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Ways to know when a guy likes you | take the quiz

Updated on July 11, 2012
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It's very easy to know and notice if a guy likes you even if a guy doesn't talk to you. You just have to look for the signs and follow simple ways to know if a guy likes you.

Shy guys will try to hide their feelings but no matter how they try, girls are naturally born intelligent, girls can feel it using their instinct.

Ways to know a guy likes you


Here are some ways to know a guy likes you. Depending on the type of a guy, his age and profession, your location like school and work place, you will know if he likes you.


  1. Missing Effect - If a guy likes you, he will always look for you. Try avoiding him for a day or two. If he asks for you and he doesn't have any important reason to look for you. For sure, he likes you! That's number one and most effective way to know he is into you.
  2. Look on his eyes and give your best smile - If he smiles back his self confidence are good. After many times of looking at him and giving your best smile wait for him to go and approach you. If he is a shy type, he will get nervous after you look and smile at him, do not worry, just give him enough time and for sure he will approach you.
  3. Compliment his things - Say to him he looks great on that style of shirt, if he always wear the same kind of shirt that means he wants to be good to your eyes. You can also try saying your observation to him, "why are you wearing black color shirt, before you are always wearing white shirt." That question will give him a signal that you like him wearing white shirt. If he stop wearing black and he goes back to wearing white shirt as he use to do, he likes you! Maybe, he just try wearing black shirt to know if you like him wearing that color but since you notice his abrupt change, he will have a conclusion that you still prefer him wearing white shirt.
  4. Tell him you need his help - If you are classmate, schoolmate or you are working in the same work place, you can tell him that you need his help to finished your assignment, work or project. If a guy likes you, you don't need to repeat your request, he is very much willing to help you.


Most of the time, a shy guy will look for some signs or signals you like him and he has a chance to win your heart. Be close to him a little and he will developed his courage to tell his feelings for you.


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If a guy does not talk to you, here's what you can do to know if a guy likes you. Most probably he is not talking to you because he is very shy. Observe and analyze his reactions.


  1. Greet him - If he is a blusher, his face will turn red because of his emotions. If he is not a blusher, look at the reaction of his face, does he rattle and do not know what to do?
  2. Talk to him - Look closely on his eyes, its better if his eyes are big brown, blue or green because you will easily notice if the pupils of his eyes are getting bigger. If the pupils are getting bigger whenever he talks to you, that means he really, really likes looking at you.
  3. Ask him questions - How was his speech? Does he look nervous? If a guy is very shy he will be very nervous talking to you. If he is a blusher, you will see him blushed many times during the conversation. The blushed starts on his ears, observe that. If he left you do not get disappointed because most probably he feel the heat on his face not because he doesn't like talking to you


If you cannot analyze his reactions and his body gestures, leave your comment below, tell your story and I will help you. I am very much willing to answer your question.


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      Janhorner 4 years ago

      Very interesting hub! Nice one for the younger generation.

      Some good little pointers to see if that man is sweet on you or not.

      Love to try it out but I'm 61 (could try it on my other significant self; that's what I call him lol)somehow I think he will just decide I'm having one of my silly 'moments.'

      Nicely written and the quiz is a bonus.

      Jan

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      Sanaa seyf. 4 years ago

      Ummmmh! first thing. im 14 all i wanna say is that when u what to know abaut aman who likes u,loveu,u will see the following new style, to make u impres, smile on his face, gifs,teling u what up, story,help,health and wenever u need him or call him hes never late.....

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      bougainvillea 4 years ago

      Perfect! All you have mentioned are signs that a man likes/loves you. If you call him, he is very excited to see you. If he was like superman, he will fly urgently whenever he hear you call.

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      Kimmiqueen 4 years ago

      Hi I'm 21 and I need help I like this guy who dosent come into my uni much but whenever he's in he's always talking to me and putting he's arm next to mine or knocking my knee with he's , he asked if I had a tattoo on my shoulder through my top and when I said no he was like oh cos it looked like it did . We talk all the time on Facebook the latest is till 3 in the morn please help x

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      bougainvillea 4 years ago

      A guy will never spend so much of his time for you if he doesn't like you. I remember my brother who stay late up at night, until 4 in the morning in front of computer chatting on Facebook with his crush and now he's girlfriend.

      Guy nowadays seldom go to girls house because they can talk and spend time chatting on facebook. But, do not worry, because after he gained enough confidence, he will tell you his feelings. So, wait for a little bit more.

      Based on your short story, I think he really likes you because he touches you, he wants to get closer to you and he spends time talking to you a lot.

      If you said you have tattoo, he will say, can I see it? and that's another way to get even closer to you. This guy is thinking of ways to get closer to you always so watch out for more ^_^

      For now, just relax, make yourself more charming. Smile a lot, laugh at his jokes, make him feel you are very happy to be with him. Touch his arms for 1 second only to make him want for more.

      Always smile to boost his confidence. Make him want you for more... more than just talking and getting closer to you.

      Girls instinct are very powerful, if you can feel that this guy is interested to you, most probably its true.

      There are two things a man can never hide, that he is drunk and he is in love!

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      Kimmiqueen 4 years ago

      Thank you very much for ur help you should write a book :) x

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      bougainvillea 4 years ago

      You are welcome ^_^

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      Alina 4 years ago

      My situation is a bit different and i'm very confused.he works part time where i work&asked for my help with one of his projects.so we exchanged phone no,add each other on facebook&speak every2days.he accepted to come over4dinner&bbq but if i ask him out he's always busy.we only had a cuddle so far but it felt like he was trying to push Me quikly away.he knows i like him because i told him but he doesn't speak about his feelings.there's also

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      Alina 4 years ago

      Forgot to mention that he asked Me if i have a boyfriend and lots of other personal questions.there's only one problem:i'm 31 and his 19 and extremly shy.

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      Alina 4 years ago

      We spend one night just chating on facebook and the conversation became a bit spicy.there are jokes going on at work because it's so obvious i like him&every time i tell him the jokes he has a laugh.when we speak he looks in my eyes for a second

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      Alina 4 years ago

      And than he looks in the ground.i saw him staring at Me a few times but than he looks away.i feel he enjoys my company but i don't know if he sees Me as a friend r it's something more.

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      bougainvillea 4 years ago

      You are very confused because the guy doesn't tell you want he really wants. He spends time chatting on facebook but he is always busy when you ask him out. You are 31, he's 19 and is extremely shy.

      What I can say is forget about those things. Focus on the happy moments when you are with him. Make friends with him and make him enjoy your company. Sooner or later he will developed his feelings for you.

      Staring is one of the strongest sign a shy guy likes you. If he looks away after you notice him, approach him but don't look at him nor say any word, just tap his arms and walk away, it's like saying hello with extra sweetness.

      I think he is interested to you because he asks about your personal life, he asks if you have a boyfriend which is another points for you! He enjoys your company and that's the base level of love and friendship.

      If you really want him I suggest, you talk to him always, tell a joke or funny things to make him laugh and enjoy your company.

      Don't push him to go out with you. Sine he is working part time, he might not have enough money to spend on a date. He might not have good clothing to impress you. Analyze his situation and don't jump to a conclusion that he doesn't like you because he says he's always busy.

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      Alina 4 years ago

      i made a very big mistake 2 weeks ago when i told him that maybe we should keep the distance because i know he doesn`t like me the way i do and that i know i`m not his tipe.all the girls he dated before are models and i`m not confident at all when it`s about the way i look.after this he refused to speek to me,his messages weren`t the same or he wasn`t replying,he was avoiding me,he was looking at me like he was hurt and i did something wrong to him.i tried to speak to him but didn`t say anything about it so we decided to forget about what i said and start all over again.so we r back to normal now.

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      bougainvillea 4 years ago

      You forget about x-factor. Your looks might not be the same with the girls he dated before but you might have the x-factor. He is avoiding you because you hurt his feelings.

      I am glad you're back to normal now. I wish you good luck. Remember this quote "A man is already halfway in love with any woman who listens to him".

      - Brendan Francis

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      Alina 4 years ago

      Thank you so much for all your help...:)

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      bougainvillea 4 years ago

      Welcome ^_^

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      Alina 4 years ago

      Well,he decided to be honest All of the suden at work,after not talking to Me whole morning and with a very cold look he just told Me that i oviously know that he doesn

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      Alina 4 years ago

      Well,after not talking to Me All morning he decided to be honest with Me at work and with a very cold look in his eyes he just said well u oviously know that i don't feel the same way.i became very upset and he started to feel guilty so he text Me Saying that he didn't want to hurt Me and that he's sorry but he thought i knew.why he did this now i don't know.did i really missunderstood All the signs?why this time he was ok looking Me in the eyes?

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      bougainvillea 4 years ago

      I have this feeling that the reason was because of your job. As far as I know, there are companies that doesn't allow employee relationships.

      Women are clever and have very nice instinct. I don't believe you misunderstood the signs.

      If he doesn't have special feelings for you, why he felt so guilty? He even text you. If he doesn't care about you, he won't be bothered.

      You try to do this and evaluate his actions. Don't look at him, pretend as if you don't see him, ignore him, if he ask you about job related issues, just answer him. Don't answer his text and personal messages. If after several days he still send you text and messages saying sorry and blah blah, ask him, "why are you doing this to me?" He might say the real reason.

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      Alina 4 years ago

      Unfortunately i already replied to his message after a day and told him how i felt.i don't think he would Ever talk to Me again.i'll see how he is tomorrow at work but right now i fell so hurt that i can't even look at him.

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      bougainvillea 4 years ago

      It's ok, for now, observe his actions and don't talk to him. Make a way to boost your confidence back. Change your hair style, do some exercise, watch funny movies. Feel good about yourself.

      If he doesn't talk to you again, accept it. Everything happens for good. There's always a brighter day.

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      Alina 4 years ago

      I was getting ready to face him again but he called at work saying he has 2 projects to finish for college and he will not be in for 2 weeks.I feel like is all my fault.He`s sending me messages and texted me saying he`s coming for my BBQ but i don`t know why he doesn`t want to face me till than.He just droped the bomb that he doesn`t feel the same and now he acts like i hurt him.I did say that my feelings for him vanished when he said that to me. i feel i hurt him saying that.but if he doesn`t feel anything why is he hurt?

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      bougainvillea 4 years ago

      He looks hurt because what he said to you was a lie. He likes you but I think there's something bothering him. Maybe he is trying to deny to himself his feelings for you.

      Action speaks louder than words. He say he doesn't feel the same way but in his eyes he is hurt more than you. He is pushing you away but he can't.

      Give him some time to think. The next time he looks in your eyes, look at him also and give him simple smile.

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      Alina 4 years ago

      we start talking to each other and everything seems to be the way it used to be before.on saturday he comes for a BBQ at my place and i really,really want to kiss him.would that be to early after what happened?

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      bougainvillea 4 years ago

      Yes I guess it's too early. Just enjoy being with him, touch his arms occasionally and always smile. Kissing will come on the right time.

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      Hopeless Romantic 4 years ago

      Hi. You seem to be good at interpreting a guys actions/words. Maybe you can help me out a bit. I've been friends with my guy best friend for 4 years. He moved away about 2 years ago. Only one time, right before he moved away, did we express mutual feelings for one another. After moving there, we never really talked about it directly, but he indirectly has made assumptions of marrying me in the future. Again, he's not direct. Let me give you an example... He was taking a class where they were talking about personalities and which ones go well together for marriage. He told me over Skype how every time he would read the personality traits that would make a good match w/his own personality, he said it described me and asked God if that was confirmation that I was the one. But he has never again told me he likes me or has feelings for me. The problem with him is, he's so bad at keeping in touch. For a while he'll be in touch often and then he'll disappear for 2 months and then reappear again. This is something that makes me extremely angry about him. Just when I think we are getting even closer in our relationship, it's like he scares off and distances himself. A long time ago (in the beginning of our friendship), he did say to me that sometimes he felt that our connection was so intimate, he would get scared and that made him shut down. I don't understand why. For me it's the opposite. If I'm getting closer to someone I like, I want to continue spending more time with them. I don't understand why he gets scared and backs off.

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      Hopeless Romantic 4 years ago

      Anyway, when he disappears, I usually don't search for him either, because I get so angry that he keeps popping in and out of my life. So when he reappears, I kinda give him the cold shoulder or very vague answers to his questions. This is the longest we've been absent from each other's lives. We started talking again about 2 weeks ago. This entire week we've been in touch again. Something that struck me about him this time is that when we skyped I saw that he genuinely cares for me. He didn't make those usual indirect references to wanting something w/me, but instead was more serious about our conversation. I had expressed to him I wanted to have a budget spreadsheet, but that I didn't know how to do it. He volunteered and said he would do one for me. Usually, when he offers help, he does it on his own agenda (even when he has expected in the past for me to be there for him RIGHT NOW). Well, he said he would do it that evening after he got back from an appointment. I thought to myself that he wouldn't get to it until probably either the next day or even not until the weekend. To my surprise, he started working on it as soon as he got home. By the time he was close to finishing the spreadsheet, he called me to give me some explanations about it. I was actually quite surprised that he was working on it, especially that late at night. He said he would have everything done in 15 minutes and would then e-mail it to me. I left my phone in my room not really expecting that he would call again (he's not a phone person either). I went in my mom's room to show her some videos on YouTube and completely forgot that my friend was going to email the spreadsheets. When I remembered, there was the email and he had said in the email to call him back so that I could open the file and then he could explain/clarify certain things for me. Since it was super late by the time I got to the e-mail, I though maybe he was already sleeping, because it had been a while since he had emailed that to me. When I finally went into my room, ready to go to bed, I noticed that he had called me twice and even sent a message. Now, if you knew this guy, this is VERY unusual for him to do. I've known him 4 years and in those 4 years, he's NEVER EVER called me twice and then sent me a text. He's just not like that with anyone, not even me... except this one time.

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      hopelessromantic7 4 years ago

      For whatever reason, I thought I try to call him, doubting that he would be up. But to my surprise, he picked up right away--the phone didn't even ring. Which again--UNUSUAL as he waits til the very last minute to answer his phone! My first reaction was, "oh my gosh, what are you doing up?" He said he had tried going to bed and couldn't fall asleep, because he needed to figure out a way how to do something on the spreadsheet that he had forgotten how to do. And he prayed that God help him figure it out, otherwise he would never be able to go to sleep if he didn't. So he got up and actually did figure out how to do the thing he was telling me about. I couldn't believe he was really devoting THAT much time to doing something for me. That really demonstrated to me how much he cares for me. And even the next day, he was still fixing things, so he actually ended up sending me a revised copy of the same spreadsheet again, by like 12 noon. I was in shock and I just couldn't believe it. But again, that's when I realized that he really cares for me, but he won't tell me to my face. I don't understand why he is being this helpful to me... and maybe not the helpful part, but devoting that much time to help me. In the past he has done something quick and kept it moving. He has actually dedicated the time to doing something for me this time. But still, I have questions about his feelings for me.

