keep talking about this issue making it worse. Keep inspirational quotes and journals in your desk where you can take it out and get some comfort and encouragement. Look at the bright side, you have your life and it goes on with or without your boyfriend, in fact another guy will soon come along that will be better than the last.
Remember to smile even when you don't feel like it. Smiling reduces stress and affects your mood, making it better. It also draws others to you. The majority of people do like to see other people happy and being around smiling positive people set the tone for their own day and brings them hope.
You have decided not to let this breakup ruin your day, but on the way home from work a man runs into the back of your new Mercedes-Benz and he is fussing at you as though it was your fault and he was the one following too close, tailgating. You can start fussing back and make a big scene. It is best to not let this upset you because it could be a whole lot worse. There are people who have to be cut out of their cars because they are trapped in a fiery inferno that is about to explode. There are people who have lost their lives or the lives of a loved one. So just be thankful that it was just a fender bender, material things can be replaced.
Go home and take a relaxing bath... forget about calling or emailing the boyfriend. Give him his freedom and plan to have good days without him. Sit down and plan a freedom party... to celebrate being single. Invite your closes friends and ask them to bring their single friends. This will put you in a good mood knowing that you will be surrounded around others who may be in the same boat as you are and perhaps you might meet a special guy looking for a special girl...that special girl possibly could be you.
Sitting down and mapping out where you want your life to be, what you want out of life, and where you are going helps to give you hope and faith for the future which will be better than your present. Remember that prayer works best if you are a spiritual person who believes in a higher power. Sometimes things that happen is for the best for you and God knows this and he removes the wrong people from our lives so that we can focus on allowing the right people to come into our lives.
If you turned someone away because you were in a relationship, and most women do this. If you know that this guy is still single and you know that he is interested, ask him out on a date, your treat.