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How To Win Back the Love of Your Life: In Five Easy Steps
- These 5 steps are in no way, shape or form a guarantee that this will work but it is a series of steps that have been proven to work at least once.
- These 5 steps are geared toward getting back someone that was in love with you and you were and are in love with them.
- These steps are designed as a strategy to help not only the person you want back but also to make sure that this relationship is right for you!
- P.S. they may not be as easy as the title may suggest...... But when has anything that has been amazing easy to get?
Step 1: Space
Space can be one of the worst words in the English language, especially when used during a relationship, but it may just be the first step in getting back the one you love. Most likely if your no longer in a relationship with the person then you are probably already not really in contact with them so you just take it a step farther and take time to be separated from that person. This serves multiple purposes, it gives you time to take a look at the relationship and figure out all the bad things that caused the break up and see if those issues can be work passed. This is a crucial step because not only do you give yourself time to determine whether they may be the one it also gives them time to miss all the things that made them love you to begin with. During this step you start the next step, becoming a better you.
Step 2: Improve Your Image
It is easy to think giving someone space is easy, that o yeah I can totally just stop talking to or interacting with this person, it should not be hard at all! The reality though is that giving someone space is usually a bitch, extremely stress full and can cause anxiety. Therefore Step 2 improving your image helps work to divert this stress and anxiety into more positive outlets. You hear all the time that working out releases endorphins but along with working out there are many other activities that can cause this release, such as getting some sun or even just having a good laugh! Doing these activities can promote a better you, by improving your overall health through exercise, getting some color, if that makes you feel you look better, and having a more positive outlook on life. You want to be a better you, because even if that person your trying to get back loved the person you were, they will not complain if you put forth the effort to look and feel better. After this we move on to step 3, the reconnection.
Step 3: The Reconnect
Step 3 is not a step to be taken lightly..... You have given the person space, and you have made yourself into a better more desirable you now though you have to face a possibility. That person might have tried to move on..... or successfully have moved on. This is why its such a big step, you have to almost put yourself out there and lightly reconnect. I do not want to put a time stamp on how long you should wait, but i would give it at least a month, or until you see some noticeable changes from step 2. Reconnecting should never involve the phrase "I have missed you so much" not only does this destroy all the time put into step 1 and 2, it almost puts the person on the defensive. I would advise just starting with the a neutral how have you been. This is the moment when the person will answer with either an opening to start pursing them again or finding out you missed out. If you are so lucky, and the person is not as happy as they thought they would be without you then you now get to move on to step 4, be perfect.
Step 4: Be Perfect
If you've completed steps 1-3 and your still game to win back the one then its your turn to be the one. Perfection is a word that has been misused and is not fully understood.... but if you know the love of your life the way you should then you know how to be perfect for them. Although I would warn you though, do not and I mean do not go overboard with perfection because you do not want to wear yourself out. You do not want to stop being perfect, you just have to, after step 1, know that you want to put forth the effort and continue to put forth that same effort to keep the relationship going because no relationship can work without trying. It should not feel like work though, and if it starts to you have to look back at the relationship and know you want to keep at it because the 5th and final step can by be the hardest, patience and persistence.
Step 5: Patience coupled with Persistence
Patience is the key to getting back the love of your life. Why is this? Its easy nothing ever comes easy or fast, unless you win the lotto.... Regardless it takes persistence, you can not give up, you have to prove to this person that you are the one for them and that it was a mistake to let them go in the first place. NO relationship is healed in a day, or maybe even a week, it may take even as long as a year but, if your willing to go the extra mile you may like what you get at the end of the road.