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      hopelessromantic7 4 years ago

      Another thing I should mention is that his mom adores me. She has told me in numerous occasions that she wants me for her son. She has also said she knows him and I will get married one day. She loves me and finds me to be the most beautiful girl on the planet. Every time I spoke to her on the phone she would always tell me "oh it's my daughter-in-law!" From some time she hasn't done that anymore. I think he has told her to stop saying that to me. But every time I talk to her on the phone, she will always ask me "are you dating?". But will not tell me I'm her daughter-in-law anymore or that I will marry her son.

      The truth is, I truly love him. As much as I get angry with him for popping in and out of my life, I miss him and I want to be with him. It makes me so happy to be able to talk to him. I love his company. I feel like he's my soulmate, but I don't know that he feels the same about me. He confuses me... Sometimes I think that he does like me and most of the time, I'm lost. I wish he would tell me something...

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      bougainvillea 4 years ago

      I read your story and I believe you are very important to him. I understand your feelings when you get so angry with him because I've been there. You will get used to it because he will never change. He will pop in and out but as my husband said to me when we were boyfriends. "Without calling or texting doesn't mean I don't care, I'm just like this" and no matter how he tried he will just go back to his attitude.

      His mom doesn't tell you those things because your best friend tell his mom to stop saying that. He is afraid that you will think he is using your friendship for his advantage.

      I believe your best friend really likes you more than a friend but he cannot say the right word for you. His mom knows the feeling of his son that's why he was teasing both of you.

      Woman's instinct are almost always accurate. If you think he likes you, that's correct. Your best friend and my best friend before who became my husband now are very few in this world. ^_^ You are very lucky to found him, just hold on ^_^

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      hopelessromantic7 4 years ago

      Not sure that I can wait for a man. I'll wait for the one who is willing to pursue me and do what he must in order to win me over and sweeping me off my feet. Men who can't pursue later on don't appreciate what they have. Not only have I seen it happen before, but it already happened to me once. It ended in divorce.

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      Confused.com 4 years ago

      Ok well Im 16 and the guy is about 20/21. He's a family friends and in the past 4 years we have only met 4 times,but when ever we do it's fun and i do like him but I think he likes me to. 

      I do catch him staring at me,laughs all the times when around me and listens to everything i say with a lot of interest. He even talks about stuff I like. But is he just being a good host?:s yesterday there was a dinner at his house,my sister thinks he doesn't like me (but she's not too go in this stuff).

      Anyhow i can tell he's a bit nervous the first half an hour when im there and he notices everything like at the dinner table everyones busy with their own stuff but he keeps smiling at me..even in the end it was a bit awkward  when he was saying bye but it was cute... 

      Last time we met it was my sister who told me he was into me but I really have no idea...=/ Im not  the type of girl who thinks all guys are after her.

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      anonymous 4 years ago

      i am 13 now...hes 2 yrs elder

      2 me.......he often tells me dat he misses me...and he always talks about my eyes and my hair...he notices every single change in my luk........i dunno wat he wants.....

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      bougainvillea 4 years ago

      He likes you but he can't say it directly. I think, he finds you very pretty and charming.

      If he compliments you, give him the sweetest smile if you like him, if you doesn't like him, just ignore and don't prolonged conversations.

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      kashish 4 years ago

      I m a muslim girl he is in my relation he looks at me and i look him he looks away some times he looks my eys i thought hel likes me but i send him friend request from fake i d he tolks me i told him i m his relative and i thought he understood my name i m sure he understand who i m but he told me tell your name u don't tell me ur name then how can i khow i became angry and then told him by he told me it your wish what is its mean i can't understand i m sure he khow who i m but why he did it?

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      bougainvillea 4 years ago

      Hi kashish, guys are really like that. They are very different with girls. Girls can read signs, body language because girls have very good instinct. Guys on the other hand want direct to the point, tell them what you want so they can understand.

      I guess, he is asking for your name because he wants to be sure its you. Maybe he knows its you but he needs more clarification.

      Don't be angry and take it slowly.

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      sona 4 years ago

      i am 16.i came to know that a cute guy in my school [of my age] is attracted towards me but i can't make it sure.he always stares at me .from the time he saw me ,he is continously looking at me and i could see a sparkling joy in his face when i am around him.it seems he always follows my pathways and care for me. i came to know he always talk about my beauty,character and talent to his friends.he is talented ,cute and has a very very good character but a little shy towards girls.i think i am falling in deep love with him.i don't know what to do.how can i make sure he sincerely love me?please help me.

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      bougainvillea 4 years ago

      Hi, this is what you can do, smile always when he looks at you. If he talks to you, ask follow up question to prolonged the conversation. Always smile and laugh on his jokes. If you are always talking to each other and you make him feel you are happy to be with him, he will become at ease to you and sooner he will say his true intentions. He needs a lot of courage and confidence because he is shy.

      Read this article - http://www.squidoo.com/how-to-make-the-guy-make-th...

      You can feel it if someone really likes you. You can see it in their eyes.

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      Veronica10123 4 years ago

      im 13 and there is this guy i really like, and were are from the same place, and play the same sports, and sometime when we are in class i see him looking at me and when get up to talk or ask a question he seems real interested in what i say, and there is this one time that he asked me if i could help him with some homework (which was accually really easy and couldve asked the person on the other side) and after i showed him how to do it he asked me if it was right. but there is this other girl who is throwing her self at him and im worried he might be falling for her

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      tiffany 4 years ago

      I really like this guy I'm working with I known him for a week and a half and we became great pals real quickly I've been told he likes me and is flirting with me by the way he teases me and when he dances he smiles at me or walks over to me and helps me on a project could it be true that he likes me back?

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      bougainvillea 4 years ago

      Hi veronica10123, don't worry about that girl because guys are different from girls. Guys are not easily fall in love. If he really likes you and he feels that you like him too, he will just ignore the other girl.

      He might fall for the other girl if you will push him away. So, just continue your attitude. Smile a lot, make him at ease to you. Always listen to him and make him feel you enjoy his company.

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      bougainvillea 4 years ago

      Hi tiffany, If you feel this guy has a special feelings for you, and the people around notices it too, there is a 100% chance that its true! They said that, there are two things a man cannot hide, first one is when he is inlove and when he is drunk.

      When he flirts at you, flirt back. You are lucky because this guy is not shy. He can show his feelings for you. Flirt a little and you will see, he will confess his feelings for you.

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      Veronica10123 4 years ago

      ok ill see how it goes thnx! (:

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      aadya 4 years ago

      a guy named ujjwal was studying in my coaching.now he had left,earlier he tried to talk to me, he used to look at me,he tried to make me fun and did everything to attend the in which i was studying but in between bcoz of some problems i had to leave the coaching but when i joined again i think he was quite changed he looks at me but sometimes he used to hide behind his friends when i m around him ,he tries to talk to me but rarely,he asks my book but returns it when i ask and i don't know if he likes a girl of his class named priya.

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      bougainvillea 4 years ago

      Hi aadya, have you told him the reasons why you left the coaching? I think he was hurt. Maybe he changed because he is afraid that you will left him again.

      What you can do is, talk to him or talk to your friends, and tell what happened. If you talk to his friends, make sure he can hear your story so he can understand. You do not need to tell him the whole story, just give him the background.

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      Alina 4 years ago

      i need more help because i feel i`m losing my mind with this guy.i posted a while ago:i`m 31 and his 19 i hope you remember it.he came for the BBQ,we had 2 cuddles,he got drunk and start holding hands with my best friend.we argued the next day but we talked about it.he said he`s sorry and that he knows it was wrong what he did.i told him i can back off and he can be with her if he wants.he said he doesn`t want that and that he wants us to be friends like before.was fine for 2 weeks that he start ignoring me.when we spoke about it he told me that i behave like we are dating and there`s something more than a friendship and this makes him stand back.i gave him some space and stoped asking for an explanation if he didn`t reply to a text or didn`t call me for a while.we were back to normal till today when he told me he is coming over for dinner even if it`s just me and him but it`s only a friendly dinner because he`s interested in someone else but i shouldn`t worry about it because it`s only in the beginning.i told him that i can back off so he can be with her and he said i don`t have to because he likes talking to me.than with a smile on my face i said to him that i know him and i know his game and i can do games if he wants me to.he start smiling and with a smile on his face he said this is not a game.my reaction to what he said about the other girl was by telling him that i have guys intereste in me too.he`s reply was:Guys?What guys?he`s body language changed because i told him about it and now he doesn`t look at me at all just when he`s close to me to talk.he had a tattoo done that had a girl in it but he told me not to worry about it because there`s no girl.I don`t know what to think anymore.i feel like i just wanna stop seeing him because i can`t pretend to be just a friend anymore.

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      Alina 4 years ago

      i know i`m a very difficult person and sometimes i wonder why he put up with my jelousy,maddness,etc for such a long time when others would`ve being gone a long time ago.i know he doesn`t want to loose me as a friend and that our friendship is very important to him.every time we had an issue we spoke about it and sort it out there and than he even prommised me he will change his behaviour twords me because he doesn`t want to loose me as a friend&that change brought us closer.i just don`t want to be stuck in that friend zone forever.

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      aaliz 6666 4 years ago

      now, this guy i really like is way too shy , v r classmates and play games 2gether now i jus wanna know if he likes me , smile doesn't work ! and rarelly getta c each other after school , but chats with me on facebook , n to b frank they r all ordinary chats like friends do , n + he dosen wish me mornin or night , but some times he really gets close to me , help me ,how can i find if he really likes me !! ):

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      bougainvillea 4 years ago

      Hi aaliz 6666, take a deep breath and relax. If a guy spends time with you, more than other girls that means you are special. That also means, he enjoys being with you. If a guy doesn't like you, he will never waste his time to you. Remember that :-) Chatting in facebook is the first step. Shy guys will never say their feelings directly unless, he feels confident and he is sure that the feelings are mutual. For now, whatever he do and say, make him feel you like it so he will continue to the next level and sooner he will say his feelings.

      You mentioned he sometimes gets closer to you... and then what's next? Do you feel something weird? Observe his actions for sure you will see something different.

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      bougainvillea 4 years ago

      Hi Alina, I am sorry to hear that. I think your friend is in denial to himself. He likes you and he doesn't want to loose you. He likes you but he can't commit. He knows that if your friendship goes to the next level and if he did something wrong, he might lose you forever. He doesn't want that to happen so he accept that it is better to be friends for now.

      The only problem I can see here is he is hurting your feelings. I think it is better to talk to him or send him a message. Tell him that you can't stand your situations anymore. You feelings goes deeper and deeper everyday. But warning, Only say that words to him if you can lose him. Because two things might happen, first, you might push him away or second, he will commit himself.

      If you don't want him to lose, here's what you can do. Just enjoy the moments you are together. Never ask, never demand, never fight. Just enjoy what you got. Let him enjoy your company and wait until his feelings grow. Act as if you are just a friend or a best friend.

      Have you wonder why guys fall inlove with their bestfriend? Why guys love fall in love with bi*ches? One reason is because they never demand.

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      Alina 4 years ago

      He came over for dinner and it was amazing.the conversation was flowing,we had a laugh,he was with me in the kitchen while i was cooking,Saying that he wants to stay with me while cooking.he asked me about the guy i said is interested in me:how is he and when i'll see him again.but he had a very cheeky smile on his face.i asked him to play a game with me:each one of us had to say 5things that we like about each other.he said he likes that i'm honest and opened,family oriented,driven,he likes my eyes because i express a lot of my feeling through them and that even if i had a lot of one night stands i can stop when in a relationship because his ex couldn't.he told me that he does all the talking with the girl is interested in and that he can't find any more subjects to talk about.i told him he doesn't have that problem with me and he replied:because ur talking.so i don't think i should be worried about her at All.before i took him at the bus stop it was an akward moment.he was standing very close to me like he was trying to hug me or something but he was just standing there.so i moved and took him to the bus stop.when the bus arrived he gave me a cuddle and i kissed his cheek.he looked at me and leaned tword me but i don't know if he wanted to kiss me or kiss my other cheek.asked him to text me when he gets home just to know his allright.he text me thanking me about the night Saying it was cool and the food amazing.now i feel like Baking Off a bit,talking and seeing him less.just to let him do the chasing.i don't know if that a good idea considering he admited that his insecure,has no confidence and scared of rejection.

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      bougainvillea 4 years ago

      Alina, you're doing the right move! :) This is a great start for you. Just let him do the chasing and make him feel you like and enjoy it :) I like what's going on now, keep it up!

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      akshatha krishana 4 years ago

      im really in a fixed situation its like he is my best frnd .. but from 11 standard to 12 standard starting .. their was not much changes in his feelings of friendship latter on starting of 12 standerd he started calling me his girl friend and both if took it just for fun but actually he used to care for me as a real boy friend .. after some days he just stoped calling me so ... he left it foer a few days and then started doing it again and then stoped recently he started flirting with me i relly don't know what is he up to

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      bougainvillea 4 years ago

      Hi akshatha krishana :) You are not alone experiencing that kind of situation. We want guys to do the things we like continuously, but unfortunately most guys are just like that, when they found something, they forget us but after going back to reality, they will again feel the love and need to have us on their side. Have you watched "Ted" the movie? That's a comedy love story.

      One thing is for sure, your best friend really likes you. He is just into something that makes him busy for a while or into something that is very important he almost forgot you. (like in "Ted" the movie) But, that doesn't mean he doesn't care. Guys are just like that, they are different to most girls because most girls, like me and maybe you, when we are inlove, we make the man the center of our life.

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      akshatha krishna 4 years ago

      yeah i know he sort of likes me ..... but im not able to make it a fixed point i really really want an answer to that question ... he is not like the same the other moment ... one class he jus keeps talking to me and the other class he dosent even look at me ... i want to know if he is controlling his feelings

      ???

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      bougainvillea 4 years ago

      He's not controlling his feelings, but he is evaluating your reactions. He will do that thing and then he will stop because he is afraid of your possible reactions. Are you flirting with him? Are you showing your feelings too?

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      akshathakrishna 4 years ago

      i don't flirt with him but yeah i just agree to what he says .. and today we were walking home together id asked him to go to a movie its like we are a group of four we always go together he said no he has to read .. so today i was telling him that ill be going to the movie with my another best friend who is a boy .. and suddenly something made us talk about the birthdays .. he told i don't remember any ones birday usually except mine and a girl called whose bday is jus 3 months after his ... so i asked who is it he was like it is reveti and he told that she had texted him recently ... and all he even told me that they were very close its like he always had to comment about his dress and all .. and one day it so happened that he told that she was lukin vry cute and she was like is it ??/ than kiss me once .. i really don't have any idea why he told me so .. he was tellin me that he had indirectly proposed her and all ... now again i jus told it to my mom she was like he is telling all these things just to see ur reactions .. but im not sure i sometimes think that he would have told it to me as a good friend also... plz plz let me know how can i know what is their in his heart

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      akshatha krishna 4 years ago

      he remembers his birday and that girls mine in the sense his own bday ...

