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How To Love Again After A Broken Heart

Updated on February 25, 2015

The last time I had a broken heart I didn’t know what to do. I’ve been in a few relationships and the older I get the more I find it hard to love again. I know it takes time to heal and you can’t get over a person overnight. But one day I decided that I was going to make my broken heart work for me.

Instead of letting a broken heart paralyze me I started looking for ways I could grow from it. Though it was hard sometimes and you can’t help what your heart wants. I believe I’m handling it a lot better this time around. Here are a few tips that can help you love again after a broken heart.

#5 There Are Plenty Of Fish Out There To Love

This may be the hardest thing to realize while you’re experiencing a broken heart. But there are still and always will be plenty of fish in the sea. Now this does not mean that you have to lose hope for the person you really want to be with. But when you realize there is always someone else out there for you, then you can start to accept the fact that it may not be meant to be.

We often time feel we can’t love again because we don’t want to be hurt again. But there are billions of people in this world, and the moment you find the right person they will help you to love again. But you have to be willing to keep your mind open to meeting and learning new people.

#4 Find Out What Your Gift Is

Don’t just find something to keep you busy. But find out what your gift is and if you already know, then this is the perfect time to use it. A broken heart makes use really emotional and these emotions can be used very productively. I believe we all have a gift in this world and when you focus on your gift you will truly find happiness and fulfillment.

Being fulfilled will truly help you to heal and get over your broken heart. When we are truly happy with what we are doing in life we tend to have a better perspective. Let your emotions move you, get up and work hard to be happy. When you are truly happy, then loving again becomes more of a joy and a lot less of a burden.

#3 Get Angry And Write

Writing is a great way to heal, it doesn’t have to be a masterpiece but writing down what you are truly feeling is important. Instead of letting your thoughts and emotions consume you, get angry, scream, and let it all out on paper. This is also a good way to rationalize what’s going on. We can be very irrational when emotionally hurt.

Crying is a way to release the pain as well, writing can really bring your feeling out and you start to feel hurt and pain all over again. But the more you write, talk, and get those feelings out, you will find yourself becoming more free from the pain and sooner than later you will love again.

#2 Point The Finger At Yourself

When you blame the other person for your broken heart you will find it impossible to love again. Think about it: As long as I feel that other people are to blame than I will never feel free to love again. Pointing the finger at your self is a good way to get back to loving again.

You have to understand that when you love you take the risk of someone breaking your heart. But that’s ok because “YOU” are worth the risk! Don’t look at it as you’re doing a person a favor when you love them. But you deserve to be happy, you deserve to be loved, and showing love will ultimately serve you in the long run.

#1 Love Is Normal

The last point I want to make to you is that love will never go away. Love is all around and trying to avoid it will be torture. Let love happen because it is completely normal. I think some of us look at love as an option but honestly I don’t believe we can help who and what we love.

Don’t cheat yourself! When it is done right, love can be an awesome experience. Yes it’s hard at times and yes it hurts at times but don’t look at it as a weak thing. Love is very strong, hints the reason why it hurts so bad to get over some one. Love is so strong that it won’t let go sometimes and it will hold on forever. But don’t give up on love.

In Closing

We all have been heart broken and what don’t kill us only makes us stronger. I do realize that it doesn’t matter much what people say when your heart is broken. But every little bit helps, that’s the way I see it. I hope this has been helpful to someone and I believe that love will find its way to us all, sooner than later love will come knocking! Just be ready.


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    • Sia184 profile image


      3 years ago from United Kingdom

      I've just suffered from a broken heart. It's so hard to get back on my feet again.


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