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What is the Safest Time of the Month?
I Don't Want to Get Pregnant
If you don't want to get pregnant then this article is really dedicated to giving you the knowledge about which times in your cycle it is more safe to have sex in (in terms of not getting pregnant) if you are not using any form of contraception. Now it may well be considered bad advice by some people to tell you when you can have safe sex without contraception and indeed of course it is much more advisable to use condoms and/or other means of contraception, but of course life is not that simple and not everyone has access to or the wherewithal to get contraception for themselves or there may be other reasons why they can or won't use contraception (e.g. for religious reasons).
So there will always be people who will have sex, whether it be planned or on the spur of the moment, without contraception, and if people are more aware of when they will be less fertile then hopefully this may at least prevent more unwanted pregnancies.
So, the proviso on reading this is that if you are considering having unprotected sex on a regular basis and you don;t want to get pregnant, then you should seriously consider getting some form of contraception. Not only to stop you getting pregnant but also to prevent any sexually transmitted diseases.
Knowing Your Cycle
The first thing to be aware of if you don't want to get pregnant, is the basics of how your body works. Although we obviously all know that unprotected sex can lead to pregnancy, the actual ins and outs of the women's cycle are a bit more of a mystery unless you have really researched this.
So, to start with, it is much easier to know what your body is doing if you are having regular cycles. They don't have to be of the standard length of 28 days but as long as they are the same length each month, maybe just varying by a day or two then you will be much better able to know what is going on. If you are having very irregular cycles then it is really difficult to know when you are ovulating and so trying to guess when is a safe time to have sex is much more difficult.
There are two parts to your cycle, the first part is gearing up for ovulation and the second part is after ovulation has happened. Ovulation is the release of the egg that can be fertilised by the sperm to create an embryo. Once the egg has been released at ovulation it will only survive in your body for 12 hours or so. This means that if you know when you ovulate, then you can wait a couple of days and then be reasonably sure that you are safe. However, you have to know exactly when!
In the first part of your cycle, you are gearing up to ovulation. Sperm can survive for up to 4 days in the body so if you have sex 4 days before you ovulate you can still get pregnant.
Best Times to Not Get Pregnant
How Long is Your Cycle?
If you have a standard cycle of 28 days then the chances are that you will ovulate on day 14. However, there is also a chance that you will ovulate on day 13,15,16 or even 17.
The second half of your cycle can be between 10 and 16 days. The average is 14 but everyone is not average. So if your cycle is 30 days then you will likely ovulate between day 14 and day 10 of your cycle (day 1 is the first day of your period). This means that if you don't know when you are ovulating you should not have unprotected sex between day 6 and day 22 of your cycle. If you know when you are ovulating then you can narrow this down further.
How To Tell When You Ovulate
I have a detailed article which shows how to tell when you ovulate - it gives a lot of information but is aimed at those people who are actually trying to get pregnant.
So, there are a few ways you can check - you can use ovulation test strips each month to check if you have a regular ovulation date (although this can't be relied upon as it could change each month). You can also sometimes tell by the type of discharge that your body produces. When you are more fertile your body produces a kind of stringy egg-white type discharge which can be apparent when you pee. If you get this kind of discharge - do not have sex! After you have ovulated your discharge will be much drier and stickier.
Do Not Rely On This as Contraception!
Once again I must emphasise that you shouldn't rely on this as a failsafe way of not getting pregnant. Your cycle can change at any time and you may never know when you are ovulating. The safest time to have sex is at the end of your cycle, perhaps in the week before your period starts. However, you might not know when your period is about to start so unless you are pretty sure you shouldn't rely on this.
And again, don't forget that this will not prevent any sexually transmitted diseases.