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How To Remain Happy After Twenty Five Years of Marriage
Celebrating Your Marriage
It started in the Garden of Eden more than six thousand years ago. Man and woman, were brought together as husband and wife. The union of marriage is one of Jehovah God's most spectacular gifts to humankind. We should exult and praise our Grand Creator, for the origin of such a perfect creation. After God made man from the dust, he performed the first major surgical procedure, when he took a rib from the man and made woman. Our Creator, then united them in holy matrimony. They were to utilize this arrangement for the purpose of having children that would live in a park like area and fill the earth with perfect children. Nothing was wrong with this ideal situation. There are remnants today that attempt to resemble this original purpose. That is why the celebration of 5, 10, 25 or even 50 years of marriage, is so valuable to us. We must then ask ourselves, how does two imperfect individuals remain united and happy as husband and wife, for all those years? Let's review some answers that were revealed at our 25th wedding anniversary celebration.
I was in ecstasy as my husband held me closely and we danced together. The dress was beautiful, his suit perfect. The food was absolutely delicious as many commented. Music played that consisted of jazz and rhythm and blues. We danced on the song, Ribbons In the Sky by Stevie Wonder which was played by saxophonist, Jerry Blake as his son sang those beautiful words. The evening was topped off by one of my favorite comedians, C.P. Lacey. His imitation of #Michael Jackson, left our audience hysterical with laughter. Lacey's imitation of James Brown's song, Please Don't Go, was so funny that it was difficult to stop laughing. His show was culminated with the visit of a special guest. Suddenly, after tremendous anticipation, Stevie Wonder walked through the door. After seeing Lacey's show numerous times, I was not sure if it wasn't the real thing. I had to ask my husband if it really was C.P. Lacey imitating #Stevie Wonder. Of course, it was Lacey but his artistry is magnificent. He wore an outfit like Stevie Wonder would wear as well as makeup, hairline with braids and even teeth. The resemblance was amazing as Lacey sat at the keyboards singing like Stevie. What an awesome talent C.P. Lacey is.
After the comedian, we played the years of #marriage game. All the married couples danced as the years of marriage were mentioned starting from newlyweds. As the number of the years each couple was married was called out, they would move to the side of the dance floor. IN the end, the couple married the longest would remain. We were honored to have my in-laws be the last couple standing and dancing. They have been married 57 years and are still in love with each other. What a tremendous source of praise to our Heavenly Father, the creator of marriage.
How does this happen? Where two imperfect people remain together as husband and wife for more than 5, 10, 25 or even 57 years. When my in-laws were interviewed, they expressed simply, "We kept #Jehovah God as the third cord in our marriage." As the originator of marriage, they knew God had the best solutions for them to remain married and to still be happy and in love 57 years later. What a simple solution, that we should look toward the Creator for answers on how to maintain a good and successful marriage.
It is interesting that we are compelled to check with the creator of products we purchase by reading instructions. When we bring home that new appliance, as a precaution the instructions become vital to us so that we can comprehend how it functions. If the appliance does not operate properly, we can take it back to the creator or manufacturer of that product because they should know how to make it work properly. What makes us assume that marriage is any different. It is the creation of our powerful and loving Heavenly Father. He gave us a manual, his word the Bible. Matthew 19:4-6, "He answered, 'Have you not read that he who made them from the beginning made them male and female,' and said, 'For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one?' So they are no longer two but one. What therefore God has joined together, let no man put asunder.'" Almighty God Jehovah, clearly gives us the standard for husband and wife not to allow anyone to come between them. They are considered as,"one flesh." If you cut or separate something that is one flesh, it will bleed possibly to death. When we allow others to interfere in our marriage, we destroy that relationship. Our Creator reminded us that we should "let no man put apart," what he has joined together. This is a command and when broken, divorce rates develop in the fullest sense, as we see today. Behind every divorce, there is something or someone that came between that husband and wife. How vital it is that we apply what the manufacturer or creator of marriage advises us to do, in order for our marriage to work.
Three outstanding articles are featured in the January 15, 2015, The Watchtower. The articles discuss how to, "Build a Strong and Happy Marriage, Let Jehovah Fortify and Safeguard Your Marriage, Is Unfailing Love Possible?" Summaries were explained on page two of this magazine which states, "Married couples are contending with increasing pressures and temptations. Yet, with Jehovah's help, it is possible to have a strong and happy marriage. The first article will discuss five spiritual building blocks for a strong and lasting marriage and the mortar that can be used to bind them together. The second article will examine how to fortify the spiritual defenses of a marriage." The third article answers such questions as, "What is true love between a man and a woman like? Is enduring love possible? How is such love expressed? Learn what the Song of Solomon teaches us about unfailing love." On Sunday, April 12th, 2015 a special talk entitled, #A Promise of Perfect Family Happiness, will be given at local #Kingdom Halls of Jehovah's Witnesses throughout the world. The purpose of this talk is to "Have a large happy human family without fractions will soon be fulfilled by means of the kingdom." Jehovah desires the very best for not only husbands and wives but for every member of our families. Our Heavenly Father will bring this to a reality through his precious son #Jesus Christ who reigns as King of that future Kingdom that will rid the earth of all badness in the future.
Almighty God is the Creator of marriage and he really does know what is best. Simply put, those couples that were married for 5,10, 25 or 57 years applied what the Creator suggested in order for them to still be together. Even individuals within a marriage who claim not be religious, still apply such characteristics as love, respect and cosideration which are all qualities that originate from our God Jehovah and his son Jesus. Twenty five years of marriage is an honor and privilege. My husband and I are compelled to unite ourselves with God as the third connection in our marriage. We believe that he knows what is best for us and our family. Jehovah has taught us how to raise our children by the same standards based on the Bible. We often receive complements concerning, what fine, young, spiritual women they are. Realistically, we can only be successful with our marriage and family by following God's instructions. When we apply our Creator's advice, we receive answers on how to resolve problems and love each other. This genuinely brings us happiness and we can continue to live together as husband and wife for 25 years or more. What a magnificent Creator we serve, who gave us such a perfect and glorious gift, such as the marital arrangement. All praises and honor goes to our loving Heavenly Father Jehovah.