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      akshathakrishna 4 years ago

      and whatever he told about the chat was true....

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      bougainvillea 4 years ago

      Your mom is 100% right, he is just making you jealous, he wants to see your reactions so he will know your feelings. The fact that he is making you jealous, that means he really likes you. But if you want to know what is in his heart, you have to flirt with him a little, you will never know his feelings unless you get more closer. Show him you like him too, you don't have to say a thing, you can use your smile, body gestures and actions. If he is making you jealous, why not show him, you're a little jealous? If he knows you like him too, he will confess his true feelings.

      If you want to know what is in his heart, and you want to know it urgently, you have to help him say it and show it to you because if he is a shy guy, for sure, it will takes time to build his courage.

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      akshatha krishna 4 years ago

      he isn't a shy guy ... and yeah .. i remember him telling long back like when he was calling me his girl friend for fun i very well remember him tellin me that he has had so much of fun for the first time ... he ment to say bein gf and bf he had had that much of fun for the first time ... so i believe that whatever he told me was not the complete truth i felt he added up a few things .. and not to forget he isn't a shy person...

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      bougainvillea 4 years ago

      Ohh.. he was trying to express his feelings for you by telling jokes so if you refuse or when you get angry, he can easily say "that's only a joke" but if you take it more seriously, he is very lucky. There is a saying "jokes are half meant" did you know that? Your best friend is using a joke to express his feelings and evaluate your reactions. Based on your reactions, he can have the signal to push or stop his feelings for you. Since he is using a joke, why don't you ride on his jokes? Why not show him you enjoyed that too? If you do that, you're boosting his confidence and you're pushing him to be brave and have the courage to tell his true feelings and intentions.

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      akshatha krishna 4 years ago

      thnak you so much ..:) so u really thin that he loves me...??

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      bougainvillea 4 years ago

      yes absolutely! he really loves you :-)

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      Elizabeth 4 years ago

      Im 16! There's this boy who sits behind me in class, and he's new to our school this year! I really like him! He never speaks to me first, but when I say something to him he always seems eager to speak back. Sometimes I catch him staring but since he sits behind me it's kind of hard to tell if he stares. He is always shy around me but he jokes with people that sit close to me both guys and girls, an it's always in a tone I can hear. He is very polite to me. He always lays his head on his desk and his head almost touches my back, and his feet are always under my desk. DOes he like me?

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      avantika 4 years ago

      there's a guy in my school n i love him deeply. but first i used to restrict my movements and then suddenly one day i caught him staring at me from a very long distance. from then on he secretly began following me wherever i go. whenever i pass his class he leaves all his work to turn around and look at me and keeps on looking at me. many a times I've noticed that his friends keep on telling him when i was passing their class. in the tuition also his friends teased him saying out loud that he wanted to sit near me and then he would blush. he also kept on tracking my daily routine and tried to cross my ways in school and tuition. but now I've heard that he says many things at my back but continues to stare at me. please tell me what should i do? we both haven't talked since he saw 3 months ago. i feel very scared to approach him. he refuses to take any help offered by me. but still his friends behave the same odd way. what can i understand from his behavior and how can i make him confess his true feelings for me?? please help...

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      bougainvillea 4 years ago

      Hi Elizabeth, Yes he likes you! He wants your attention that's why he jokes with the people around you. Since he is doing that, why don't you smile or laugh with his jokes? You don't have to join them but make a simple glance and smile or laugh. That way, your boosting his confidence and you're showing him you like him too..

      I can imagine your feelings and excitement. He is trying to touch you indirectly, he lays his head on his desk because that's a good way to get closer to you. This is the same strategy used by my classmates way back in highschool. I think this is guy's instinct when they like someone!

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      bougainvillea 4 years ago

      Hi Avantika, This guy likes you but he is very shy. His friends knew that and maybe all of the people in their class. When a guy likes a girl, the closest friends and family member usually notices that because of his change in behavior and actions.

      Regarding this thing "but now I've heard that he says many things at my back but continues to stare at me." Don't worry about that. He says that thing to make his friends stop teasing both of you.

      To make him confess for his true feelings, you have to start all over again. Don't be afraid to approach him. Start by smiling, and then by saying "hi, how are you" when you pass by. You don't have to start and expect conversations after saying hi and hello. Conversations will go smoothly after some time. Do not restrict your movements because if you restrict your movements, you are pushing him away, you're telling him indirectly that you don't like him. Remember he is a shy type of guy, he will do everything to hide his feelings. What you can do is to build his confidence slowly. Make him feel you like him too.

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      akshathakrishna 4 years ago

      hey..!!! i really need your help.. hope u rememba my problem ....im besically an indian so we had a festival today .... id invited all my friends mom .. we have some rituals and stuff.. i told my friends to come home too... so my best friend had also come ..... .. i could never see a sign today which told me that he still likes me or something ... he behaved normal ... . so how do i nnoe what's in his mind ... my heart truly speaking is in a big confusion ... iv a confusion in myself if iv to luv him or not .. plz tell me something....but somewhere in the corner of my heart i wish he likes me and i think he sees me a little more than a friend but today i seriously cudn find any such sign

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      bougainvillea 4 years ago

      Yes I remember your problem akshathakrishna. Don't worry if you cannot see a sign or if he is acting very normal. Maybe he is just hiding his feelings for you because you have lots of visitors.

      If you want to know what's in his mind, talk to him. Use the festival as a bonding moment. You can bond with him together with your other friends. Act simple but be sure to be always near him. :-)

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      akshathakrishna 4 years ago

      actually he is my collage friend ... id invited three collage friends and one of my school friend who was a gal.... it so happened that we talked about fighting i usually don't fight with anyone .. and he always asks me y u don't f8 with me .. and on that my mom told it delibrately that i f8 with the one whom i like the most .. at n8 he texted me and simply took out a f8.. i was very much talking to the ollage friends only more than my shool friend but he started telling me that u were only talkin to er .. worried bout her only and all which was completely not true

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      bougainvillea 4 years ago

      hehe.. your friend is really intelligent. Maybe he is thinking that after the fight, reconciliation can help both of you to express your feelings. What did you reply to his text? He seems jealous. Maybe he is expecting that during the festival, you will talk talk to him more, more than your other friends. Next time he act like that, you can text him like this, "are you jealous?"

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      akshathakrishna 4 years ago

      i thought he wanted to fight with me cse my mom tol that i f8 with the one i luv so i tot he wanted a reconfermation tat i fight with him so tat itl prove tat i luv him 2

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      bougainvillea 4 years ago

      Actually you have a point. Maybe he is thinking that way. Or maybe he is just plain jealous last day. By the way, do you fight with him? You can fight with him to prove your mom's point.

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      akshathakrishna 4 years ago

      i don't actually fight with people

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      bougainvillea 4 years ago

      Then, don't fight with him :) You have to be true to yourself because your friend likes you for what you are. Whatever the reason is, if he is jealous or he wants you to fight with him to know if you like him most, that only shows that he wants to know what you feel. He is looking for ways to know your feelings for him. I guess, you should let yourself express your emotions( verbal or body gestures), don't hide your feelings.

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      akshathakrishna 4 years ago

      yeah but i fear if he still has the same feelings.. that is y i just hold myself back .. i feel if he isnt comfortable it wont be good..??

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      bougainvillea 4 years ago

      Love / infatuation doesn't fade away easily especially when you always interact with each other. I'm sure you will know if he is comfortable or not with your moves or action. You have to give it a try. Or if you don't have the guts, you have to wait for him to do the first move. You can read real people experiences here...https://hubpages.com/relationships/should-a-girl-m...

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      akshathakrishna 4 years ago

      oh tq ... it happened that yesterday also v met ... but i don't noe wen eva he chats with me he always has a complaints .... and dosent eva actually reply to messages

      on that he never responds saying ... love u too or anything but is quit possesive wen eva he texts

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      Safia 4 years ago

      I have a guy friend the problem that I don't know how he feels about me some times I feel like he likes me sometimes I feel like he hates me and sometimes I feel like he thinks of me a really good friend teases me makes fun of me calls me by a nickname but not a nice one he brags in front of me and tells me how awesome he is and how he is a player that girls go crazy four him but he tells me that he dose not cheat on them he flirts with other girls in front of me and tells me that he wishes that I was more like those girls and jokes about how ugly I'm and how I'm just like a guy he doesn't help me and he doesn't want any other guy to help or even speak to me only if the guy was not his friend we can idly talk if we are in a group but not by our self because it will get awkward unless we are joking about dating and how we are in love with each other in the other hand he always spend his time with me he can't stand that I'm upset from him he cares a bout my opinion on him and on girls he never lie to me he begs me to hang out with him he deafens me he open the door four me some times and he always speak to his mother about me but I'm not sure that I'm the only girl he speaks to her about some times he tells me that I'm better then other girls he begs me to move to his group in college he jokes with me in a flirty way he jokes about dating me he calls me at night he always smile at me across the room and winks at me and he doesn't talk about his current girlfriend and when I ask him about it he avoiDed me so why the hell he treats me that way?

      This is the stuff I'm sure that I'm the only girl he treats this way

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      bougainvillea 4 years ago

      Hi akshathakrishna, don't worry if the guy doesn't say I love you, or he is not always giving reply to messages on time, because, many guys are like that, that's quite normal to them. They are very different to girls. But, observe and think carefully when they are quite possessive. If a guy doesn't like you, he will never care about you. :-)

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      bougainvillea 4 years ago

      Hello Safia, Thanks for dropping by, Why he treats you that way? Because he likes you! He's doing everything to catch your attention. He doesn't hate you, actually he is crazy for you. He is saying you're ugly so you will lose your self confidence and do not look for a boyfriend. I have a suggestion, the next time he flirts with other girls in front of you (to make you jealous) and will say, "I wish you were more like those girls" tell him, you wish! I will only do that to someone serious, and then wait for his reactions.

      All the things you've mention only proves he likes you Safia. Maybe he is just afraid to tell he likes you because he might loose you. Why don't you flirt with him in a nice way. Why don't you give him a signal you like him too?

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      bougainvillea 4 years ago

      Hi confused,com, the spam filter of hubpages stop your comment because of your username containing .com and bring your comment for moderation. Just now I read it. By the way, its more than 5 weeks ago and I am not sure if you still want to hear my opinion :-)

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      akshathakrishna 4 years ago

      hey .... he is not talking to me that frequently .. hes always with the other girls ... even when i start t little flirt he dosent actually continue it ... and morover .. we don't talk to each other caz he always expects me to start the convo ... and i dnt like doin it always ....plz telll me sumtin i can make a guess if im still in his heart .. i think im no more in his heart..:(

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      bougainvillea 4 years ago

      HI akshathakrishna , are you ready to give up on him? You can continue to flirt a little until he notices it. He might not have any reaction because he is thinking if what he see and feel is true. If you really like him don't look at the obstacles to win his heart. Just continue it and stop when you think nothing is happening after several times.

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      aisha 4 years ago

      hii...m 16 n i need help.there is a guy whom i m in love with since std 8th.i used to see him in my tutions n dnt know when i started feeling for him.now in my std 11th when i took admissions in his school, i at least wanted him to know that i love him.when he got to know all this he kind of became vry sweet to me.he used to come to my floor every now and then..we could never talk coz both of us are equally shy.so i wrote a letter to him which he returned.but he never changed.he continues to stare at me every now and then..tries to peep in my class room..etc..i think there is something which is stopping him but he shows it is his ego..i wish to tlk to him but i m toooo... shy for that....i love him a lot and fear losing him...plz help me out so that m able to make him mine....plz...

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      bougainvillea 4 years ago

      Hi Aisha, you can boost your confidence by starting saying hi, hello and how are you with a sweet smile. If you're going to a party, invite him over. Start by making him your friend, and then close friend. Facebook is very useful now, add him as a friend, likes his status and post. Chat with him when you saw him online or if he likes online rpg games, you can try to play with him online. Look for his past time, his favorite things to do, his favorite sports, movie or celebrity and that can be a great start of conversations.

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      aisha 4 years ago

      thanx but to tell you he is very inactive on fb.he is most of the tym glued to his books.ive tried asking him of a few things to which he responds but after the letter case things have become more impossible....he is tooo... serious types and i hate this...i feel like shouting at the top of my voice that i love him sooo vry much....!!!!!!!!!!!!!plz help...

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      bougainvillea 4 years ago

      Ah.. I think he is very concentrated on his studies that's why he is not giving you much attention. Do you think he is ready for a relationship? What is his citizenship? If he is a Japanese, you can give him special chocolates and sweets to express your feelings. If he came from a conservative family or he belongs to a religion that have a teaching that he must not have a girlfriend from a different religion or sect, or if he needs to maintain high grades, he will just stare at you, no more than that. You have to talk to him little by little, know more about him until you know what approach you need to make him yours.

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      aisha 4 years ago

      thanks..!ill try this tmoro...!i think i can talk to him..after all...HE IS SOOO... ADORABLE...!!!!!!!!!!

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      aisha 4 years ago

      thanx...!i will try talking to him...!:):):)

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      gcnatipunk 4 years ago

      I really need help. I fell in love with an old classmate, he is 24 and I am 27. He is very shy but is the kindest beautiful man ever. I asked him out in february but he never answered my message. I waited for a week and reminded him about it and nothing. He acted like if I didn't exist. Since I'm so emotional I threw a fit on fb and told him that if he didn't want me he could at least told me. n told him it hurt me every time he ignored me. I kept asking him

      The next day he apologized and told me he was confused. I always he was shy but never really expected him to be that shy. I tri confused

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      bougainvillea 4 years ago

      Hi gcnatipunk, give him enough time to think because he is confused. Fb seems to be a good way of communication, I guess you can continue keeping in touch with him through fb until the time he builds enough self-confidence.

      If you can, send him a private message on fb asking why he is confused. Confused about you, by himself or what? I think he will give you the answer through fb.

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      gcnatipunk 4 years ago

      Sorry I guess it didn't post the whole message. Well I kept trying to make plans to hang out with him and he agreed but for some reason he will flake every time and he would start ignoring me. He treats me differently than other girls. Months passes by and I just got frustrated and started getting attached so I texted him and told him that I needed to stay away from him because it hurt every time he ignored me. I told him that if he wasn't interested he should have at least let me know. This was the first time I wished he would have ignored me but he didn't. He texted back telling me that the only thing we should be interested in was our careers and that he just didn't have time for anything. Like usual I threw a fit and told him I loves my job and I was very focused and I had time to do all that I do and more. He told me that if I needed him he would be there for me but I told him I was not ready to be friends. He kept insisting that we should stay friends but I just couldn't. I hurt his feeling pretty badly :(. I deleted him from fb and disconnected myself from him completely. I couldn't take the pain of regret and by the sixth day I texted him telling him I wanted my friend back. He was hurt and not taking the bait. I felt horrible and I apologized and accepted to just be friends. He told me not to worry that things were okay between us. He took me back and I felt better.

