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How to Break up With a Girl

Updated on January 10, 2013

Relationship Advice: Breaking up with your girlfriend

This hub will cover a difficult topic in life, that most of guys go through. You know when it goes wrong, but sometimes you just don't know what's the best way to break up with a girl. Well, I had my share of breaking ups, so let me tell you what I've learned.

I'm also going to tell you IF you should break up and how to get your girl back if you regret it: Just make sure that you are not playing her, I don't want to help ill intended males.

Should I Break up?

One of the main questions that haunt your mind when you consider this option is "Should I break up?". Well, I'll help you with it.

There are three main components in relationships that you should consider: Love, Friendship and Attraction!

To have a worthy better half you should be in tune in all these 3 distinct areas, or at least you must have a solvable problem. If your problem in one of these areas, or in any of these areas, isn't solvable - if you think it will remain there for ever - then you should break up. It's as simple as that.

A good relationship is one that you look at these 3 components and find out you fill all of them: You have a girl that is not only your lover, but your best friend.

If you aren't in tune, then one of you - or possibly both - will always be unhappy: And that just can't be.

If you think you're not meant to grow old together, then do break up!

Breaking up Relationships

Breaking up is never easy, but respect these steps and you did your best:

  • Be kind: She is suffering, try to be kind and understanding
  • Justify: Don't use a cliché sentence, make her understand why it doesn't work and why she will be happier without you.
  • Reasons: Don't dare to hand out shallow or insufficient reasons, when you go break up make sure you have powerful and understandable reasons for it
  • Physical: Don't break up via a friend, text message, phone, online etc... no other mean works - just personal chatter
  • Public Places: DON'T break up in public places, pick a place where you will be alone and uninterrupted.
  • Flee: When you are done, she will try to run or hide, so break up on a place she is comfortable in - like her place, so you are the one to leave and she is in her comfort zone.

You should always try to place yourself on her shoes, try to be kind and understanding, but be clear that it is over. One of the most important aspects is making sure you are alone in a place she is comfortable in, don't drag her out of her comfort zone to break up with her.

Regardless of all of this, it won't be easy I know, but be sure to follow these guidelines.

How to get your girlfriend back after a break up:

How to get your girlfriend back after a break up? Oh boy, you surely made a wrong move this time.

I mean, why did you broke up with her on the first place? Why would you want to go back together? It didn't work the first time around, what makes you think it will work this time?

Sorry for all of the questions, but this is a topic that would give a new article on its own! If you broke up with her to be with another girl and you had your fun or she rejected you and you now want to go back to your ex-girlfriend - sorry, I won't help you out! In fact, my advice for you is "grow up and be a man". Don't be a baddy!

Now, for those of you that broke up on a legit reason and know it will pay back to go back to their girlfriends here is the tip: Ask her to meet with you somewhere privately and talk to her eye to eye!

You don't want to talk to her via text message or online, and certainly not with company, so man up and face her. Explain why you need her back and why you were wrong when you broke up with her.

Pro Tip: Clearly state that you were mistaken and that you are dumb and that you totally deserve to be forgotten, but that you had to try and get her back. Be humble and devoted.

Dating after Break Up Depression

If when you break up with your girl you figure you're fine, then great! If not, this is very common and it is called "Break Up Depression". Yeap, there's a name for that.

Break up depression might manifest itself in several ways: You may feel you "feel" awesome and just want to go party and get a rebound girlfriend: This isn't you thinking clearly, you need to slow down. It can manifest itself by making you feel you will remain forever alone, that you have no interest, or that you can't trust anyone. These are all common problems after breaking up.

What you have to do is: Take your time!

Simple as that, you must take your time to let it heal. Don't avoid talking about it, don't act so strong and impervious to everything. Let yourself go with the wind and you will get back on your feet lightning fast!

If you broke up, it is because she wasn't the right girl for you - the right one will appear! And you will trust her.... and be happy.

Trust me on this!

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    • Rui Carreira profile image

      Rui Carreira 5 years ago from Torres Novas

      Thanks for the kind comment and for stopping by Esther!

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      Rui Carreira 5 years ago from Torres Novas

      Hello Rosana, Thank you for stopping by on my hub and for the comment. Kisses

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      Rosana Modugno 5 years ago from 10th Kingdom

      Interesting hub, Rui. I like that it was from a man's point of view. Thumbs up.

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      Rui Carreira 5 years ago from Torres Novas

      Oh, and I'm far from mastering it!

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      actionbronson 5 years ago

      great thread my friend! Definitely not an easy task!

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      Jill Spencer 5 years ago from United States

      Oh no, Rui. I think I'm just a bad communicator! Take it easy, Jill

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      Rui Carreira 5 years ago from Torres Novas

      Ahaha... Can't believe you married the guy after breaking up 3 times ON THE PHONE... boy oh boy, he must really love you then, seeing as you were such a baddie

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      Jill Spencer 5 years ago from United States

      Rui, this hub looks great and has really good advice--for both men and women. Years ago, I broke up with a guy over the phone three times--or I thought I'd broken up with him. But he kept calling me, every night, at the same time as if nothing had happened. I ended up marrying him! Miss you on the team, dude. Will share this one on HP.