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How To Know If You're Ready For A Relationship

Updated on April 11, 2016
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Deciding if you are ready to be in a relationship can be more difficult than you might think. Some people jump into relationships thinking that it will make them happier, but the truth is is that it won't. That's because being happy starts with you, and not anyone else. Just ask yourself - are you really going to rely on someone else for your happiness? And what happens if they let you down? In the end, you always have yourself. So it's OK to be on your own for a while, take some time out to do things that you want to do, discover new places, make new friends; there's a difference between being alive and living.

Let's assume that you've met someone recently but you're unsure whether being in a relationship is what you need right now. Well first of all, your mental health comes before anything else. So if you do have any kind of mental illness, and you're not in a good place right now, it's a smart idea not to rush into anything too soon. You need to make sure that you can actually trust the other person because if you don't that's a big red flag from the start. Trust is the foundation of all strong relationships. If you can tell them anything on your mind or even about your past then that's always a good sign.

It's easy to push people away when you feel like you are both getting too close, but keep in mind that no one is willing to wait forever. Keeping the relationship secret for a while can be a good first step, just until you are ready for everyone to know. There's always going to be obstacles from social media, exes, and family members - it can all get a bit overwhelming and you might feel pressured to end the relationship before it's even started. So first of all just try and get used to the idea of being with each other without anything getting in the way, it will definitely be an easier transition for you.

Lastly, not all relationships will work out. If it's not right, it's not right. Don't keep worrying about it. But more importantly don't start believing that you have to be in a relationship, there's nothing wrong with being single for now. There will always be people asking 'oh, are you still single?' and 'why aren't you in a relationship yet?' but you don't have to give them an answer. Take your time if you need to. Concentrate on loving yourself and giving your body what it needs; rest. Relationships are secondary to that.


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      dashingscorpio 18 months ago

      "Let's assume that you've met someone recently but you're unsure whether being in a relationship is what you need right now."

      There is such as thing as casual dating!

      It doesn't have to be an "all or nothing" scenario.

      Every time someone asks you out or you ask someone out there should not be any assumption you're heading towards being in an exclusive relationship! It's just a date! You're entitled to still have fun even without commitment.

      Even if one is not ready to get into a serious exclusive relationship it does not mean they can't enjoy going out to a movie, dinner, a concert, a play, a sports event or whatever. Most dates don't evolve into relationships!

      Therefore worrying about whether you're ready to be in a relationship every time you meet someone is premature.

      When it comes to love and relationships most of us (fail our way) to success. Rarely does someone hit a homerun their first few time up at bat.

      This is especially true when we're younger, immature, have unrealistic expectations and have yet to figure out who (we) are let alone what we want and need in a mate for life.