- Gender and Relationships
How do you find love in Atlanta?
Can true love be found in the "A"?
Obviously this question is rhetorical and cannot be answered. There are way too many possibilities and variables to consider to even finding someone to like. But I do know what I have been told by both single men and women in this town, and you would think that the dating scene is hopeless. Let me see if I understand the score. All the men in Atlanta are either gay, pretending not to be gay or just plain ole womanizing "dogs". And all of the women in this town are either stuck up, jaded with attitudes and/or holding out for the "ballers and shot callers" - because hey, if they can't be happy in love, then they can at least be happy at the mall!!
The fact of the matter is anytime you put the word "all" in any sentence describing a group of people you're already wrong. So, is there a significant gay population in Atlanta? Yes. Are there men in this town that are living in the light as heterosexual, and hiding a male lover in the shadows? Yes. Are there women in this town with impossible and unrealistic quote en quote standards? Yes. But none of this can be seen as an indicator of how good or bad the dating scene is in Atlanta. In fact, based on what I have seen and the conversations that I have had, I have come to one undeniable conclusion - the men and women in this town need to grow up.
A timeless verse from the bible comes to mind, Corinthians 13:11,"When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put childish ways behind me." In order to have a real relationship in this town or the next one must be honest themselves, way before they can be honest with anyone else. The term "bringing our representative" is a saying that is being thrown around a lot. And its premise is that men and women often pretend to be something they are not or show only an aspect of themselves that is not truly representative of their personalities or core values. If this is the case, is there any wonder why so many relationships fail? Simply put, a house built on lies has a shaky foundation, and is destined to collapse.
In my estimation the best way to meet someone is to introduce them to you - the real, unfiltered, flawed you. There is a beauty and confidence in honesty. And if being yourself prevents you from finding true love, it either says a lot about you or the people you are choosing to pursue. Either way, the truth puts you on the path to personal improvement and ultimate happiness in a relationship - both with yourself and someone else. So, how do you find love in Atlanta? I am still not really sure, but I am certain the search both begins and ends with being true to you.