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Living In a Joint Household

Updated on March 23, 2017

Respect

It is important that everyone in the house feel like that they have a responsibility to make everything work.

If at any time anyone in the family doesn't feel needed or feels like they are being a little neglected, then we can recognize that and try to pick them up. Trying to find the root of the health problem is a goal now. There are obvious health problems and then the not so obvious health problems such as diabetes, heart disease and stroke. These issues are real.


Sharing Space

There are some things that you might not think of, when living in a joint household. You become like a little team of people all living in a network, trying to help each other survive.

I currently share space with my boyfriend and his mother and father. Huge concerns over health issues have brought us together. Living together has it's advantages. You can share the bills and that helps everyone. We also do most of the cleaning for them and help with the meals and groceries. Our living situation works out well.

Even though you all love each other, there will come a time that you are bound to get on each others nerves. You just have to take a step back and remember that they might be having an ache or pain that they just did not tell you about that day. They may not mean a thing by it, they are just in pain.

In the elderly, they start to have health problems and they may need some assistance. We are always ready to help if we are asked but, some things we just do automatically. Sometimes it is the littlest things that make them happy. Just turning the car around in the driveway so, that they can get out easier, helping unload the car. Taking out the garbage, washing dishes, drying them and putting them away.

Recently at the new house so far, there's been lots of picture hanging, organizing the pantry, opening two online stores, working in the flower beds, transplanting plants and flowers and rose bushes from the other house. The driveway has been pressure washed as well as the house and the separate garage. We are working hard to make this house a home where everyone is welcome. A place where his mom can invite her family at Christmas like she used to do each year. Now she can truly entertain like she has wanted to for so long. Update the Christmas party was planned and due to inclement weather, the families weren't able to get together. (We did go to each individual house to play Santa, later).

I would say that we are settling in nicely and everyone has what they "do" around the house. There is still a lot to be done at the new house but, it has really been fun getting everything put away and set up at the new house.

Respect Each Other

Getting along is very important when you share a home with someone.  You must respect one another's space in order to live in a civilized environment.
Getting along is very important when you share a home with someone. You must respect one another's space in order to live in a civilized environment. | Source

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Making Everyone Matter

It is important to make everyone living in the home feel like they matter. Too many rules can make you feel like you are living under house arrest. Each person contributes to washing dishes and cleaning. It is a good idea to let someone in the home know if you leave, in case someone may want to watch a movie in the den or the living room. Then, we each have our bedrooms and there is a den upstairs. We have more space than what we did before at the previous house so, that is helpful as well.

Holidays can be challenging as well to know which side of the family to go to this year. What we have finally decided to do would be to take year about and go to a different family member's home each time. This will really allow you to get to know your family. You can also split up the holidays and go to one side for Thanksgiving and the other side for Christmas. It really is good for the grand kids to come around. That gives a break in the same day to day routine that we all have.

Do Chores To Help Out

Doing chores such as cutting grass is a great way to help out in a dual household. Always split the chores and the bills up.
Doing chores such as cutting grass is a great way to help out in a dual household. Always split the chores and the bills up. | Source

Pitch In!

When multiple families live under one roof it's vital for everyone to do their part in cleaning, cooking and with financial responsibilities as well.
When multiple families live under one roof it's vital for everyone to do their part in cleaning, cooking and with financial responsibilities as well. | Source

Different Personalities

It takes all kinds of people to make up the world. The different personalities are what makes the world go round. If we were all the same, what a boring world that would be. We would all get very tired of each other as well.

His mom and dad have been there for us and helped us out at times. So, we are always mindful of the kindness that they have shown to us and try to repay what we can. I pay rent as well as do some work around the house.

Some of our favorite times are in the mornings and on the weekends where we gather in the kitchen and enjoy a game or two of Family Feud. She cooks the eggs, we fix biscuits or pancakes, sometimes grits and whatever meat we have available, which is usually bacon.

Christmas is also a favorite time at our home. There are so many Christmas decorations to be used in various places around the house. This is a time for everyone to get involved because, there is plenty to do.

Helping Around The House

Washing Dishes
Dusting
Mopping
Cleaning the bathroom
Empty The Trash
Vaccuum the floor
Fold Clothes
Feed and water the dog
Wash clothes
 
 
 
We have found that the more we help his mom the more excited she gets.

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