      He started posting stuff about love for a special someone but I just didn't want to assume if it was because of me. Three weeks later I met a guy that worked with him and invited me to a set for a music video. And the first person I see is my shy boy. I smiled the biggest smile ever and he smiled back. I ran up to his arms and hugged him. It was like if nothing had happened before. He told me that he was all sweaty and nasty but I didn't care, I felt safe. He was talking so much to me I couldn't keep up from all the questioning and things he wanted to know about me. I was surprised he already knew so much about me. He admired my job and was fascinated by my stories. When we were not talking I could see him hiding behind some stairs just watching me, I just pretended I wasn't noticing just so I wouldn't embarrass him. I felt intimidated because he was watching me all the time. Then we fell into an awkward silence, neither of us had the guts to start a conversation. I sucked it all in and asked a question and then again we talked for hours til three in the morning. We could talk forever and not be bored. At the end if the shoot he just stood there next to a van just waiting for something...me. I hugged him and told him I didn't want to let go. He whispered to me that he was sorry for being an asshole to me before. He told me that I was taking all his sweat home with my shirt. It was obvious, we were in love.

      The next few days all his fb posts were happy and related to the things we talked. We talked everyday and his admiration for me was insane. His compliments for my work were like nothing I've ever heard before. Time passed and he went back to ignoring me. He started posting stuff about longing for a girl and how he was never gonna get her. I started assuming that he meant those for me. I decided to message him and tell him about how I felt for him. I told him about a dream I had with him in the wild just me and him swimming at the pool of a waterfall at night and how I fell asleep in his arms to the sound of his voice. Next thing I saw was his postsaying he was the happiest boy in the wilderness. Then I told him I was in love. He never replied. He showed me he love me in the most secretive way he could, by subliminal messages and song lyrics and overall all his post were about the things I write to him. I didn't mind, I loved it. I write to him everyday about my dreams, my hopes, my story, my love for him and build up his confidence. After two months I got tired, I wanted to see him. I told him I was sad cause he wouldn't speak to me. He tried to comfort me with songs and posts telling me that things were gonna get better to be patient. Thing was I was desperate I just wanted to see him. He comforted me through my sadness and depression. I could see all girls loving his subliminal messages and songs telling him how they wished a man would tell them those words. He has a very unusual way to love but I loves it. He told me how I was the bravest girl he ever met. But then he posted that we were both playing a game and that one of us needed to decide to lose and then we would both summoning was confused and didn't understand what he meant. He was gone for for days from fb and he said he didn't feel good. I was worried so I texted him everyday to give him strength and to get better. Then he came back to fb and said his computer was not working. I got upset and texted him telling him I was glad he was ok but I hated him for freaking me out like that and that he didn't deserve my attention...of course it was just a joke. Then he deleted me and blocked me from fb. I don't think it was the text but I was confused. I felt bad so I texted him freaking out asking him what was wrong. I was dying in pain for days and I finally accepted that I had to let him go. I texted him one last time telling him that I would not contact him no longer if that is what he wanted. I told him that I would always be there if he needed me, I apologized for not understanding and for failing him. I told him that it hurt because I loves him but he needed to be free.

      He is the kind of person who has a lot of friends but no one understands that he has a problem. He spends so much time in his room and shuts out from the world. He suffers in silence because he is so private. He's a great guy that has goals in life and just this shy attitude is what keeps him from being his best. He feels he's not worth it but he's the most beautiful human being I've ever met he seems to have some sort of past trauma. I can feel his pain, I can feel him scream and cry his insides but no one heard him. I feel scared for him and more now that I feel like I'm never gona see him or speak to him again. I truly love him but I don't understand what happened, why did he just pulled away like that?

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      bougainvillea 4 years ago

      Why did he just pulled away like that? Because he thought that's what you want. From the start of your story, it seems that you are the driver of your relationship with him. You always get what you want. (He gives you what you like) He definitely likes you. He doesn't demand for anything but he needs a lot of understanding. He was sick, and then his computer is not working which can be true.

      "of course it was just a joke" - but you hurt his feelings. You say sorry but you hurt him even more by saying he needed to be free :(

      Many girls like you (and me) are very demanding. It's a norm. Many times we say things we didn't really mean.

      If you really want to win his heart again, you have to go back to the first thing you did before "text him and tell him, you need him back"

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      gcnatipunk 4 years ago

      When he was sick I was so concerned so I texted him daily to give him strong and told him I was worried and I wanted him to be okay. Like usual he ignored every single text.

      When he deleted me I tried hard, I messages him and told him that I needed him and no matter what I said I was devoted to him. I skated ask my lovely feelings for him and that's when he decided to block me so I wouldn't be able to connect with him. I was acting clingy and needy and that pushed him away even more. When I told him he needed to be free it was because I felt like I was holding too tight on to him. He seemed to want his space. I honestly don't think it was anything I said it was mostly just him and his feeling of worthlessness. He doesn't think he's good enough for me. It's like he doesn't believe I can like him. I have been more successful in my career than he has and I think that has something to do with this. I already told him I didn't care how much he had and I just wanted to support him and work with him. I told him that I didn't care about money or material stuff, I just wanted to see him again. I know that my sadness and worry wet driving him crazy and he tried hard to comfort me but I just felt I couldn't wait any longer. Our communication was based on fb posts and songs and I just needed him to say something more forward but he wouldn't. I feel sad but I think he needs time to gain confidence because I tried hard giving him comfort, love, hope, trust and support. I opened up to him telling him my life so he could feel some comfort that I was like him before. I've always told him I needed him by my side because he protected me and I felt strong when he was close to me. He treats me like a princess and I tried to treat him like a king. I just don't know if he'll come around anymoreI checked his fb and twitter from a friends page and he doesn't seem the same. I'm worried about him.

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      bougainvillea 4 years ago

      If you can, try to meet him somewhere, but act as if it was a coincidence. Do you know where he is? Where's his hang-out place? I used to do this trick when my boyfriend (now my husband) is very angry with me. I show him my face with very big and sweet smile so he will remember his love and feelings for me.

      Remember the time you saw each other? He was not able to hide his feelings for you. You can do it again. I'm sure, he can resist you on fb but not personally.

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      gcnatipunk 4 years ago

      Yeah I noticed he couldn't resist himself personally. You see this guy rarely goes out but I can find out for sure. He seem to suffer from low self esteem but now I just think he's depressed. I sent him a text message telling him that I loves him and that I know he needs a space but I told him I would be waiting at the end of the tunnel. He feels so worthless but he gained hope when he saw me. I will find out where he goes and I'll just appear out of the nowhere and prove how much I love him. He gained a lot if confidence when I started admiring him but his depression makes that confidence die quickly. I love him and I'm going to keep on fighting and being strong for the both of us unroll he can stand and be the man that I met three tears ago.

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      kritika 4 years ago

      We were very good friends earlier that he told me many of his secrets and once he said to me that you don't tell anything about yourself. After the summer holidays he didn't talk to me.His friends used to tease him with my name so he used to fight with them but recently around 1 month he has started smiling on the same taunts.He does not talks to me but always notices me and whenever i talk to him he denies.He doesnot even listen to me and when i go to him for a request he says no.I am confused that he likes me or is up to some revenge....

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      bougainvillea 4 years ago

      He is very lucky to have you gcnatipunk. Goodluck and best wishes.

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      bougainvillea 4 years ago

      Hi kritika,

      He smiles maybe because he was not afraid anymore. Or maybe he is smiling to hide his broken heart.

      He still likes you, but you gave him the signal that you don't like him that's why he's putting a boundary between you and him. You can ask him directly for reasons why he's doing that, if he said nothing, ignore him for a while to show you're hurt. Show him you are sad, maybe you can make him back.

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      Coralia 4 years ago

      Nice hub you added here, bougainvillea!There is something that has started bugging me and it may seem weird, but I can't seem to figure all this out.If there is something or nothing at all....

      I have to say we are two strangers and I first acknowledged him last winter when I saw him walking down the empty school hall, he looked at me too.I remembered his face and I think it slowly started then, my attraction for him on an unconscious level.Then this spring I noticed him glancing/looking/staring at me quite often and I kept wondering why does he do that as I noticed he usually avoided eye contact or looked shortly at passing people.And he looked at me longer than you do when you just look at people.And because he started looking at me I realized I was attracted to him and felt happy whenever I saw him.There was something about his aura/allure that made me want to get to know him as a person , something unexplainable that draws me in to him as a person.At one point I wanted to think it's all a coincidence, though there were things that made me think it's not just my imagination.For example, one day I was walking down the hall with a friend, he was too, coming from the opposite direction and I saw him turning his head towards my direction.I thought he did that in order to tell his friend something or look at him better, but he just looked past his friend and looked me straight in the eyes.Then he smirked/smiled at me.It was intense, unexpected.Eye contact broke off only when he disappeared after a corner.And there was some weird behavior from his friends as well at times.Summer came, thought I'll get him out of my head.I did, but in autumn when I saw him again it all came back, things remained unchanged.Now, for example I saw him a couple of weeks ago and he came from behind.I turned around suddenly, smiling and the first person I bumped eyes with was him.The eye contact was pretty synchronized, though brief as he looked straight ahead afterwards.And this week when I went outside the school building, I turned around towards a bench and I met his gaze, though he quickly looked away, down, talking to his mate.I think he recognizes me, he could have looked at anyone, there were many people around.What is this?Is this (mutual) attraction?I wonder does he feel the same way I do?

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      bougainvillea 4 years ago

      Yes that's mutual attraction :) He likes you but maybe that's the best thing he can do for now. You would not believe but maybe, he feels very happy just to look at you.

      If you want to bring this attraction to the next level, you can tease him a little bit more. Say "hi" with a very soft and sweet voice.

      Getting closer would be much easier if you have common friends or common activities in school.

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      Coralia 4 years ago

      Thank you for replying!Well, I think you are right.Although people look at people all the time usually, you can distinguish a look that's thrown to you as you pass by from a look that says more.At one point it felt like a little game that only we were aware of.

      Well, I thought about things like that.But don't you think he'd find it weird if I said 'hi' out of the blue?I wondered why doesn't he do something about all this, why does it have to be me?That's when I started thinking it might be just me who is interested, because guys normally approach you if they really want, right?Oh and at some point I did the mistake of looking away quickly when I saw him or try to not look at him, so he wouldn't think I like him.And now he looks away quickly once I catch him looking, so I thought maybe he lost interest now.

      I know, though that is a bit complicated.

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      bougainvillea 4 years ago

      He was afraid to approach you. He is afraid of rejection. He is afraid of so many things. He's even afraid he won't see you again. Saying "hi" can boost his confidence. It can also be a start of a friendship. If you wait for a shy guy to approach you, it's like waiting forever.

      Normally guys will approach you if they have enough confidence, sometimes they use common friends, but most of the shy guy I knew, they become speechless in front of the woman they like. They need to build lots of confidence or be in a comfortable situation before they speak a word.

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      Coralia 4 years ago

      I don't know exactly how shy he is when he likes a girl, though he doesn't seem like the confident jackass type either.He seems pretty calm and nice overall.Though I heard he is perverted and noticed things that show this is probably true...

      Well, I might do it when the time feels right and when I'm in a really good mood.I'm curious if we'll get to be at least friends sooner or later :)

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      bougainvillea 4 years ago

      Good luck :)

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      Carolina Dunster 4 years ago

      Hey! I saw that you reply to everyone and that's so good!

      I have a similar issue... I am in high school and there's this boy...I can't get it whether he likes me or he's simply too interested..

      We are in the same bus and that's how I know him... He came to me like 3 times to ask my name in a gap of 4 months though he already knew it as he's earlier taken my book to read something and I had heard him murmur my name...

      Those three times he tried to talk but I am no the over open kind of a person so I don't talk much..he came to talk to me when most of the bus was empty...

      Whenever I roll my eyes I can see him looking my way...he deliberately sits closer like just behind me or horizontally or diagonally from my seat.. When everyone is laying down in their seats, he has his head tilted so as to hear what I talk to my friend...

      He acts extra polite with me...and show off his things too..sometimes.. though Im sure he knows I HATE those type of people and also that I own some of their better counterparts...but still he does..

      If he's sitting at the back of the bus..he would come and sit on the seat that's near mine...but thankfully he doesn't speak..

      Blame me for that.. I had asked him once if it was me who was acting weird or he was and he had said that yep..its him who is acting weird..

      he said i seem to be reserved but I have people in the bus coming to me to share their problems and I laugh with them and talk to them...I did tell him that I am reserved..my other side is just for my friends and he asked if he could be my friend but I refused...

      He still looks at me, is very keen to listen to all the stuff I am telling to other people..and all the solutions I give to the people who come out seeking advice..

      Another day..he asked for a book if he could have it for home and that was a book he was surely surely having because its mandatory and everyone has it..Now what do you expect? plus he has his relative in the bus too whose acts I find weird too as if everything I do would be told to that person and the relative is the second eye on me..

      You might think I am rude but I have had such people crushing over me before and I realized its good to ignore them..I can't let myself played with....

      HE is portrayed as a Casanova, you know...i've heard it...but he's genuinely polite around me..unlike I admit with other girls(meaning he would be extra loud and all but subtle with me)

      I don't know...I am confused for the first time...Does he like me or is he just the overanxious, over interested fellow? PLease help me...

      PS I'm sure I'm the most difficult girl he has come across but he still tries...GROSS! Help please to help me know what is it..

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      bougainvillea 4 years ago

      No doubt he really likes you. :-)

      He tried many times to get closer to you so I think he really likes you. All guys act differently and sometimes weird in front of their crush.

      Actually he doesn't need the book, what he really wants is your attention. He wants to get closer, take the first step, be a friend and know more about you.

      Its very obvious you're a "hard to get" type of girl. He still tries because he really likes you but don't worry about it, he will just lose his interest if you don't give him attention even eye contact.

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      PianoArtist 4 years ago

      Hi!!! okay I serioiusly need help.. So here's my story.

