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How to Be Single (And Love It)
There are a number of reasons why you might want to learn how to be single. If you were recently in a long relationship or have dated several people just to find yourself single again, you might want to learn how to be single. Whatever the reason, you are probably wondering how to be single and happy.
Being happy, while not being involved with someone is not an impossible task (even if you've just suffered heartbreak.) You might not want to be single, but maybe you're not yet ready to date or cannot find the right person. Learning ways to cope with not being in a relationship is vital, not only for your own happiness when you're single, but also leads to healthier relationships in the future!
Learning to love yourself will help you later in life if/when you choose to be in a relationship as it will have made you a stronger person. If you're going to be single, you should be able to enjoy your life.
Take Charge of Your Life
There is no such thing as the perfect relationship, so there's no reason to feel jealous or upset at those who have found love. Every day we see fake relationships that Hollywood writers have made for us, where people have no flaws and they meet their soul mates.
Remember that the people around you are real people and, therefore, not Hollywood perfect. No-one you know, no matter how happy they appear, has the perfect relationship. Enjoying being single is about enjoying life, even allowing yourself to have fun at a wedding without bringing a date, as lonely as that may sound.
Before you can be happy, you have to get rid of the green monster that rears its ugly head when you see a couple walking hand-in-hand. If you feel yourself becoming envious of a couple, you have to remember that there are times that they even have to work at being happy.
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Kick the Negativity
One part of being single is having to hear other people ask, "have you found someone special?" or "so... are you seeing anyone?" We live in a couple-focused society, so it can be hard for people to understand being a singleton. That said, being single can feel lonely sometimes so hearing things like this can make you feel bad about yourself, but don't let it!
You own your feelings, NEVER let anyone make you feel bad about the person you are. Explain to the person how it makes you feel when they make comments about your lifestyle, but remember that even though they hurt your feelings, you should take care not to hurt theirs when talking to them. If they continue to make hurtful comments, it may be best to cut them out of your life.
You don't need anyone to make you feel bad about yourself. (By the way, that's one huge benefit to being single: no-one to nitpick!) Being single can be hard work, so you need to surround yourself with people who make you feel good about yourself.
One great thing about being single is that you will be able to work on making more friends. Having good friends is important whether or not you are single, so you'll always benefit from having a good group of buddies.
If you end up in another relationship that doesn't work out, your friends will be there for you, so this is a huge reason to work on getting more friends. Also, hanging out with friends is a blast! Make it a top priority to make more friends. Having friends to rely on will help you curb any loneliness that comes with being single. That said, don't make friends just to have them! Make friends with the types of people you enjoy being around.
How to Remain Optimistic
When someone says, "be optimistic" it's easy to think, "well, how can anyone just be happy?" But being optimistic doesn't mean being happy when things are rough, it means to make the best out of a situation. It's like that cliché saying, "when life gives you lemons, alter their DNA and make super lemons" (or however it goes...)
When a situation gets difficult, it's easy to throw in the towel and get upset, but it never feels good. What you can do instead, is think of things that make you feel good about yourself. This sounds like a really basic technique, but it really works.
Make a list of the good things about yourself and resist the temptation to start writing negative things about yourself. This activity is about feeling good and turning a bad situation into a good one. If things seem pretty dim, just know that things will change.
Freedom: A Singleton's Best Friend
You're single! Think about it! You can seriously do whatever you want. You can leave the toilet seat exactly how you like it. No-one is going to nitpick about what's on television or complain about your quirky habits. Plus, you don't have to deal with anyone else's quirky habit!
You can travel the globe on a fairly small amount of money and you can pick ALL the places you visit! That's right! Since you're single, you don't have to compromise on anything. It's all you, enjoy it! You may want to consider taking up new hobbies, even ones that you're unfamiliar with as long as it's something that you think may be enjoyable.
When you're single and free, you'll be able to find out everything you never knew you enjoyed doing. If you have relationships later, you'll have so much more to share and talk about! Pretty great perk, right?
Being single is about getting to know yourself, becoming self-sufficient, and learning to love yourself. By filling your life with activities, friends, and positive feelings, you will feel better than you ever have before. This is your life, live it the way you want!