- Gender and Relationships
How To Make Her Love You: A Short And Simple Guide To Make Her Fall In Love With You
This Can Be Done
Working online for so much time now I have come across this dilemma a million times. How to make her fall in love with you when you are either shy, or don't know how to approach her, or you just have no idea where to start.
This is what convinced me that I should help all those guys who feel lost and only watch from distance at the girl they love.
Someone once told me that nobody will fall in love with your brain at a party, or seeing you on the street, which of course suggests that you have to look in a certain way to get people's attention. That is true, on some level, but on the other hand I am sure you see every day couples that you don't think they fit and ask yourself how did those two got together? The answer is very simple, they knew how to see past appearances.
Making a girl laugh and have a good time is the guaranteed way to get to her heart. She might not notice you if you don't resemble Brad Pitt, but she will if you are a funny guy that always makes her smile.
Girls like to be entertained, so a guy who knows how to do that it is sure to reach success and turn that girl or woman into his girlfriend. My boyfriend still acts silly around me sometimes and makes me laugh so hard and with such pleasure that he makes me fall in love with him all over again. Just seeing him carrying enough to make me smile tells me how much my happiness means to him.
Just try not to become everyone's clown. There is one thing to be funny and make her laugh and another one to be the one everybody is making fun of. Be sure to tell the difference between the two because no girl wants to date the guy everybody laughs of.
A smart person will absolutely always attract when found either in a group or individually. If you know a bit about a lot, then you will always be the ones she turns out for answers.
I still remember the time before starting to date my boyfriends when he amazed me every time with how much knowledge he had about so many things. He knew things I've never heard of, he could tell me all the capitals of any country I would ask, and a lot of other things.
That blew my mind and made me think that with someone that smart I would never bore or be ashamed with him when we would be in a circle of friends and have conversations.
When you are in school you tend to believe that boys aren't all that interested in learning, but rather party and have fun, so you get the wrong idea that they are not very bright, when in fact most of them really do study even if they don't flaunt this at school and they turn into really smart men who are able to conduct a conversation or start a business.
A smart man is so incredibly sexy, but make sure you don't bore her with useless and unending information about everything and anything. You should doze your information and release it in small dosages. Just throw something here and there always in theme with the conversation. For example, if you are talking about a malpractice case don't start saying how you know all the years when your favorite sport's team won the championship. You get the idea.
Knowing what to say and when to say it shows that you are smart. Trying to always show how much you know about everything will end up boring people.
Listen To Her
I haven't met a girl who didn't want the man next to her to pay attention to what she has to say. Just because you don't see the importance of that certain thing as she does doesn't mean that what she is saying is less important than what you are saying.
If she is telling you something that she cares deeply about and later on at some point you correlate to what she told you back then, she will never ever forget it. In her eyes you will be the guy who listened to what she had to say and more importantly remembered what was important to her. That will score you huge points.
My boyfriends remember stuffs that even I forgot and every time he tells me about it I am thinking what a wonderful person he is for really listening to me.
Remembering things that matter for her or both of you is great, remembering everything she did wrong at some point is annoying and irrelevant. If you want her to be impressed tell her stuff that she talked to you about or how she looked in an outfit that you liked sometimes in the past, don't tell her you have no idea what she told you three days ago.
There is nothing worse that someone who is trying to pretend they are something else than they really are. If you lie about what you like, what interests you and things you don't find pleasure in just to match what she said, in time these things will be revealed and her trust in you will go down the drain.
Don't pretend you like dogs when you are a cat person because when she will buy a dog and you will end up bitten all the time and frustrated that you have to walk or play with the dog, she will see this and catch your lie.
Imagine how it would be to pretend you like opera and be dragged there every week to watch a show. You will end up feeling all anxious and nervous just knowing that time approaches.
You need to be honest if you don't have the same interests as she does. Just tell her what you like rather than pretend you are her masculine copy.
This doesn't mean you shouldn't make an effort to attend things that she likes. You can't take her to watch horror movies all the time just because you like them, when she only like comedies. Make a compromise and both try out things that the other one like to see if maybe both of you might find out you actually like that as well.
Go Get Her
So, there you have it. Easy, simple and right on topic. If you want to make a girl fall in love with you all you need to do is to make her smile, show her how smart you are, listen to what she has to say and be honest.
If you follow these steps there is no way you won't make her love you. A guy told me at some point that if his wife is happy he is happy because as long as she is smiling next to him and feels loved, she will do everything she can to return the favor.