- Gender and Relationships
Learn How To Make Out
First Time Making Out?
If you've never made out with someone before, you're probably pretty anxious about it. Maybe you have a date this coming weekend and you are really hoping to finally kiss someone for the first time? But your mind is racing with a million different questions - how do I start? what do I do with my tongue? what exactly is french kissing anyway?
Relax...I'm going to give you some tips and pointers that will help make your first make out session a success! First, there are a few basic rules that you must remember. These take precedence over everything else.
Rule #1: Relax!
It's probably going to be really hard to relax and remain calm, but just try to have fun and don't obsess over every little detail. If it's going to happen, then just "go with the flow".
Rule #2: Take it slow
Even though you are going to be nervous and excited all at the same time, you need to slow down. Don't rush into things and try to kiss your date unexpectedly, out of nowhere. It's best to get you and your partner away from the crowds and just talk for a while. Try to gradually work your way closer to them (slowly!) until you are at least holding hands or maybe have your arms wrapped around each other. Try to be smooth.
Rule #3: No means no
Even if you want to kiss your date really, really badly, if they resist or reject your advances you have to stop and respect their decision. No ifs, ands or buts - if they don't want to make out with you, then that's it. You can't force yourself on someone, not even just to kiss them. It's wrong, immoral and probably illegal. If you kiss them and they reject you, take a step back and try to talk about it. Talking about your feelings is hard, but nobody ever went to jail for it!
Kissing is actually pretty simple, but making out requires a little bit of creativity and passion. You need to have the right moment and your partner needs to feel the same way. Start by slowly moving your faces closer and closer. Begin with a light kiss on the lips. If your partner doesn't freak out and run away screaming, keep going!
A few more light kisses, then open you mouth a little and slide you tongue across his/her lips. If they open up too, slide your tongue into their mouth (remember- SLOW and GENTLY!). Caress their tongue with yours. Move your head around slowly to approach from different angles.
That's pretty much it! Watch the video below for step by step instructions on how to make out successfully. Try these techniques out on that someone special and good luck!