      Im in eighth grade and a guy at my school is super shy.. I mean I can just tell, he has the bangs that cover his eyes and stuff like that. Well last year a friend of mine told me that he liked me, well I never knew he exsisted until my friend of mine told me about him. So I started paying attention to him.. I started to see him looking at me a lot.. and then one day that same friend that told me that he liked me; had said that she went out with him! Me, knowing whenever a person was lying didn't believe her so I decided to go and ask him myself. So I walked up to him and said hey (his name) can I ask you a question? he looked at me and then looked at the ground and started to get a little pink, his friend was standing there next to him looking at me. Finally he said sure, so i asked him if he ever went out with a girl named (My friends name). He seemed so caught off guard by this it was literally the most lively reaction ive seen out of him towards me he was all like O_O what.???? NO!!!! and literally seemed to take a step back and by now his face was really red and at the same time his friend that was standing next to him said whos (her name)? so I said thanks and walked away cause it was awkwared having him look at my face and then the ground over and over again. So now in eighth grade i didn't think that he liked me cause of my one friend that told me he did, lied to me so it was kinda hard to believe her. Well now in eighth grade I found out I had 2 classes with him. Band and Spanish. In spanish we just got new seats and im sitting next to one of his good friends, while he is sitting some what away from us but still has perfect view of my face. so its the beginning of the period and he just got done talking to his friends and was showing a big open smile well he was apparently looking at me and kept that smile so when I looked at him I saw his face just like all red (it seems to me that when ever hes around me hes always red or pink, i never see his face his regular skin tone) and so i heard something funny someone said and smiled when i was looking at him, realizing what i did i looked away really fast. than about halfway through the class i look over at the clock (he sits right under it) and see him leaning on his arm all the way so his face was about 2inches from the table, was blushy and was smiling a closed smile, looking at me (im pretty sure cause im the only girl in that area where he was looking) his eyes looked dreamy as if he was like day dreaming or something. so i smiled back and he shot up and like pretended to do something and got redder. I always caught him starring at me or lookng at me in band, spanish, waiting for the bell to ring, any time hes with me! and he looks at me especially when i have my hair a certain way.. not only that but it seems like his friends know that he likes me.. like they always seem to shout his name and just nod their head toward me and say nothing else, and they seem to nudge him toward my way as if trying to get him closer to me. I ve seen this happen multiple times plus I almost feel like im being stalked by his friends, they always are behind me when i walk home even when i try to wait for them to pass they slow down and wait till i keep walking. and to me whatever emotion im feeling that day, hes feeling the excate same emotion.. like when i looked like i was crying in spanish (my contacts were not doing their jobs) he seemed to dip his head lower and just seem gloomy. it seems when i laugh he laughs when im happy hes happy etc etc. ive told some of my friends what's been happening and they keep telling me that he likes me but truly i can't seem to sink in the thought of him liking me, (i thought he was cute in 6th grade, i lov guys with his kinda hair, and thought that he wouldn't ever like me so i moved on with life and just kinda forgot about him till 7th-8th grade) idk... its hard for me to actually know if he likes me or not... or in this case to actually accept that he likes me or not. since some days when i paid more attention to him he just avoided me didn't even look at me. then some days when i ask a guy a question and they say they don't know then i can hear his response to my question as if i were asking him....do i think hes cute? yes i do i love his hair. and im a sucker for shy guys. but i almost feel like i don't like him at the same time. like i can't like him cause then everything will be all awkward and stuff. idk.. or maybe its just his friends that i don't like. everyday all day i can feel him starring at me.. its almost like i know when hes thinking bout me to cause every time i get into the same room as him my nose starts itching up a storm.. i need some adivice from someone who knows about this stuff not from some 8th grade friends who gossip 24-7 about bys boys boys. please help me im so confused O_O

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      bougainvillea 4 years ago

      All the things you've mentioned here only proves that he likes you. He is avoiding you because he is very very shy. If you can talk to him always, and assure him that there's nothing to worry about,(you're not angry, everything is ok) he will gain his confidence.

      If you are uncertain, just ignore his friends and focus your attention to him. So you think he's cute, that's great! What else do you like about him? Try to think of cute things about him. I like it when you mentioned that he feels what you feel (he's happy when you're happy). It will be awkward if he and his friends will still act like that even after you have a mutual understanding. But things will eventually change, he will not turn red, he will not be very shy, his friends will no longer act like that, everything will be normal.

      I think you like him too, you're just on denial stage ^_^

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      Carolina Dunster 4 years ago

      Hey...thanks for the reply... But would it be so different of me to say that I don't want to hurt him.. I mean the person has already endured punches on his little ego because of me.. You said I could extend a hand for friendship but wont it be taken the other way around..that i have something for the person...

      I so would like to make things better..but I can't..can I?

      He hasn't really been the worst with me but I can't make everything better... I wouldn't mind doing it but it can't be without rumors or giving him a false hope of a future relationship or interest... isn't it...?

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      bougainvillea 4 years ago

      Hi Carolina, you don't have to talk to him if that would be the case. You can simply ignore him whenever he is around, act as if he never existed and if you can, try to change your routine and schedule.

      If you tell him about your feelings, that you are not interested, chances are, he will deny his feelings too and you'll be ashamed of your acts or, he will run away with a very broken heart.

      Since he is not saying anything, he is just acting weird, just try to avoid him, that way, you are helping him to understand that you are not interested and sooner or later he will just lose his interest to you.

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      Chickenlicken 4 years ago

      Hi

      Theirs this boy he is senior and I'm a junior. I have him for my 2nd period. Since the first day I seem him he caught my eye.

      the teacher sat us next to each other

      For about a week we would only talk about school stuff and he would ask me how I think I did o my test

      On October 3rd we had a sub and were able to talk, he started asking me many questions like about my family grades classes and much more. After that day he always says hi to me when he walks in class. 2 other girls sit next to us and he only talks to me

      On Halloween he told me he wasn't doing anything so I asked him if he wanted to go trick or treating with me he said yes, he asked for my # and as he did he got red(:

      We went trick or treating he wanted to hold my purse, told me to wear his sweater

      This Friday I texted him and we talked for a while but he keeps it short. Does he like me or just nice ? How can I show him I like him

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      bougainvillea 4 years ago

      Hi Chickenlicken, you've shown him you like him if you let him hold your purse and wear his sweater. Actually, he knows and feel that you like him too. (that's for sure but he needs more guts to ask and talk about it) So for now, just be normal, the way you want, like before because when you like someone, your body gestures, your voice, your eyes will speak for you. Situations will come again and both of you can show the special feelings for each other.

      He definitely likes you because, he loves being with you, he enjoys talking and listening to you, he likes to talk about you, your family and maybe your likes and favorites. He turns red which means he got nervous or excited when you gave your number and he knew you're going with him for trick or treating. He's treating you special by offering his help to handle your purse and he's very sweet when he told you to wear his sweater.

      And, don't worry if he keeps it short, love and infatuation don't fade away easily especially when you always see each other. Just relax and remember the good times you're together :)

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      graciaflo 4 years ago

      hi, i've read your article and i wanna tell you my story. i'm being friends with my guy best friend. it began from 2 years ago when we were in one dance group and since then, we become friends until now. almost every week we meet and spend weekend together, he almost always follows me everywhere. he acted like he likes me and he doesn't do things he does to me to the others girl friends. my dance group consists of girls and he's the only boy in it. things he does is like he always tries to make me laugh, touch my shoulder, and put his head on my shoulder and so on . but, he doesn't text me at all, but he text another girl instead. and he always tells me if he likes or approaches girls. idk why he doesn't text me but his actions seem like he likes me. what do you think? thanks :D

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      bougainvillea 4 years ago

      Hi Graciaflo, many serious relationship starts from best friends so we must not always consider that his sweetness is for pure best friend thing :-)

      "Leaning on your shoulder" catch my attention, this sounds like he likes you more than a best friend.

      He text another girl or he just giving a reply? He tells you he likes or approaches girls, but did he really jump into courtship? Observe more because there is a possibility that he is just making you jealous :-) There are some guys who don't seem to care because they are not sending a text message regularly, but that should not be a basis, some guys are just like that.

      From my experience and observations of my friends.. Hmmnn.., I think he likes you :)

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      graciaflo 4 years ago

      he tries to like things im interested such as he wants to get the same university, the same faculty as i'm gonna get when i tell him abt this. he intends to get vocal course when know that i like boy who can sing. he uses the clothes i tell him i like when he wears it. he invited me to watch him when he had basketball and soccer competition.

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      Baby Bunniee 4 years ago

      Please help! I am so lost!

      He came to talk to me asked one question over and over. I added him and he accepted. We chatted online a lot..then he seemed busy. He poked me softly like I could not feel anything. When I turned around, he had a big smile, walked by my side but did not say anything, and just looked down on the ground...seemed to smile to himself.

      A year ago, a friend suddenly helped me to know for sure if he has feelings for me because at church he always showed signs of interest and being so emotional (smiled to himself, angry, sad, and such like whenever I did not give him attention or looked up when he walked down pass me). A friend asked and told me that he never likes me like that, and even said the same of the girl. First, I thought it was all over, but my friend just told me again a different girl who also had the same name as my name (same last name, too) I checked online and noticed that he un-friended me. I sent him a message to make sure that he truly had feelings for that girl. "I saw you have been acted weird lately and I known you liked someone, (the girl's name). If there is something you want to talk, please tell me the truth and straight." It was kinda like that. Then, he just blocked me. Sorry that it was kinda awkward because I was so confused at the moment...did not think straight. After he blocked me, he ignored me at church for like 2 months, but then in May he showed weird behaviors again until now.

      One time at church, he changed the seat, sat down, and began to look at my direction. When I glanced up, he turned away, but then turned back at my direction. There was something funny so I laughed but also looked at him. He had a light smile. I did not know why I looked at him. From there, he kept look at my direction and I did the same. I wonder if he noticed that I looked at him, he would not continue to look if he's not interested. Also in the beginning, he sat on the other side so if he would return to his seat instead...At church, there are many people, but I always have the feeling he looks at me.

      On Sunday, he seemed to look at me and when I glanced up he had a big smile. I turned away, looked down, and continued to play with my cousins. I tried to talk to him, but he always talked with friends.

      On Thursday at church, I was so sleepy so I often looked down to close my eyes. He was in the room (he serves at church) for so long and came out like he was crying. He swept away something on his eyes. It seemed like his eyes were red. He even acted angry. His friends then looked at my direction. Yet, he continued to look at my direction. When he served on my side and I went on his side, he acted normal again. Today (Sunday) he sat on the side that I could see him. At first, he seemed like not even pay attention at me, but then later he seemed to glance at me quite a few times while talking to his friends. I noticed this because i also glanced at him.

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      bougainvillea 4 years ago

      Graciaflo, maybe he's just denying to himself, or maybe he is afraid to lose you if he tells his feelings for you. Just continue being sweet and close, make him feel you're very happy to be with him, show him you like his sweetness, be there when he invites or needs you. Cheer him up always! He's yours, I can feel it! :)

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      bougainvillea 4 years ago

      Hi Baby Bunniee, you are right "he would not continue to look if he's not interested" I think he likes you but there is something bothering him.

      Do you know if he has an intention to be a church minister or priest? Since you belong to the same Faith or Religion, the Catholic Church doesn't allow the priest to marry a girl, aspiring ministers of the Church of Christ (Iglesia Ni Cristo) is also very strict, when they start studying they are not allowed to have a mutual feelings with any girl until they finished their studies, after that they can ask a girl to marry them. I am not sure about your religion but if you can tell me maybe I can help you more.

      "His friends then looked at my direction" I believe they know something, maybe you can ask them more about him so you can understand why he is acting weird.

      He likes you that's for sure. He's just trying very hard to keep his feelings for you. He un-friended you in facebook, he blocked you, he ignored you but since he can still see you in the church every Thursday and Sunday, his body gestures shows it. He can't control his eyes.

      If we belong to the same Church, I can say that, I've been there, I know it, I understand your feelings, but through God's grace and with the help of God, I believe both of you can surpass that trial. If the time comes and he's ready to marry a girl and you are still single, the feelings are still mutual, maybe then he can marry you.

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      Baby Bunniee 4 years ago

      Thank you so much for replying! :D

      I don't know if he has an intention to be a priest or not. He's my age (around 20-21) and seem still immature (a friend who knew him before told me). He's still in college and hanging out with his friends to have fun like parties sometimes. Sadly, we don't go to the same college.

      Actually,when he poked me behind long time ago and walked by my side, he did not say a word until I said something. Our conversation that day was short like within 2 words. It was windy that day and the wind just blew my hair, therefore, I ran away due to the embarrassment.

      Yes! We both Catholic. During the reception of Communion he often serves for Bishop, but sometimes he just suddenly serves on my side. It feels like he has discussed with his friends ahead. I think he had those behaviors for more than a year, but has not made a move yet.

      Should I just continue to wait and observes his behaviors more until he makes a move? What else can I do? Sometimes he seems to show a lot of signs and there are times he does not show anything; it makes me feel like I just imagine things. Feeling like I'm falling for him, but then I don't want to get hurt again. I feel weird to ask his friends because I don't know them.

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      bougainvillea 4 years ago

      Baby Bunniee I think it's better to wait and observe his behaviors. If you have the change to talk to him, to his friends or even your friend, ask them if he has any plans of being a priest, if they asks why just answer because you saw him very active in church.

      If he doesn't have an intention to be a priest, these are my suggestions to make yourself irresistible and make him fall for you deeply. Make yourself more attractive and more beautiful. Always smile with your friends and glance in his direction whenever possible. I'm sure he will find you very pretty when you smile and it will make his feelings bursts and very difficult to control. When he saw you very cheerful, he will not be afraid of rejection.

      "It was windy that day and the wind just blew my hair, therefore, I ran away due to the embarrassment." - Next time, don't run, you can try to face the wind, hold your hair and continue talking again. Tell excuses, like "oh my hair" and then smile. Running away is a bit disheartening to someone very shy.

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      Claire,16 4 years ago

      Hi I was wondering if you could help me on what I should do,

      There's this guy who just moved to my school at the beginning of the year at first I didn't even realise we had a new guy until we were put into the same sports class, I didn't have feelings for him then but halfway through the year I started to notice him even more when one of my friends pointed him out saying he was hot. Soon I realised most of our classrooms were opposite each other so I was able to see him.

      I don't know if he likes me or not, but I've seen him do stuff like, staring at me, moving closer to my classroom. I tend to come late to school and would always see him coming late to school too and walk slowly in front of me. At the end of the day we would always be at the lockers at the same time. I do like him back but I'm too scared to confront him about it since I found out he was leaving at the end of the year, all of my friends are friends with him like they talk to him but I've never talk to him we've been to the same parties but I've never had the courage to speak to him. I get so jealous when he's with other girls but there's nothing I can do about I just don't know what to do I've tried to forget about him but somehow the feelings I have for him just won't go away, it'd be weird if out of nowhere I just randomly say hi I actually can't see that happening, What should I do? :(

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      bougainvillea 4 years ago

      Claire you do not need to say hi, just smile and then continue with what you are doing. I think, since you always see him, it's not weird to smile at him. Just try it.

      If you have feelings for him, its almost nearly impossible to just forget about him, unless, you don't see him anymore and you got extremely hurt and jealous.

      He stares at you, moving closer to your room, coming late to school like you, slowly walk in front of you and always being at the lockers at the same time as you, this is a normal attitude of a guy when he is interested in a girl.

      Start smiling when you see him again at the lockers, and then if he smiled back, next time say hi with a smile and then go on and leave, repeat that again and if he builds his courage to approach you, I know that would be the start of everything.

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      Baby Bunniee 4 years ago

      hi Hub,

      Thank you for the advices! :D

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      Sammyrra 4 years ago

      Ok so this is a bit of a long one.

