ArtsAutosBooksBusinessEducationEntertainmentFamilyFashionFoodGamesGenderHealthHolidaysHomeHubPagesPersonal FinancePetsPoliticsReligionSportsTechnologyTravel
  • »
  • Gender and Relationships»
  • Advice & Tips for Men in Relationships

How to Be Cocky and Funny with Women but Not Be a Tool

Updated on December 8, 2012

Let's talk about your question...You asked if there ever comes a time when you
should move beyond and transcend the Cocky & Funny approach, is it because because women sometimes become nervous around them? Or they are nervous around you, or a little bit of both? Let me try to answer that with a few random points of view, that come to mind, and then I'll try and tie it all together with my general perspective, and point of view...

First, let assume that you have cultivated a strong, confident, dominant body language and good skills in communication that has become what you might call you inner cockiness.
As a result, you don't have to mix quite as much cockiness in the actual verbal conversations that you're having. If you project too much of the inner cockiness, while at the same time using overly-cocky words and euphemisms...oh well, you might come off as insecure or inevitably as too flipant and arrogant. Now I don't say things like this very often, because most guys are so far from being too cocky, and actually have more lack of confidence. And truth is that there's almost nothing at all they could do to project even close to enough of that inner cocky side most of the time..

Secondly if there is a particular situation that comes up for guys who have a strong physical presence, or guys who are naturally very handsome.If these guys are too cocky with women, manywomen get a first impression that is basically that you are inherently a jerk. And that you must be even worse, Be careful. It might backfire on you. And most likely it already has.

Thridly, if a woman is getting nervous around you, it does not necessarily mean that you're doing something wrong. Just think about how you used to feel when you were in the presence of a super-hot woman. Most guys become extremely overly nervous in these
types of situations... so much so that they are actually immobilized, and unable to act. If a beautiful fashion model wrote in to me and told me that guys get nervous around her all
the time... and then she asked if she should somehow tone down how she looks so guys wouldn't become nervous, I'd respond to her and say "Hell no. You want guys to become nervous around you because it separates the real men from the wussies, and the flakes...".

In your case, these women are becoming nervous
because THEY don't know how to handle the
situation... which is not a problem at all for
you or for the ATTRACTION she's feeling.

Look, you are becoming a POWERFUL MAN.

You are beginning to realize and cultivate
some of the natural potential that you've always
had inside... you just didn't know how to get at
it before.

Success and power often scare people, because
with success and power comes responsibility.

You realize that you're not a victim in your
life anymore, and you begin to see how you can
take control of almost every aspect of your
life... and then you begin to see that people
want to FOLLOW your lead because you have this

It is magnetic, as you mentioned.

To answer your question directly, and connect
all of these things together, I think that you
need to realize that Cocky & Funny can be thought
of in a lot of ways...

It's a concept, an idea. It's a technique,
with specific "comebacks" and "lines" for
different funny situations. It's a tool to use
for creating Sexual Tension and Chemistry with

But, as far as I'm concerned, it's FUN... it's
something that's enjoyable for the man AND the

And for most guys, it's very natural (once you
become comfortable with it).

I mean, if you like to think in terms of
things being "transcended" in life, we could just
say that you're on the path to transcend
everything, and the faster you can transcend your
need to be with women, the better off you are...

...but, then again, that might be going a
little too far... lol.


    0 of 8192 characters used
    Post Comment

    • thevoice profile image

      thevoice 7 years ago from carthage ill

      unique write nice woman thanks

    • tantrum profile image

      tantrum 7 years ago from Tropic of Capricorn

      Sometimes the voice sounds like a robot.

    • blondepoet profile image

      blondepoet 7 years ago from australia

      Bout time a man teaches a man to be a man. Roar!!!!!!!!!!!!

    • blake4d profile image

      Blake Ford Hall 7 years ago from Now Rising Out of Phoenix Arizona Earthlings

      Thanx BP. =)

    • Cheeky Girl profile image

      Cassandra Mantis 7 years ago from UK and Nerujenia

      Interesting. Women like men to be strong and strength is a quality women like. But not too much strength. And not too overpowering to the point that it suffocates her. No woman wants that. You opened the hub with a question - but didn't ask "what if she is put off by cockiness in the guy or sees it as a turn off? Sign of Immaturity? Insecurity?" I can almost see the Testosterone bouncing off the walls in this hub! Heh!

      Any man who has been to the top of the mountain doesn't have crow about it. He doesn't need to. If he needs to, he hasn't really been there. I wonder are you really just talking up the bench a bit? Also, how do you feel about cocky women? That allowed too? Some men use interesting bait to attract women. But remember some women are sharks. They will eat the bait and the rod from your hand if sufficiently motivated. Don't worry. And no matter - I enjoyed reading it! : )

      (Could you fix the typo in the title please?)

    • dotty1 profile image

      dotty1 6 years ago from In my world

      OOOO so you men are human after all??????? you have almost n....I said almost restored my faith !!!!!!!!... I think us women forget men are human and can get nervous too... I think to be funny is just the best think, as they say or at least I think someone did...(maybe it was me)....'laugh someone into bed'.... I as I have gotten older have a far different view on the males of the world...sure I have ex husbands (ahem...Idid say husbandsssss) abd they have been good looking I am far more taken by a quirky, funny and YES Mr BlakeD a funny guy.... but dont loose all the shows us sceptics that u are indeed human..... Loving your work as always D x

    • profile image

      dreamreachout 6 years ago

      Blake, you have given us fresh ideas!! Cheers!!

    • profile image

      karma. 6 years ago

      I think cheeky is very wise. Thank you for this thought provoking hub that you shared with us,


    • bethperry profile image

      Beth Perry 6 years ago from Tennesee

      Very interesting!

    • blake4d profile image

      Blake Ford Hall 5 years ago from Now Rising Out of Phoenix Arizona Earthlings

      Thanx Karma and Bethperry. Keep on Hubbing. Blake4d

    Click to Rate This Article