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How To Win Back the Love of Your Life: In Five Easy Steps

Updated on May 10, 2012
Don't worry this ain't not Humpty Dumpty, It can be put back together again
Don't worry this ain't not Humpty Dumpty, It can be put back together again

The Disclaimer

  • These 5 steps are in no way, shape or form a guarantee that this will work but it is a series of steps that have been proven to work at least once.
  • These 5 steps are geared toward getting back someone that was in love with you and you were and are in love with them.
  • These steps are designed as a strategy to help not only the person you want back but also to make sure that this relationship is right for you!
  • P.S. they may not be as easy as the title may suggest...... But when has anything that has been amazing easy to get?

Is this enough SPACE??
Is this enough SPACE??

Step 1: Space

Space can be one of the worst words in the English language, especially when used during a relationship, but it may just be the first step in getting back the one you love. Most likely if your no longer in a relationship with the person then you are probably already not really in contact with them so you just take it a step farther and take time to be separated from that person. This serves multiple purposes, it gives you time to take a look at the relationship and figure out all the bad things that caused the break up and see if those issues can be work passed. This is a crucial step because not only do you give yourself time to determine whether they may be the one it also gives them time to miss all the things that made them love you to begin with. During this step you start the next step, becoming a better you.

Sometimes people from New Jersey do have good ideas
Sometimes people from New Jersey do have good ideas

Step 2: Improve Your Image

It is easy to think giving someone space is easy, that o yeah I can totally just stop talking to or interacting with this person, it should not be hard at all! The reality though is that giving someone space is usually a bitch, extremely stress full and can cause anxiety. Therefore Step 2 improving your image helps work to divert this stress and anxiety into more positive outlets. You hear all the time that working out releases endorphins but along with working out there are many other activities that can cause this release, such as getting some sun or even just having a good laugh! Doing these activities can promote a better you, by improving your overall health through exercise, getting some color, if that makes you feel you look better, and having a more positive outlook on life. You want to be a better you, because even if that person your trying to get back loved the person you were, they will not complain if you put forth the effort to look and feel better. After this we move on to step 3, the reconnection.

I'm just pieces without you
I'm just pieces without you

Step 3: The Reconnect

Step 3 is not a step to be taken lightly..... You have given the person space, and you have made yourself into a better more desirable you now though you have to face a possibility. That person might have tried to move on..... or successfully have moved on. This is why its such a big step, you have to almost put yourself out there and lightly reconnect. I do not want to put a time stamp on how long you should wait, but i would give it at least a month, or until you see some noticeable changes from step 2. Reconnecting should never involve the phrase "I have missed you so much" not only does this destroy all the time put into step 1 and 2, it almost puts the person on the defensive. I would advise just starting with the a neutral how have you been. This is the moment when the person will answer with either an opening to start pursing them again or finding out you missed out. If you are so lucky, and the person is not as happy as they thought they would be without you then you now get to move on to step 4, be perfect.

Step 4: Be Perfect

If you've completed steps 1-3 and your still game to win back the one then its your turn to be the one. Perfection is a word that has been misused and is not fully understood.... but if you know the love of your life the way you should then you know how to be perfect for them. Although I would warn you though, do not and I mean do not go overboard with perfection because you do not want to wear yourself out. You do not want to stop being perfect, you just have to, after step 1, know that you want to put forth the effort and continue to put forth that same effort to keep the relationship going because no relationship can work without trying. It should not feel like work though, and if it starts to you have to look back at the relationship and know you want to keep at it because the 5th and final step can by be the hardest, patience and persistence.

Step 5: Patience coupled with Persistence

Patience is the key to getting back the love of your life. Why is this? Its easy nothing ever comes easy or fast, unless you win the lotto.... Regardless it takes persistence, you can not give up, you have to prove to this person that you are the one for them and that it was a mistake to let them go in the first place. NO relationship is healed in a day, or maybe even a week, it may take even as long as a year but, if your willing to go the extra mile you may like what you get at the end of the road.


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      hopelesshelen 18 months ago

      I'll keep this as anonymous as I can. I lost the love of my life 33 yrs ago. I returned from 3 yrs in the service and 3 months later she was married to someone else. I have attempted suicide yrs ago after I seen her for the first time in a long time. She has fallen out of love with me and I feel like a creep every time I see her now. She treated me wonderfully and was very sweety, sweety towards me. She always called me a special name that was actually quite effeminate. It makes me wonder if she wasn't picking up on the fact that I am quite transgendered. I love he very much and I am totally lesbian. I have not been intimate with anyone since her. I know, yeah right. Well I can't hardly believe it myself. Not that I haven't tried. It just has never happened. I am now very alone in my life since my Mom and Dad and my sister have passed away. I recently looked her up on facebook. I don't know why I didn't earlier, but I didn't. She and her daughter are on her homepage. Her daughter has grown into a lovely woman with kids of her own. It breaks my heart to have to witness these things from the outside looking in. I am unemployed and going broke and don't know how to face the situation anymore. Being transgendered and having my physiological aspects out of whack. It isn't just black and white. I don't have much longer before the situation is beyond dire. I'm a 230 lb overweight lost cause who prays for God to just let me die. If someone or something doesn't change, I'm afraid I am going to take my life. I can't go on like this anymore. I have dreamed about winning the lottery for years. But now, even that isn't enough to make me want to live anymore. She is in my heart and I can't bear living like this anymore. God works in mysterious ways. Well, they're so mysterious I can't even see them at all. I have lost all hope and If he doesn't do a miracle in my life soon, I am going to do something I don't want to.

