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How to Bond with the People in Your Neighborhood
Bonding with neighbors is the key to connecting with others for the sake of building a thriving community. Identifying ways neighbors can come together to create a vibrant neighborhood where acceptance, friendliness, and inspiration are the order of the day is the work of a compassionate leader.
Anybody with the mindset to see people reaching out and loving one another can become a neighborhood pathfinder.
The power and strength of a community depend on the quality of group bonding among the people in the neighborhood. When true intimacy is established, the people in the community take on a family mentality.
Importance of Establishing Relationships
Establishing relationships in a neighborhood creates unity and strength. As a result, the power to do wonderful things becomes a reality. When people join in a common goal, for instance, making a neighborhood beautiful, they become more empowered to fulfill the goal. However, if people fall into a selfish and indifferent mode, the potential for creating relationships is very improbable.
I have lived in a neighborhood where everybody stayed strangers. No one made any effort to get to know another. People minded their own business. Although the neighborhood was extremely quiet and deserted-looking most of the time, walking alone had become dangerous. Gangs roamed the streets, especially in the late evening, looking for the next victims to rob.
Therefore, beware! Quiet neighborhoods can be deceptive.
The unity and strength you create from connecting to your neighbors, including the people next door, the woman setting on the back porch, the man mowing the front lawn, or the elderly couple walking from the corner store, is vital for building a social able and secure environment
Things to Do for Bonding
The goal is to bond with the people in your neighborhood so that an environment of unity and trust can be established. Building such bond can be obtained via several community activities, including
- Block parties which bring people together
- Carnivals and fun activities for neighborhood children
- Game nights: chess, cards, and dominos
- Helping with yard work
- Sharing cookies and pies via tea parties
- Weekend fishing trips
- Small talk and introductions
- Neighborhood clean—up weekend
- Neighborhood Discussion panels that address community issues and threats
Are You a Good Neighbor?
Are You Passionate about Finding Friends and Creating Bonds in Your Neighborhood?
Challenging Selfishness and Indifference
We are all fragile humans. Sometimes it takes the effort to be social. There are times when you will not feel like going out and engaging in friendly conversations with the people in your surroundings. However, staying connected in vitally important. You must somehow motivate yourself.
When you find yourself falling into a selfish pattern in which you start avoiding people, then you must reexamine your purpose for living: to find well-being and unity with fellow humans. That is what you are! You are human and since you are part of humanity, people depend on you to show love and demonstrate love in conversation and activity.
“Loving our neighbor,” is everybody’s business. If we all welcomed each other, then there would be no crime and violence. Only peace and love would prevail among us.
Overcoming My Personal Loneliness
I used to be a selfish individual. Most of the time, I passed people by without speaking. Many times, I just didn’t feel like exerting the energy or just didn’t want to be bothered. I didn’t even want people
walking behind me. I would either speed up or turn another corner until they passed by and walked further up the sidewalk.
However, all the while a profound sense of loneliness was inwardly tearing me apart for lack of intimacy with others. My loneliness became so tormenting that I couldn’t take it any longer and was forced visit the local church just to be around loving people or at least people who pretended to care.
From then on, after the love I received, and the mental and spiritual renewal it provided me, I begin to acknowledge people wherever I went. It felt good to speak to others and be spoken back to most of the time. What I learned was the disconnection from humanity creates suspicions and a subtle form of indirect hatred that must be eliminated if our joy and mental well-being are going to be a reality.
The Bottom Line
Bonding with the people in your surroundings cannot happen if you refuse to come out from behind the four walls your homes. If you prioritize such mentality, you will go a long way in helping to create an environment in which peace and goodwill among neighbors prevail.