- Gender and Relationships
How To Know If You're Ready For A Relationship
Deciding if you are ready to be in a relationship can be more difficult than you might think. Some people jump into relationships thinking that it will make them happier, but the truth is is that it won't. That's because being happy starts with you, and not anyone else. Just ask yourself - are you really going to rely on someone else for your happiness? And what happens if they let you down? In the end, you always have yourself. So it's OK to be on your own for a while, take some time out to do things that you want to do, discover new places, make new friends; there's a difference between being alive and living.
Let's assume that you've met someone recently but you're unsure whether being in a relationship is what you need right now. Well first of all, your mental health comes before anything else. So if you do have any kind of mental illness, and you're not in a good place right now, it's a smart idea not to rush into anything too soon. You need to make sure that you can actually trust the other person because if you don't that's a big red flag from the start. Trust is the foundation of all strong relationships. If you can tell them anything on your mind or even about your past then that's always a good sign.
It's easy to push people away when you feel like you are both getting too close, but keep in mind that no one is willing to wait forever. Keeping the relationship secret for a while can be a good first step, just until you are ready for everyone to know. There's always going to be obstacles from social media, exes, and family members - it can all get a bit overwhelming and you might feel pressured to end the relationship before it's even started. So first of all just try and get used to the idea of being with each other without anything getting in the way, it will definitely be an easier transition for you.
Lastly, not all relationships will work out. If it's not right, it's not right. Don't keep worrying about it. But more importantly don't start believing that you have to be in a relationship, there's nothing wrong with being single for now. There will always be people asking 'oh, are you still single?' and 'why aren't you in a relationship yet?' but you don't have to give them an answer. Take your time if you need to. Concentrate on loving yourself and giving your body what it needs; rest. Relationships are secondary to that.