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      Carl 20 months ago


      My name is Carl Peter, i live in Australia, it was six months after, i broke up with my girlfriend, we had a very big problem that was beyond our control. I came to find out that she was having an affair with another guy, so she stayed away from me, after much begging and apologies; she refused to come back to me. i tried all i could to make her believe that i still love her, but she said it was over between us. So i discussed it with a very good friend of mine, who advice me on what to do, she told me that the only way that i can get her back is to visit a spell caster. And the name of the spell caster is Mama Aleeyah. i have always heard about that, but never have the believe. so i was forced to really visit the same spell caster who assured me that i will get my girlfriend back after two days of his spell casting. And she told me to believe that everything will definitely be fine once she is through with her work.

      So that was how she cast the spell and two days after, i was so surprise to see the girl that i haven't seen for six months coming back to my house, and begging for forgiveness. So that was how we both lived a happy life, and till today, our relationship is now stronger than before.

      Thanks Mama Aleeyah for helping me, in bringing back my girlfriend.

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      maria 2 years ago

      I've been in a love relationship with a much younger guy for over 6 years, the last two years have been long distance. Lately we've been fighting a lot and he hasn't been affectionate, attentive and loving to me like he used to be. He broke up with me a few weeks ago for 2 weeks and now we're not talking again. He's texted me 3 times so far in a week but I didn't respond and I plan to not respond for a month. He reassured me there's no one else and just says he can't handle us always fighting. We started fighting when he started treating me like he's not into me anymore. I'm so heartbroken. I feel like I'm dying inside. I can't imagine not having him in my life. He's the love of my life.

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      AMANDA 2 years ago

      I want to thank Dr Lawrence for the love binding spell he did for me that made my ex boyfriend to come back to me within the period of 34hours. I am really grateful to him because the love spell he did for me made my boyfriend to love me more than before and ever since he came back to me he is so committed to me and he shows me so much love and respect. In case you need the help of Dr Lawrence in your relationship you can email him via

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      2 years ago

      He is the only one i will ever truelly love,i wish i cld have been perfect enough for him to love me like all the woman he left me for... Im so broken an dying inside without him in my life!!!

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      lauren 2 years ago

      Hi, I and my ex boyfriend broke up about 7 weeks now. We’ve been together for 4 years. We had so many issues during in our relationship. We got engaged and eventually he changed his mind not to get married soon and told me he doesn’t want kids. It broke my heart. He also told me that culture differences is another problem between us. When we broke up I beg many times. He told he doesn’t want to go back in to our relationship and he wants us to move on. I stayed another 2 weeks with him while I am looking for a new place. we had sex a couple times. He told me he just want us stay as friends.

      When I moved out, he didn’t txt or call but when we each other we are fine talking like a friend. Is there anyway that i can win him back? that was the question i asked my sister and she told me he have had an encouter with the famous love doctor and i contacted him and he prayed for my relationship and my boyfriend came back to me and my relationship was restored and now we will be getting married soon. Please get to know him and ask for his help on ( The love doctor is the best and will help you :)

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      Teresa 2 years ago

      I'm in love with a man that isn't my husband we were for about 6 months I fell in love with him I'm living with my husband but I don't love him I really don't know if this information will help we haven't spoke for three months now I can't stay with a man I don't love it's not fair to him

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      Carrie 2 years ago

      I have had an on-and-off again relationship with the love of my life for more than twelve years. The last break up was a six year span. Two months ago, we had a ten minute conversation and it felt like time had never passed. We've grown, we've changed, and we've both been miserable apart. I think we're finally on the same page and realize, with time, we're meant to be together. It was never forced.... never rushed... we both took time away from each other for various reasons, but in truth, the separations were needed to get to where we are today. I've never been happier and my boyfriend claims the same. We're just enjoying each other, taking one day at a time, living with the notion that outside influences and internal conflicts will not separate us again -- with no pressures regarding the future. Loving one another with respect and appreciation. It took twelve years to find this, but we're finally on the same page. Patience and personal growth, apart and together, is a must! I hope the person reading this finds the same. I've never been more fulfilled and happier.

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      tj 3 years ago

      I lost the love of my life and will try to do about anything to win her back . I loved her 3 kids as if they where my own and being apart from them just rips me apart . Giving up on my family is simply not an option . Thank you for the advice and I hope it works. Thank you

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      kate 3 years ago

      I have be married for nine years my husband and i where living happily and just two months ago my husband ment his ex girl friend whom he had in school days and all of a sudden he started dating her again and he never cared about his family again all he does is to stay late at night and when he come's back he will just lie to me that he hard some fault with his car,there was this faithful day i caught the both of them in a shop,i walked to them and told the girl to stay of my husband girlfriend again,i have suffered too much in the hand of a cheating husband but and when he came home that evening he beat me up even despite the fact that i was pregnant he was just kicking and warning me to never point a finger on his affairs. thank to ancientokija whom i got from a blog site after a long search for a real spell caster i was so happy that he fufilled all what he said in just less than three days after the spell was casted they quareled and he broke up with the girl and his senses are fully back and he now care and love me like he have never done before and if you are their suffering from a broken marriage or your husband or ex cheats? you can email (LAVENDERLOVESPELL@YAHOO.COM) his spells are pure and very powerful without any doubt. or call him +2347053977842. he is the best caster that can help you with your problems.

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      erica 3 years ago

      I want. My love. Back. Again. With. Me

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      belinda 3 years ago

      I love. This. Boy. But. He. Said. He move. On but. O know. Him he's. Not. Like. That

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      Josh 4 years ago

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      angel 4 years ago

      Thank you so much for all your hard work. I really believe that you are real. . I'm so grateful for all your help for getting back my I believe that you have helped me turn my life around and get out of a rather dark and scary place. I can not thank you enough. God bless you....angel