      I'm in college and in the marching band. The guy I have a crush on is in the same section as me and is applying for the same (co-ed) fraternity.

      It started when we were rushing we had just met each other and had already started bickering (we're both so sarcastic that people don't know how to take us) back and forth like we'd known each other forever, and one of our mutual friends told us we bicker like an old married couple. We both told her she was crazy we could never have any interest in one another. Well, we kept seeing each other at the different rush events. The second to last one was to the fright farm. When we were waiting in line he kept flipping my hood up so I pulled his beanie down over his eyes and he just reached out towards me and jokingly I said watch where you stick your hands. He started reaching forward then raised his hand on my shoulder. He kept his hand there and smiled a massive grin while he fixed his hat. Then strangely enough we ended up walking through next to each other. So when we were going through the maze part everyone stuck their hand on the shoulder of the person in front of them. I stuck my hand on his shoulder and he just randomly asks me if I want to hold his hand. I was shell shocked and didn't respond. So he just reached back and grabbed my hand and hesitated to let go when we got out of the maze.

      This was about the point that i began to get a bit interested.

      The next day I was sitting in the cafeteria eating with my friends and I saw him leaving so I waved, and we continued making funny faces at one another as he walked out then he continued making funny faces in the window at me until he was out of sight. (More interested)

      Then he happened to be sharing a ride to the last rush event and I got stuck riding in the middle between him and another girl. He started poking me in the side so I poked him back, and thus a poke war ensued. We ended up mussing each others hair too to pick at each other.

      My friend had to go to the store and as we walked through he hung to the back of the group and told me a rather personal story having to do with one of his best friends.

      After that we went to the rush event and we end up sitting next to each other on the couch where the poke slash tickle war continued. (This was rather discreetly done) At one point he just grabbed my hand and wouldn't let go. So I was like fine, "truce". And we stopped poking each other, but a few moments later he started tapping my foot with his. Once the event was over I decided to get revenge and full out tickled him as we walked back to the car. Once again my friend told us to behave ourselves. We got back in the car and didn't poke each other until we were almost back to our dorm. My friend said "hand check". He and I looked at one another and put our hands on top of her head. When we got into the dorm he was nagging at me for being lazy as we got on the elevator and right before we got to my floor he decided to all out tickle me. Unfortunately for me the doors opened and there were two guys standing there. All the saw was this guy with his hands on my waist leaning towards me. Embarrassed, I got of the elevator and shouted jerk back at him and he just shouted back GOODNIGHT.

      Now every time I see him he reaches out and bumps my shoulder.

      The most recent interesting moment was while we were at band he was talking to somebody and made a comment about his hands being nearly as red as my hair. I wasn't even in the conversation. Then I went back to the dorm for dinner and he walked past smiled big and reached out to bump my shoulder. Then when he came back through he flipped my hair. I said Hey! and he just turned around and smiled slowly saying HI there before walking off.

      Also occasionally I catch him looking at me and smiling.

      One time I tried bumping his shoulder like he always bumped me and he seemed almost offended.

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      bougainvillea 4 years ago

      Maybe he was just having a problem when you tried to bump his shoulder and he seemed almost offended. You're very close to each other and I think he also likes you. The only thing missing is the formality of the relationship. Actually, it seems that you have a mutual understanding because the things you're doing together are very sweet, guys will only do that thing to girls they like.

      Just continue smiling and do not change. I am sure he will come back to normal. :-)

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      Titli 4 years ago

      Hi!

      There's a guy who has recently completed his college & joined as a trainee in my Dad's office. We meet quite often in many occasions. In these one & a half months, I've come face-to-face with him about 7 times. But we've spoke to each other just once till now. Once, he bent forward his hand to shake hands with me to wish me on an occasion (he didn't even know me well at that time!). Most of the times, I'm with my Dad whenever we come face to face. He spokes to my Dad a lot when I'm around but one thing that I've noticed that he whenever we meet, he keeps looking at me. Whenever I look at him, I see that he was already staring at me (I've been observing this since the first day we met)........

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      bougainvillea 4 years ago

      Hi Titli, I think he likes you but he is in a very difficult situation. It would require a lot of courage to ask you out, talk to you more and op course tell his feelings for you that's why he couldn't do anything for now but to stare.

      If you like him too, you can show him your feelings too by, always smiling at him and ask different things about him whenever possible. You have to build his confidence and courage because he might be afraid of your father.

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      Titli 4 years ago

      Yeah, I also want to ask him questions about different things so as to start a conversation but I get totally confused about what should I ask which interests him. Can you help me in this? We are from the same native place. He talks on his cell phone a lot with his friends & family members.

      Well, I don't know that whether he's afraid of my father or not coz he always calls at my home to get advice from my Dad regarding not only office work but also to know about locations of restaurants, shopping malls etc. in this area as he's new to this city (which he can ask other people too!). Also, my father is quite soft-spoken & speaks glowingly about him :) He's also on facebook. I've become good friends with the girls who have also joined here as trainees (they are a group of 12). So, we have mutual friends on fb. I was thinking about sending him a friend request but also hesitating a bit about this. What should I do?

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      bougainvillea 4 years ago

      Yes you can send him a friend request on FB, don't worry about it, you don't have to explain why, just send a request and make him think about it :)

      You can see his interest on facebook and you can start a conversation about movies, NFL, gadgets he own, features of his new mobile and more.

      Obviously he wants to get your attention, he talks on his cellphone a lot, he always calls at your home to talk to your Dad. He's not talking to you directly but that's a common way to catch somebody's attention :)

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      carolanne heuermann 4 years ago

      well we first met and i didn't like him but once i got to now him he was really nice and then i asked him if he could help me with science homework and i added him on skype and then we always talked and everything and then homecoming was coming up and we were talking about it and he was wondering who he would ask he kinda asked me and i didn't know what so i didn't say anyhting so then he asked my best friend and i don't think he knew it really hurt but she said no and then he asked another girl and she said yes and then i couldn't go but we were still talking a little bit and i thought he liked me like i liked him but then i knew he didn't like me and we have to classes together and i thought he was always staring at me but i didn't know so me my cousinn and him always talked and then he just stopped talking to me so i was talking to my cousin jo and i said he wasn't talking to me and she asked him why he was doing it and he said cause i was annoying and i got really mad at him and i just stopped talking to him and then i deleted him as a friend on skype and then he asked my friend if i was mad at him and then i unblocked him and then he blocked me as a friend but we were walking to class the other day and it seemed like he was cool with me but i couldn't tell so i sent him a friend request and he didn't accecept it but he still talkes to me and it just seems like he likes me he looks me and the eyes and every time i talk to him he always smiles at me its maybe just me i don't can you please help me

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      bougainvillea 4 years ago

      Carolanne you missed a very good change when he asked you for homecoming and you didn't answer.

      He said you were annoying maybe because he thinks you like him too, but he was not sure and he doesn't understand why you are acting like that. There are guys who are just insensitive, you have to tell them what you want or feel.

      For now, wait for your friend request to be accepted, maybe he is busy or he didn't receive the notification for the friend request. Just continue talking to him. If it is possible, forget about what happened.

      You cannot blame him because, he felt rejected when he asked you for homecoming and you didn't answer. What you can do is forget about it, start all over again, continue your friendship and closeness and if you have ever had a chance to explain why you didn't answer when he asked you for homecoming, it's far much better.

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      Carrie 4 years ago

      My shy guy always stares at me he try to talk to me but he just freezes .He use to fellow me around like a puppy dog .Know he just admires me from a farina safe zone.

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      speccy4eyes 4 years ago

      Hi,

      I am 15 and was wondering if you could give me some advice. I see this guy everyday at school and we talk quite regulary but it can seem abit awkward sometimes. We often make eye contact across a room and smile and we talk in lessons a lot. He often steals my pencilcase and graffitis all over it and teases me jokely (i hope). His friend (who is also mine) says he thinks he fancies me but i don't think that is true (he is hardly very deep). I always get the impression that he finds things a bit awkward but i am always told that i am too self-concious. This is my first real crush and i am not sure what to do and i would really appriciate some advice - Thank you very much :)

      Georgia

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      thatgirlwithacrushonaguywholikesherfriend 4 years ago

      ok, um... i'm 11, going on 12, and there's this guy/friend in my class i REALLY like but i've heard a load of rumours that he likes one of my friends, but i don't know if they're true or not :( we go on the same bus home everyday so i try and sit in one of the rows near him maybe see if he looks at me or something, but he totally doesn't! he just talks to his friends and crud :( what do i do?!

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      bougainvillea 4 years ago

      Carrie that's very normal to every shy guy, and if you just wait for them to talk and confess their feelings, it would take a lifetime unless you gave them hope and you show your feelings obviously :)

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      bougainvillea 4 years ago

      Hi speccy4eyes, I guess your common friend is telling the truth this time. He thinks he likes you because that was his observations.

      If your common friend notices that, you too can be right. It's normal for a guy to act a bit awkward in front of their crush(yes I think he likes you), I guess you are not too self-conscious, you just have a high level of "women's instinct"

      Because he is your crush, just continue what you are doing, talk, smile, laugh and enjoy the time being with him. During conversations, be a good listener, look in his eyes, ask a follow up question and don't forget to compliment him. Compliments from you will boost his confidence to confess his true feelings.

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      bougainvillea 4 years ago

      Hehe... you're pen name is very long "thatgirlwithacrushonaguywholikesherfriend"

      If he doesn't look at you, then there is no use of just looking at him, you can try this, just my suggestions. I used to do this technique when I have a crush and I seem invisible to them...

      Make yourself visible and make your lovely voice be heard. How to do this?

      Sit in the row in front of him, chat and laugh discretely with one of your friends. Before you go down the bus and I wished you will be the first, talk to your friend with a smile on your face and look at him. (You are now showing your smiling face to him without being too obvious.) If he is the first to go down the bus, next time sit at the back of his row and do the same "chat with your friend, smile and glance at him.

      Study hard and focus, do your assignments, study in advance and participate in class recitations.

      Boys like pretty girls, that's normal, but as you grow older, you will notice that guys like smart girls :-)

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      speccy4eyes 4 years ago

      Thank you very much:)

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      Titli 4 years ago

      Hi! Hope you remember me & my situation :) I wrote you three weeks back about a guy who is a trainee at my Dad's office. First of all, thanks a lot for replying me at that time :) Last time I wrote you that I was thinking about sending him a friend request on FB, well, I did & he accepted it within a few hours (this all happened about a week and a half ago). Last week, I found him online & he himself invited me to chat :) We chatted for about half an hour (I wasn't expecting it coz we didn't get to speak much when we met (he mostly used to stare) as I was always with my Dad during those moments (he used to speak to my Dad a lot, he still does so, he still calls at my home almost everyday)

      Before we went offline, he told me "next time, we'll talk about even more things :)". Well, is this showing a positive sign? Next time, if he himself will invites me again then that would be great otherwise, I'm thinking about inviting him myself coz this time, it was him who broke the ice) :)

      Should I do this? What are the other things I can do? :)

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      adrienne2009 4 years ago

      hi Hub

      PLease ignore my last message , it was not typed completely.

      There is a guy at the reception desk in our school who always looks and smiles at me.Whenever i am about to leave school he says bye.I am very attracted to him ,especially in his personality and i thought he was also interested. he has a little maybe not shy but quiet character so i showed him subtle interest by looking at him friendlier and saying bye first when leaving ,but he disappeard right after that for the last 2 days left from the semester.My classes were only on 2 days in a week so i decided to go to school and see if he works on the rest of the days or just disappearing on those certain days that i had class and yes i found him working on other days !(and he saw me too because i had to register with him ) so i felt that it is because he doesn not like me and i made a mistake that smiled at him.So when the new session started i was passing by him without looking at him at all but he again started to look at me and saying bye every time i leave, even though i was not even looking at him.I still like him but that is all he does ,when i try to get closer he does not do anything and if i ignore him he looks upset and keeps looking at me and still try to say bye to me!The session ended last night and i left without saying anything to him, he was busy registering an student, but he lifted his head when i was leaving and looked at me , tried to say bye but the moment was too short and i just looked at him and left, my car was parked beside the window and i could see him from his back.All of a sudden a girl came , one of my classmates,to register and he stood up helping her with so much energy or at least i felt so, i thought what if i was all wrong and he is interested in her and not me ! i was about to faint and just drove home., the new session will start soon and i don't know what i should do,I feel so upset and distracted ,please advise. thank you

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      bougainvillea 4 years ago

      Hi adrienne2009, Don't be upset because you saw him helping your classmate with full of energy and all he can say to you is bye with a smile. Don't assume he likes your friend and not you just because of that. Maybe, he has that full energy and became happy because he saw you.

      I suggest, show him again your interest, say bye and smile. Opcourse he will not do anything right after you get closer to him, it will take time until he is certain of your feelings.

      My mother used to think that my father doesn't like her, she thinks that my father likes her classmate that's why she was very surprised when my father confesses his feelings for her. My father is also a quiet type of guy.

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      adrienne2009 4 years ago

      Thanks a lot, i feel much better after reading your comment :)

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      secretlover 4 years ago

      hello hub

      So this starts like this i been friends with this guy since h.s. at first i didn't felt the way i feel now. i started liking him in my senior year. After graduation i tough we will lose contact and never talk to each other again but some how 1 1/2 years have passed and we still talk to each other. After graduation he texted me and we talked for like 3 months and then he just stopped texting me, then months later he will text me again. and then he will stop texting me again. We usually last days texting, we are not the kind of type that literately are just texting every second, we respond when we can during the day but it goes on for days. anyway so after a while he stopped texting me again. After a while of him not texting me i really tough that we will just lose contact but then somehow i ended visiting the college where he works at and we started talking all over again. We started talking as we used to, then he invited me to his nieces b-day i wasn't sure of going but i decided to go we spend the party talking to each other then he took me home and nothing happened! Then he stop texting me for like 1 or 2 weeks then he texted me again and told me why i don't talk to him no more but anyway some how he ended up asking if he can take me out and of course i said yes but idk if its just a friends date or a date date. I'm scared of asking since i think hes pretty kewl and i don't wanna make it awkward between us, but i also wana stop guessing and hoping that he will confess his feelings to me . what should i do ugh HELP!!!

      --hope i made myself clear.

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      bougainvillea 4 years ago

      Hi secretlover, opcourse it's a date especially when its just both of you :) Even if its a group date, when a guy invites you to go out with him, that means, there is something special.

      He took his first base when he invited you to his niece b-day. And, you've made a perfect decision when you go with him. You have to realize that it was his niece b-day party and his relatives are there, you must be really special. :)

      Obviously he's taking it slowly so nothing happened after that, but sooner, he will confess his feelings for you, it will takes time, but I'm sure it will happen. :)

      As for the texting habits, some guys are just like that and if you really like him, you have to do some effort of visiting him, texting and in the future you will play an important role of maintaining the relationship.

