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How To Quickly Get Over A Fight

Updated on October 12, 2010


Ugly words, misunderstandings, yelling, shouting and storming out; now feelings are hurt, pride is puffed up and anger flairs all over the house. You two pass one another not speaking and keeping up this in the stomach emptiness and pain. Now think about all of this and ask yourself, was it all really worth it? Not to mention most fights are worthless and forgotten very quickly.


Instead of getting angry why not first ask your mate, why did they say what upset or hurt you, or what did you mean by what was said? Many times things are said that is not meant the way we take it. Things happen that might make a person act as they would not normally act. Sit and talk before things escalate. Ask questions before jumping to conclusions.


Many times fuel turns into fire when heat is thrown on it. Don’t add heat; add cool water to fuel to calm the smell down. Sometimes when kindness and love is shown at a time when the other is not showing love, this will give that person something to think about. One cannot fight and argue continuously with themselves, it needs a companion to keep it going.


We need to remember we all have choices we can make. What’s more important, think about it because those choices are what we must live by? Realistically many fights can be very easily solved. It takes two mature people to communicate their true inner feelings and to communicate what’s really behind the fight. We’re definitely talking about fighting with words. Physical fighting is a whole different issue never to be tolerated in any relationship. If you are in a situation like that, please get help right away. All relationships, misunderstandings and fighting with words does happen, however, if these turn physical and it turns to intentional pain caused, this is always unacceptable.


Never let the sun set with you in a provoked state. Try to live by this and see success in your relationship. Fix it before the sun rises. Remember too much pride in a relationship leads to disaster.  You determine whether or not your fight will be quick or not. You control that, so make the right decision and get it over with. Healthy long lasting relationships are built on love, not fights.


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      Jen 7 years ago

      this is such good advice

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      TURNELBUP 7 years ago from New York City

      Good hub! Too many relationships are destroyed because of small misunderstandings that escalate into bigger problems.