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How to Have a Godly Relationship

Updated on October 29, 2010

In these modern times when many temptations, trials and tribulations persist, the importance of knowing how to build a Godly relationship cannot be overemphasized. After all, the most important wealth we can possess in this world is our relationships with our family and friends. Everything else is just dust in the wind, so to speak.

So, how exactly do you build a Godly relationship? Well, there really are no universal steps towards this goal but suffice it to say that the ultimate objective of a Godly relationship is to place God squarely in its center. You may think of God as the third party in your relationship but instead of being the cause of the breakup, which most often happens with human third parties, God becomes the glue that holds both of you together as one.

Read the Bible Together

You need not be as religious as the Pharisees of old - your spirituality more than the show of religiosity matters most. The Bible is full of practical advice for people in relationships that can and will serve as the foundation upon which your Godly relationship is built on. Indeed, God will be at the center of the relationship with the Bible as his guide for doing so.

When you read the Bible together, you will be enlightened as to the things that need to be done in order to strengthen your relationship. You can start about the definition of love as contained in 1 Corinthians 13:4.

Exercise Sexual Restraint

Of course, exercising sexual restraint only applies to people in a romantic relationship. This does not mean, however, that signs of affection like kissing (however a word of caution regarding french kissing as this can lead to deep emotions being unleashed) and hugging are strictly not allowed since these are but normal in a loving relationship. You just have to exercise self-discipline in knowing when to draw the line so that the temptation to go all the way is avoided.

As old-fashioned as it sounds, engaging in premarital sex is one of the major obstacles in the ways on how to build a Godly relationship. After all, when one engages in sex, the sense of respect for the other person somehow becomes lesser, admit it or not.


Maintain Your Personality

It is so easy to be lost in a relationship. You want to please your future spouse that you will accede to just about every wish. You want to maintain the relationship by all means necessary even if it means gradually losing sight of who you are as a person. You want to keep your man that keeping yourself happy for yourself becomes second priority.

Well, this should not be simply because a Godly relationship still means two separate people choosing to be together as one. If you lose your personality in favor of the other, then that is not a mutual relationship. It may be called a robotic instead.

There are many more ways on how to build a Godly relationship, of which the three are the most important. Just remember that in a Godly relationship, three persons are involved - you, God and your future spouse. All other factors such as family, friends and work are often secondary and/or complementary in nature.


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      Sophia-LeAnne 5 years ago from District of Colombia

      This is a great post. This is a subject that really holds people accountable. It's nice to be in love and want to do everything for our significant other but it's more important to honor God. It's easy to fall victim to the desire of the flesh and what you have listed here is a good reminder of what believers are to display when in a romantic relationship.

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      rooney 5 years ago

      Ok,I'm turning 20 and I have a young girlfriend turning 18,my wish was never to lay my hands on her,we both love each other and I want our relationship to last,how best can I prove to her my love without having to do something related to sex?

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      tressy 5 years ago

      i am very much agree too.. i know there were lots of cahalenges in relationship but it will bring mre to adeeper relationship when you realize some thing that is not right and you fight for it because you know its not right in the eyes of God

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      blesyn 6 years ago

      yeah,i personally do not ve anything against it save that caution shd b exercised.i discuss everything with my fiance.d hitch is the subject may arouse latent sexual emotions and if u r like us keeping the relationship chaste,it would do alot of good if u pray well 2geda prior and after the all things my bro,wisdom remains the principal thing.God bless u

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      matthew 6 years ago

      I have a question is it ok for me and my fiance to discuss wot our expectations about sex are before we get married?