      You don't have to ask him directly, but you can tease him by moving your body closer and closer until he can't hide his feelings.

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      crazygirl88 4 years ago

      Hi! I have liked my grandmother's neighbor for about 4 years. When we were younger, we were really close. Then, a few kids who knew him found out and told him. After that, I avoided him for a year. Last summer was when we really started talking again. He tries to be funny around me and I think he likes me. He has an Instagram and a few of my friends followed him, then I did. So when I was at my grandmother's house, he was looking at me from his window, and then he posted pictures about liking a girl and she likes you but no one makes the first move. Here is the bad part, he is now living in Vermont until the spring. So what should I do/

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      crazygirl88 4 years ago

      One time, when we were hanging out, he showed me a picture of a girl in crop top and booty shorts. Is he trying to make me jealous? I seriously need help (:

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      bougainvillea 4 years ago

      Hi crazygirl88, yes he's trying to make you jealous. But even if you're jealous, don't be so obvious. Ask more about that girl in the picture and slowly divert the topic.

      Don't worry about the distance, that's only a few months. What you can do is improve yourself while he's away so when you see each other again, he will be impressed.

      I think he likes you. Just continue being friendly, laugh on his jokes, always smile, look in his eyes, listen to his stories and don't forget to compliment him, you might boost his confidence and make it easier for him get closer and closer until he confess his feelings for you.

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      crazygirl88 4 years ago

      ok thanks! When he showed me the pic, I was just like oh ok. Anyway, tomorrow there is a dance for the both of our schools. If he comes back, because sometimes he does things like that, what should I do?

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      bougainvillea 4 years ago

      Show him you're happy and excited to see him, talk to him as usual and make your conversation great. :)

      Just be yourself because he likes you the way you are. :)

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      crazygirl88 4 years ago

      ok thanks so much! you finally gave me a positive outlook on things for once! :)

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      someone353 4 years ago

      im 12.........me and him were friends but then my 16 year old cousin told him that i like him 3 years i caught him starring at me im a shy girl sooo i keep saying im going to talk 2 him but i don't help me plz :(

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      bougainvillea 4 years ago

      hi there... if you can't talk, just smile always. Since you are friends already, you can express your feelings through body language. Why not stare at him and if he catch you, give him a sweet smile. Tap his shoulders or arms. Do some simple body contact to tease him.

      Don't force yourself if you can't talk about your feelings. Wait for the right time. :)

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      Titli 4 years ago

      Hi! I've become your big fan after reading your articles! :)

      I wrote u 2 months back about a guy who was a trainee at my Dad's office.........about how he only used to stare at me & we rarely used to speak as I was always with my Dad when we met. U also replied me at that time & I followed your advice on sending him a friend request on Facebook, which he accepted very soon & invited me on a chat one day..........well, a lot of things have happened since then & all started with FB chats! Every time, it was he who used to invite me to chat & we used to talk till late hours at night (sometimes even more than 4 hours!). We became very good friends soon, he used to share almost everything with me. Finally, he found out about my feelings for him. At the beginning, I was very nervous that it might affect our friendship, but it didn't at all! In fact, after knowing this, he opened up even more & I found out he's a big flirt! He used to flirt with me a lot! He then asked me for my phone no. & I gave him, after that we started talking on phone. We then even decided to meet alone & that did happen. We even went for a walk one day. But after his training period got over, he had to leave this place & went to his hometown where his company is actually situated (they were a group of 12 who were sent here for training). We even met the day before he was about to leave. He even gave me a gift with a really sweet message (written by him about me) on it & I too gave him a 'Miss You' card & chocolates. He told me that we'll keep in touch & will definitely meet up when I'll visit my hometown this year (we r from the same native place, i.e, where he's currently working). After reaching there, he messaged me his new number but as my exams were going on, we couldn't speak for about 2 weeks. Now, they've got over so I was thinking about calling him. But I'm confused whether to do this or not coz maybe he's a bit busy now-a-days (I spoke to another one from their group & she told me that yes, she's a bit busy but still, I didn't ask about him as he has told me not to tell about us to some other people in his group). Also, he must be thinking that I'm busy too as I told him about my exams that time. Also he's rarely online these days. But I just can't wait to hear from him!! What should I do? Shall I call him? & how can we maintain this long distance friendship/relationship (well, yeah, I'm still confused about that :D)?

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      bougainvillea 4 years ago

      Yes call him.. I'm sure he's just waiting for your call. Guys are just like that, they forgot the dates, schedules except football and NBA seasons :-)

      Long distance relationship is not really hard to maintain nowadays. You can use facebook, chat him online, or call him occasionally on his mobile so he can hear your sweet voice.

      I can feel that you're a smart, attractive and charming woman. I bet you know how to drive him crazy! :-)

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      someone123 4 years ago

      i reply to you like 5 weeks ago and the 2 guys i mention 2 you about my friend likes him and was trying to talk 2 and we were successful but one of them was too shy so the other one talked to her. any way i was to talk to him but my super duber shyness came back and i blew my chance 2 talk to him tomorrow my friend might come so i can do it again. WHAT should i do so i won't get red or feel like i can't do it? plz help

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      Secretlover 4 years ago

      here i am again... hope you remember i posted about 2 months ago about the guy that i know since high school and don't know if he likes me or not. Well thank you for your advice, but now im getting super tired of waiting i mean he still hasn't made a move, is he waiting for me to make a move or he really doesn't like me. OMG so frustrating, we been out to the movies and to eat, but its never like a date... i mean he never asks properly is kinda like wana hang-out but its always just the 2 of us. We been texting and i recently invited him to a family party and he came, met my folks. but presented him as a friend. oh no im stuck in the FRIENDZONE! lol help give me some advice plz should i risk it and tell him i like him or keep my friendship and hope he likes me and makes a move?

      --love is complicated lol--

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      bougainvillea 4 years ago

      Blushing is cute, really, you do not have to worry about that. But if you really want to avoid turning red, you have to relax, take a deep breath before talking to him. You have to be confident about yourself. Give the biggest and sweetest smile ever while talking to him, that would help you release your shyness.

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      bougainvillea 4 years ago

      Yeah love is complicated.. If I were you, and we are both single, I'll take the risk. I will not tell him directly about my feelings but I will start getting real closer and I will use body contact. I will invite him to party, bar, concert, in loud places with many people, so we have to be closer to each other while talking.

      Concert is also good because he might hold your hand, or you can hold his arms while walking so you will not be separated with each other.

      If he seems to enjoy your company, your close body contact, then confession will be much easier for you.

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      skiattractive2488 4 years ago

      Hi, I went to get a new cell phone, at one of the cell Company in October, 2012. There is a cute guy there that help me. He was smiling the whole whole time he was helping me. A couple of weeks after I had to go back to the store because I did know how to operate the BB well I kept get missed calls. He was helping a customer so I walk around the store and when he was finish he came right to me. He had a big smile for me! So we started to talk about music so I was telling him about a song that I like he went immediately to his cell phone and download it and told me he like it. Then he told me I was getting missed calls from Oregon and he asked me if I know someone from there I told him that I was on a dating site and this is probably one of the guys trying to contact me. So I thank him for helping me and he gave me a number to call if I had any more issues with the Blackberry in the future. I left so last week I got a new blackberry so I went back for him to set it up for me but his Manager told me he was on vacation to come back tomorrow because he is the one that deals with blackberry. His Manager told me he was going to e-mail him and let him know that I was coming tomorrow. So I came back the next day he was helping another customers, so I sat down and waiting on him he came over after 10 minutes and told me he will be with me another 15 minutes. He came over had a big smile look me straight in my eye I wanted to blush but didn't. He proceeded to help me and he remember me from last year. we started to talk, I asked him where did he go on vacation he told me he went with two of his friends and what they did on vacation. I live about 40 minutes from the cell store but he live in the same Town, he told me that he moved he was telling me a lot of personal stuff about himself that he was from another State. He also ask me how was dating thing is coming along on the dating site I told not good it sucks! I am not from here so I told him where I was from he told me he was in my country on vacation a couple years ago. and then he mention to me the song last year I told him about he still had it on his phone! I really thinks he likes me! So I had to return to old phone he said I will tape up the box for you and put the label for you, he was so accommodating! the bb take about over 3 hours to get set up, so I was in there for sometime. He told me to come around to see his screen on his computer so I walk around and he was showing me all these singers is going to be at this concert that he is going to in the Summer and he started to explain to me about the whole thing! He look at me when ever he was speaking to me, then he did a test on my blackberry to set up the e-mail by sending his e-mail address to see if it work because it was taking awhile the other way. He mention to me that I had his e-mail address so when I open it the next day, I saw his cell number, his work number and e-mail address. He told me a lot personal stuff about himself. Like what his mother did for a living. I am not sure how old he is but I know I am older than him. So I was the one ended the the visit by telling him that I have to get going he shook my hand. I did not see him did that with the previous customer because I was standing near them, it look to me he could not wait to be finish with them. So I left and the next next night I was thinking about his smile and eyes I decided to text him this is what I said in the text Hey thank you so much for helping me with my Blackberry yesterday you were awesome thought you will like this song by the same group. You have a cute smile! This was on last Wednesday I have not heard from him. I think he may think that I am out his league because I am in law school. Because the next day I sent e-mail about the blackberry questions very business like and at the end I said I hope you did not mind I text him. He has not respond to me as yet. I am confused about him I know he likes me and I like him any suggestions. He know I have a high power job I think he may think I will not go out with him I think he is in late 20's early 30's and I am late 30's he knows my age he saw my d/l. Any help will be appreciate on what to do now next. I really like him! Thanks

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      bougainvillea 4 years ago

      He mentioned about the concert and I think you can use that as an opportunity to get along with him. Talk and ask more about music, make him feel he's really good in his job, praise him so he will not get intimidated with your status.

      I think he likes you and its good if you will make the first move. Invite him during the weekends..

      You can send him a big hint by asking "Do you have a girlfriend?" or Ask more about him..

      I think he is just waiting for more signs, invite him over, I'm sure if he is free he will never say no.

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      skiattractive 4 years ago

      Hi, Thank you for replying back! Very good advice, I want to know if I should text him or e-mail. The problem is the Store where he work at is far from me. I don't want to go to the store unless I have a problem with phone. I don't want him to think I am stalking him. I sent a text and e-mail already, but I am baffle I have not heard back, but he maybe shy to ask me out. I don't know if he has a g/f I don't think so because the way he coming off with me. When he speaking to me he always look directly into my eyes it gives me goose bumps!Thanks

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      bougainvillea 4 years ago

      Its good if you can forward a sweet or funny messages to his email. Text him with sweet quotes. If he has a facebook account that's even better because you can chat with him, and make in touch with him for free :-)

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      skiattractive 4 years ago

      Hi. thank you for replying back, I sent him text asking him how is he doing and I was thinking of him, and if he was not busy sometime if he will like to hangout this was last night around 8.40 p.m. I have not heard back as yet. I am giving him a couple days to see what happen or do you think I should give up or try a different approach? I don't understand why he gave me his information like his e-mail, work and cell numbers, before I left he said to me you have my e-mail address, unless he is shy! thank you any help will be appreciate!

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      Allyson Chae 3 years ago

      Hi, so lately, my tennis team buddies have been pairing me up with this guy I've known since Elementary School pretty much. One problem, is that we absolutely hated each other at the time, and throughout 6th grade. And in 7th grade, he friended me on Facebook and started talking to me. In 8th grade, we had become acquaintences and remained that way until freshman year in high school, which is this year. We were paired up because he is a head taller than me, he's extremely nice to me compared to some others, he never cusses at me or in front of me (at least he tries not to, although he does cuss a lot when I'm not around normally), he texts and chats me on Facebook, and he made a nickname for me (Lil' Murray because we both play tennis). Well, my problem is that I wouldn't mind if he asked me out, there's nothing wrong with him, honestly. Its just that whenever we pass each other in the halls, he'll look at me, but he never says hi to me. Although I usually greet him first, he never responds. (And usually my friend is beside me, but he literally despises her with a passion for a reason he won't tell me) It confuses me because one day, he'll text me a lot, and the next he won't even look at me. Not to mention that since he found out that someone he hates with a passion (my friend, Valerie) is one of my family friends, he's stopped responding to my texts. He flirts with me one day, then doesn't even look at me the next. I openly get teased in front of him, my friend pairing us up as a cute couple, but he usually ignores it, like I would suspect. He's just really confusing me. I'm not crushing or anything, but my friends keep telling me that he likes me, and I'm just curious if he is since he's been ignoring me ever since school started.

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      bougainvillea 3 years ago

      "It confuses me because one day, he'll text me a lot, and the next he won't even look at me."

      Hi Allyson Chae! Don't be confused, it's a lot easier to flirt through text than in front of you. If your friends keep on telling you that he likes you, then, most probably it is. You're probably on a denial stage because of your experience since elementary. For now, observe him, maybe, he's just ignoring you because he doesn't know where and how to start talking to you.

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      Allyson Chae 3 years ago

      Ok(: Thank you for your advice. Last Friday, he did speak to me, but only because he had to. Otherwise, he never speaks to me. So I'll take your advice and observe him for now(:

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      babbycakes:) 3 years ago

      omg u need to help me! so their is this guy and i like but somthing tells me that he does like me he always at the same spot i am and trys to pass me so i can get his attention and he is shy, anyway so today [9/24/13] my bff told me to go and talk but i cant i blush so much my face turns red and my heartbeat picks up it's speed. my bff grabbed my wrist and called his name when he turned she made me wave my hand he smiled at me and nodded at me. when i was walking home he began to look back and as i was in front of him he began to walk faster and move in front of me. after lunch wad over my bff grabbed my arm and i hit him on the sholder he didnt move or pull away and he touched my leg and my friend ran again making me move away from him. plz i know im not prettty but my friends say i am and that's why im scared to talk to him its because im scared he might not feel the same way.

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      bougainvillea 3 years ago

      Don't be scared because you think you're not pretty. Remember beauty is in the eye of the beholder :-)

      I think you should trust your instinct. Don't be afraid to talk to him, but if you really can't speak, let your eyes do the talking.

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      crushingforeva 3 years ago

      im 13 and in 8th grade. this guy i like, i think he likes me. he like ALWAYS stares at me but when i look in his direction he looks away or blushes. he plays frisbee at school and he always plays infront of me. hes had a girlfriend since 6th grade but i dont think they are dating. ive only been at this school a few months and i heard him and the other girl are dating but i dont think so. he always "accidently" brushes past me in the halls two or three times a day. and when we talk he always looks me straight in the eyes. pleaese read

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      bougainvillea 3 years ago

      Me too. I think he likes you. But don't jump into a serious relationship with him unless you are sure that he's no longer dating the other girl.

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      peachtaeby 3 years ago

      Hello..i like your articles..it do helps me a lot..but i didn't have the courage to talk to my crush..i am too shy..

