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How to Be Interesting When You Are Boring

Updated on July 29, 2013

Is she bored or is he boring?

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Have you ever sat uncomfortably amongst a group of people and had nothing to say?

Do you try to chime in on a conversation but don’t because you are speechless?

Do your eyes wander around the room when you are facing a person one on one?

Do you bite your fingernails, play with your hair or look the other way to avoid contact?

Do you want to be a part of the conversation, but don’t know how?

You may not be boring, but you may be a bore. Read this hub and learn how to be intriguing to anyone at any place you may be.

What's a boring person to do?

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Bored People Are Boring

How do you come across to others? Are you bored or excited? You might think you are passionate, but if you are passionate about the wrong thing in the wrong way at the wrong time to the wrong people then you are boring. People who are considered a bore don’t want to be boring at all. They just don’t know another way, so they use any and every method to get attention. That’s the wrong way to get into a conversation. What ends up happening is that you spin your wheels doing everything to get attention and find out that no one is genuinely interested and then you get bored and stop. You stop because your system is not working. So you blame others. You blame yourself. You wonder what’s wrong with you. You wonder why other people don’t get you, your jokes, and your personality. You are working way too hard.

How to Be Interesting

The best way to be perceived as not boring is to be interesting. Now this may seem upside-down from how you’ve been doing things, but it’s not. It’s the perfect way forward.

Truth is you can’t become or make yourself interesting. You are already interesting. Every human being is. We are all different, unique and distinctive. But how do you get the people to care?

The first thing you do is show interest in other people. Stop doing you so much and do them. Learn about the people you are associated with. Get to know them. When you show interest in them, they’ll start to show interest in.

The Problem With Being Boring

The problem that I found with uninteresting people is that they are greedy. They want all the attention. They are so concerned with others seeing for who they are they don’t take the time to see other people.

It’s a common truth we get what we give in life and what we think happens, happens. So if you are not willing to take the time to get to know other people and become genuinely interested in them. For example learn their likes and dislikes.

Likewise, if you think you are boring, then you’ll be perceived as boring. Perception is everything. Get out from under the umbrella of boredom and make waves with like-minded people. For instance, if you are a person that likes collecting rocks then find other people that like collecting rocks too. Far too often boring people try to connect with just anyone and get upset when those people are interested. If those people are rock collectors, why would they be that interested in your rock collection for any time worth mentioning?

To recap, if you are uninteresting or think you are perceived as a boring person then take action by becoming interesting. Find your tribe and get involved with them. Network, partner and get to know people that share your similar interests. Before you start talking about how great you are, recognize the greatness in others, and soon you’ll realize you’re not actually boring at all.

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    • livelifeworryfree profile imageAUTHOR

      Princess Clark 

      4 years ago from The DMV

      I agreed with you 100%. Interest in others leads to relationship success. Dale Carnegie said this; "You can close more business in two months by becoming genuinely interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you."

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      Ronald E Franklin 

      4 years ago from Mechanicsburg, PA

      Interesting hub. For me the most striking thing you say is, "Bored People Are Boring." You mention that the best way to not be boring is to be interesting. I would add, be interestED. The more you become genuinely interested in other people and in the things that interest them, the less they will see you as boring.

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