- Gender and Relationships
How does an unattractive woman find love
So the real question here would be..."Why do you think you are unattractive?" Everyone has their idea of what attractive is. There may be someone who is overweight, covered in acne or has a scar on her face. There are actually supermodels who are self conscience about their appearance and you wonder why would this beautiful bombshell that you would kill to look like have such a low opinion of herself, when you are one hundred pounds overweight and thinking about getting gastric bypass surgery and other cosmetic surgeries to beautify yourself. Would you believe that many models get cosmetic surgeries to correct any flaws or starve themselves so that they can resemble the size of a tooth pick?
You have had many men pass you up to talk to who you believe to be your more attractive friends. It makes you feel like such a hideous freak that should just settle for a paper bag over your head whenever you leave the house. You've tried everything to lure men to you without any luck and jealousy sinks in when you see that your friends are happily invovled with someone. Never underestimate the power of a man who has a good heart...that looks at the spirit of a woman and not the outside. It might be like finding a needle in the haystack trying to find a guy like that, but instead of driving yourself bonkers trying to find him, let him find you instead. Keep the faith that he will someday walk into your life and stay forever.
If you are a believer in God. Ask yourself this question? Why would God create someone who is unattractive to the opposite sex? More than likely you will get a reply in your spirit from God like this. "You are beautiful inside and out, a masterpiece created by my own hands who is worthy to be loved by me and a man who houses me in his spirit. God himself in this man is drawn to you and you will be drawn to him like a magnet. Physical appearances are secondary, although it is nice to be pleasing to the physical eyes, it is more important to be pleasing to the spirit.
Physical beauty can change in a heartbeat. Someone who once was a concieted beauty queen in high school where all of the boys wanted her is now a fifty year old woman who has wrinkles and crows feet, yellow teeth stained from drinking and smoking and has gained so much weight after having children. Perhaps the years you were alone from being unattached helped you to focus more on yourself. You traveled all around the world, worked on getting a career or business started and became independent, where you did not need a husband to take care of you or maybe you took time to focus on God and his love for you.
Being happy with yourself no matter what you look like is a blessing and God is pleased with someone who can appreciate the gift that he has given to the world. Maybe you think your hair is too frizzy or it is too stringy or maybe you don't like your complexion and you prefer to have a complexion like your sister who has the tan you always wanted. This does not make God happy when you complain or don't appreciate how you look. There are some people in this world who were born without arms or legs, some born with a deformity that you know you would not be able to handle and yet God put them in the world for a reason and they may even be happy with who they are, and I bet you can even find some who are happily married with a love story that can knock you out of your seat with jealousy if you heard it.
Now if you have been turned down by some guy that you had your eyes on for a long time, it very well may be a blessing in disguise. Suppose God knew that he would eventually hurt you
and he put it in this man's heart to turn you down. God wants you with someone who will compliment your very spirit and love you unconditionally. Needless to say, there is no perfect
relationships and even your soulmate will make you want to walk out of the door sometimes, but because the good Lord knows the two of you will work it out he continues to bless your relationship and bring peace to what he has ordained. Take time to learn how to love everything about yourself and that includes who you are, how you look, your spirit, your goals, your dreams and your physical appearance.
If you want to be thinner, Pray to God to give you strenght in areas where you are weak, get someone to counsel you about your weight even if it is a therapist. Join weight watchers or Jenny Craig.
Don't forget that there are dozens of fitness centers popping up all around and taking that evening stroll around the block every evening with Fido is also a good start. Get a partner to diet and exercise along with you will also help. Take care of your health in every area of you life. Always saying woe is me, I don't have a man in my life will not bring him to your door.
Sometimes when we take our minds off of what we are not supposed to be worrying about anyway, because each battle is the Lord's. You will be surprised when Mr. Forever comes into your life.
You will know him when he comes along, when before you would assumed some guy was the right one and he turned out being someone that put you down, disrespected you are dumped you. Like a magnet to steel you will be drawn as I mentioned before to this guy who will shock and surprise you when he shows up at the right time, just when you need him most.