      I have a crush on this guy which is 2 years younger than me, we believe in different religion. We are in the same class in college.I start to like him since I notice he always stares at me. He is good looking and have so many secret admirers but I heard he never being in a relationship! He is such a quite guy and rarely talks to girl.

      He has 2 bestfriends E and F.E and F always talk to me since we know each other.But my crush never talk to me.I'd once tried to ask his name from E (even though I know his name)..and E said that my crush is really curious to know why I ask his name.E already had a girlfriend so i didnt think E like me.E always ask me about my crush and E always wants us to talk to each other. E also sometimes point out at me when he talks to my crush.However, my crush never wanna try to talk to me.When I walk past him..he will try to collide his body against me..when our eyes meet, sometimes he will continue to look at me without smiling, sometimes he will look away with angry looks. Whenever we meet at the hallway, he will looks at me as if he wants to kill or eat me.but there's more than once he smile at me when i do something silly. However, my 'bestfriend' tells almost everybody about I like him..and my bestfriend did told me so many times that my crush would definitely like her instead of me because she is more attractive than me (maybe she is just joking but it hurts me... a lot...) :( since the day my bestfriend told to almost everyone about i like him, he changed (or i am overreacted to it..).. he never looks at me with a more scary look, he didnt look at me when i talk to his friend or doing something silly..today, when we meet at the hallway, he walks closer to me and when we 'recloser enough, he turns his back towards me..and his bag did hit me a little bit.. :( so do his friends..they didnt ask me about him since then, but still they are nice to me :'(

      What does this all means?does he likes me?or he hates me?or its just nothing?seriously I want to stop this...its truly confusing... :')

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      bougainvillea 3 years ago

      Since he is a quiet guy its very difficult to say that he doesn't like you. By the way what is his religion? There are some religious faith that won't allow their members to date or enter into a relationship with girls from other religion. Another thing, do you have the same nationality?

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      peachtaeby 3 years ago

      He is a catholic..and we have different nationality.however, yesterday,I tried to take the first move..I talk to him about lectures notes and borrowed some of his notes even I can't read them.He was willingly trying to help me.however, i am the one who is obviously got sooooooo nervous so I cannot see wether he is nervous too or not.when the class ended, i take the last bravery I have, I smiled to him while waiting for my friends. And he smiled back at me shy-ly. however, I dont know what happen to me, I trip over something and hit my friend head in front of him when i want to go downstairs. I'd became such a clumsy girl in front of him.did I go overboard?or I should just keep calm and let the things go on with the flow..

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      bougainvillea 3 years ago

      Since he is a catholic, I believe the problem would be your religion. You're just doing the right thing. Shy guys need smart and confident girl like you. Just continue your strategies to get closer to him,and I am sure, you'll master that soon.

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      peachtaeby 3 years ago

      Thank you for your courage and support!!I appreciate it a lot!! ^_^♥

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      waterbug98 3 years ago

      So, there's this guy I like a lot I mean a lot and I can't get myself to talk to him. You see I'm a sophomore in high school and we have lots of different high schools, depending on what you want to go into engineering, art, etc. I ride the bus and this one guy on there I've talked to once, mainly about myself because I was nervous. He goes to the school our bus picks up second in the afternoon and first in the morning. So I don't have any classes with him.He listened to me, though he talked to me only because his friend(1) started the conversation who was sitting in the seat behind me with him. Anyways it's been two months now and the only thing I've said to him since than was Really!? to something he was talking about with another friend(2) of his. I guess I just commented and he looked at me like omg your talking to me and not in a good way I think. He said yeah and than his friend(1) cut him off, starting to talk to me. There's also this dance coming up called tolo it's like Sadie Hawkins I really want to ask him, but since I don't really know him I figured it would be too weird and he would ignore me for the rest of his life.

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      waterbug98 3 years ago

      *I said the really?! today but it's been two months since I've had a real convo with him

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      bougainvillea 3 years ago

      Hi waterbug98, why don't you try to include that guy in your friends' conversation, even though he is not talking to you. I'm sure he's listening to everything that you say. Since he always sits beside his friend, try to look at their eyes when you're talking and if he looks into your eyes, ask something or anything.. Actually "really?!" is a great conversation starter.

      I can feel that you're a confident lady. Ask him for tolo, if he agrees, that's great, if he ignores you, he must be really shy :-)

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      Confused 3 years ago

      Hi. I had this classmate who I thought was very cute. One time, we became groupmates, and it ended up that only the two of us were working together for our presentation. We became close because of that. He was helping me out and I was helping him out. We send messages to each other often. We enjoyed each other's company. I noticed though that he wasn't really a sociable person. I bet he only talks to me. Then one night he messaged me: "goodnight sleep tight don't let the bed bugs bite, love u. " Out of the blue. He gave many hints that he likes me. But I don't understand him. Because one time he told me: " I'm so blessed to have a friend like you." And he'll tell me his past, hurts and things he wouldn't tell to anyone. Then the next day, he sent a message that was contrary: " You're not my friend yet. I barely knew you. You're just my classmate" -_- Then he shys away when he sees me. He did told me once that he can't trust people easily because of past hurts and that he has decided to be alone forever and that shutting people out is what he usually does. But I really thought he liked me because we even went to church together and he told me we'd watch a movie or agreed to hang out sometime. When I felt like he was almost falling for me... He suddenly changed. :( He never texted again. He never replied to my messages anymore.. And in class, he was really trying his best to avoid me. He rans out of class when the class ends. And when he sees me, he'll pretend he didn't. He doesn't have any friends at school. I always noticed him walking alone. His last text was: " Don't worry, it's me, not you." Right now, he's not my classmate anymore, but I still see him in school sometimes. He still avoids me. And refused to give explanations. I, on the other hand, was left hanging. I don't know if he likes me or not. I tried giving him many chances, but he totally refused to reciprocate. He's simply building a wall. -_-

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      Kiim 3 years ago

      Well I think he's a shy guys cuz when I catched him look at me he quickly look away............. and when I ask him question he only answered me but he never ask me question back.......... and he talks to other girls in front of me and I hate that :( and he act like he doesn't know me when he's with his friend. He never talks about me with others people............. I don't like him but I just think he's kinda cute :) but sometimes I think he likes me too.............even though we didn't talk that much

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      natalie 3 years ago

      hi, So am 24, there's this guy in one of my classes. when the semester began we didn't really talk much for the first few weeks. and like I sit in the front of the room and he would sit towards the back, and one day suddenly when I came to class he was sitting in the front next to me usual seat. I got a bit nervous so I left a desk in between. Later, he asked if I could share my book with him. we sat next to each other without saying much, just a few questions. After class I began walking to my next class and he caught up to me (which is weird cuz he usually goes the other way) and just said, "thanks for sharing with me." had a few laughs then we parted ways.

      Very little contact after that.

      weeks later after class he caught up with me again and asked a simple question about the class. I noticed a tattoo on his arm so I touched it with my finger and asked what that was. again had another few laughs then parted ways.

      While on our way to the library He talked to others, then I walked by myself for a portion of the way and again he started making conversation. on our way out he made a comment on my foot then lightly kicked it and again went our ways.

      I found him on the hallway while trying to retrieve an assignment and he asked something about me. after getting our assignments I said bye and went my way.

      at the end of a class in which we didnt speak at all, I waited for a teacher and briefly raised my hand to wave good bye, and put it down. I notice him do the same, but instead hit me on my arm, then he said why did I act like i was gonna give him a high five and then didnt. all I said was "I was just waving good bye" with a puzzled look.

      What does this mean?

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      missy 3 years ago

      A man works at the gym i go to, he's nice and I've known him a while, we have talked a lot and get on pretty well. It was fancy dress in a spinning class and the guy came to take a group photo, a few days later he said ''I need your signature'' and I was like ''eh'' and he said ''I wanna put the photo on gym webpage and I need everyone to sign for permission to use it''. So I said ''yes that's fine''. But he hadn't drawn up a permission slip so said he would get back to me. When I asked the others in the pic about it, he hadn't Said anything to them about it, it was a few weeks ago and he hasn't said anymore about it to me. Next incident I was leaving and he asked if I was done already, I said ''yes it's pretty busy today and couldn't get on equipment I wanted to its annoying'' he told me I should just tell them to shift, I told him I wanted to pick him up and throw him at them, he laughed and said '' it'd be the most a woman's ever touched me in weeks''. Next, last week me and a friend went in the gym reception while waiting for our class to start, I went to the toilet, when I came back he was there with my friend talking and it came about talking about him and I told my friend he was my favourite worker there an I liked him a lot. Th Next day I initiated eye contact across the room and he reciprocated and now I catch him looking all the time and he is always coming over to talk to me when I see him. What should be my next move, there tends to be a lot of others around when I see him so it's difficult.

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      SofiaAmanee 2 years ago

      Hi I'm Sofia, 15 years old.

      There is this one guy the same year as me, we always had this eye contact. Idk for how long, but I think it's been 1 or 2 year already. WE NEVER TALK or what, since he is this famous guy while I'm just a not so famous girl hahaha. When I walk pass him, he will always talk louder hahah. But the thing is, none of us make a first move. I want to get close to him so I tried to follow him on his twitter, but he never follow me back -,- and before I forgot, my friend always caught him looking at me, so yeah thats it.

      Just wanna tell that when I had the eye contact with him, it felt like a Fairy Tale Stare where the world and time around us stopped for awhile ^^

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      Anany 2 years ago

      Hi,

      Just a question this guy continuously stares at me at work, we never spoke...Its not a friendly stare.....Its a stare with a very serious look for days this was happening I avaoided him, yesterday I had to ask him a question due to the fact no one was around, so I said excuse me and as soon as I said that he stated his real name.....kater that day I avoided him but some how he ended up by me and all of a sudden spoke to me...what do you think that means

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      Abc 2 years ago

      Hello

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      Abc 2 years ago

      I've liked this guy since 7 th grade n now I'm starting 10 th. He hated me n troubled me at that time. Then I told him my feelings n he freaked out n said no way in 8 th . Then few weeks later he asked me out n I said yes. Then I found out it was a joke so I got angry n dumped him. He pretended to be very happy then. Again after some months he asked me n said that he could not stop thinking about me. I thought a lot n said yes. He stuck to his word n was a gentleman but I screwed it up by acting like a dud(was my first relationship) . Then he started dating another girl n said he hated me. They were dating on n off for a year n finally she dumped him. He had apologised to me 7 times ( not kidding) for what he did to me when they were dating n I eventually forgave him. After everything was finally over between them he was nice to me. In the summer vacations he texted me saying he wanted to be friends. I said ok n we started texting daily. Then his phone was stolen n we weren't in toch for a few weeks. When 9 th started he behaved like a total Romeo towards me. He played with my hair , gave me compliments, found cute ways to touch me n stared a lot . I found out from a source that he liked me n a few days later he told me he loves me but i rejected him considering our history. Then we were good friends n he never stopped showing signs. On the last day of 9 th I told him I like him n he didn't respond. He got shy n started running away. Now 10th has begun n I found out that he was showing off to his friends that I like him. Finally he told my friend that he doesn't like me.I was angry so I started ignoring him n showing him attitude . He still shows the same signs n they have increased since I started ignoring him. He sptries to talk to me a lot . He becomes jealous when I talk to other guys. But he never admits that he likes me. I love him n I no he's very nice atheart coz he treats me like a princess n is very sweet to me. I don't no what to do n I have limited time or else once 10 th is over I'll lose him forever . Please help

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      abc 2 years ago

      hello ive written the above comment ...pls help me ...im really in short of time....n i forgot to add some signs .... he told me to stay away from my best friend whos a guy by saying he was cheap(hes very decent in fact) ... he was going to give me a rose at a trip but unfortunately i turned away(my friend saw it)...hes always ready to help me n eager to sit with me in class.. he cant see me sad he will always try to make me laugh when im unhappy.. he has been trying to be friends with my best friend (hes a guy) n always interrupts us when we are talking... i also saw him punch the wall whenhe saw my best friend sleeping on my shoulder ...n one day my that friend of mine asked him whether he likes me..my crush said no n asked my bff in return whether he liked me.. my bff said no.. n then my crush said even i dont like her i feel i can do better than her ...n he also told my bff that he feels that my bffs sister is prettier than me but shes weird..(n he also had a crush on her in 8th)...n my bff said that he didnt say the i can do better part... but i no he said it coz i heard it n i think my bff doesnt wanna tell me that coz itll hurt me..n one more thing ..theres this celebritys daughter whos very popular n waers hot clothes n posts pics on social sites..n he thinks shes very pretty(i think shes ugly)..n he sends her i love u msgs on these sites n she sends hearts back but she does that to every admirer..n although i no that they being together is not possible i still feel irritated seeing these msgs. He wants a very pretty girl to be with him n unfortunately i am not pretty(many other ppl think i am but he doesnt)

      but then what about the signs?for now i have started ignoring him n throwing attitude n thats making him give me more signs. please reply on u can help me...pls ..i dont wanna lose him n i have limited time..

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      abc 2 years ago

      hello ive written the above comment ...pls help me ...im really in short of time....n i forgot to add some signs .... he told me to stay away from my best friend whos a guy by saying he was cheap(hes very decent in fact) ... he was going to give me a rose at a trip but unfortunately i turned away(my friend saw it)...hes always ready to help me n eager to sit with me in class.. he cant see me sad he will always try to make me laugh when im unhappy.. he has been trying to be friends with my best friend (hes a guy) n always interrupts us when we are talking... i also saw him punch the wall whenhe saw my best friend sleeping on my shoulder ...n one day my that friend of mine asked him whether he likes me..my crush said no n asked my bff in return whether he liked me.. my bff said no.. n then my crush said even i dont like her i feel i can do better than her ...n he also told my bff that he feels that my bffs sister is prettier than me but shes weird..(n he also had a crush on her in 8th)...n my bff said that he didnt say the i can do better part... but i no he said it coz i heard it n i think my bff doesnt wanna tell me that coz itll hurt me..n one more thing ..theres this celebritys daughter whos very popular n waers hot clothes n posts pics on social sites..n he thinks shes very pretty(i think shes ugly)..n he sends her i love u msgs on these sites n she sends hearts back but she does that to every admirer..n although i no that they being together is not possible i still feel irritated seeing these msgs. He wants a very pretty girl to be with him n unfortunately i am not pretty(many other ppl think i am but he doesnt)

      but then what about the signs?for now i have started ignoring him n throwing attitude n thats making him give me more signs. please reply on u can help me...pls ..i dont wanna lose him n i have limited time..

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      sanjana 23 months ago

      see if a guy likes u then he ignores u a lot or little bit ,he instantly keep eye contact with u ,sometimes he looks u and when u look to him he see away of you,and also sometimes he don't talk to you because he shy;s to talk to you .so this are the best ways to know a guy really likes you or not. i hope.....this answer will help u a lot my frends

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      Ellie 15 months ago

      There's this shy guy I like but can't figure out if he likes me back and he blushes , avoids eye contact and only gives short word answers and plus he hasn't been to clear on past girlfriends either.

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