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How to Calm Down Your Anger
What is Anger
It is a sort of reaction to an impulse. This impulse can be violation of one’s rights, wrongdoing, injustice, disgrace, and anything that compels a person to react in such a way as to harm others. When a person gets angry, his heart begins to palpitate with increased rate. His blood pressure goes up immediately, gets blushed and ready to take action against the provoking impulse. There are various changes, which are visible in the behaviour of an angry person. Changes in facial expression, body language and behaviour can be seen easily. According to Tavris, “The response varies from person to person, but some symptoms include teeth grinding fists clenching, flushing, paling, prickly sensations, numbness, sweating, muscle tensions and temperature changes.”
Katherine Kam, who writes for WebMd, asserts that “Emotions such as anger and hostility quickly activate the "fight or flight response," in which stress hormones, including adrenaline and cortisol, speed up your heart rate and breathing and give you a burst of energy. Blood pressure also rises as your blood vessels constrict.
Harmful Effects of Anger
High level of wrath has extraordinarily physiological effects on heart and arteries. Scientists have studied the effects of high level of anger on heart. Katherine Kam, who writes for WebMd, asserts that “Emotions such as anger and hostility quickly activate the "fight or flight response," in which stress hormones, including adrenaline and cortisol, speed up your heart rate and breathing and give you a burst of energy. Blood pressure also rises as your blood vessels constrict.” But it should be kept in mind that low level of anger does not have harmful effects on heart. It is only high level of anger which may result in heart failure and heart diseases. Anger may cause high blood pressure, anxiety, headache, sweating, shivering and grinding of teeth. High level of anger is usually the result of health problems, such as, Headache, Indigestion, Asthma, Eczema, Insomnia, Glaucoma, Anxiety, Stroke, Depression, high blood pressure, heart attack, tense muscles and Psoriasis.
Anger likewise affects the mental health. Research has proved that there are some triggers that provoke anger. It may result in due to loneliness, anxiety, insomnia, depression and excessive load of work. A person may become ill-tempered and irritable due to work load and tense environment, which may lead to influence his whole life. It may lead to bring about a breach in his matrimonial relationship. An angry person doesn’t know what he is going to do. He is under the pressure of intense emotion, which blinds him and paralyses his brain temporarily. His brain gets numbed for a while, and he does what his emotions decree him. Many relationships have been ruined due to extreme level of rage.
Anger is a natural process, but it can be controlled before it controls you. Everyone, deliberately or unwittingly, endeavours hard to control his indignation. There are generally three approaches to control your fury: Expression, Suppression and Calming.
Expression of Anger
Expression of anger plays a vital role in the management of your anger. Though expression of anger may result into untoward situation, but a positive catharsis of anger will certainly give you relief. When you get angry, try to give vent to your anger in a positive way. It should not be in aggressive manner. It doesn’t mean hurting and disgracing others. Rather, it implies expression of anger in a mild way and keeping respect for others. It is pertinent to mention here that a certain amount of anger is necessary for you to defend yourself, when you are in hot water. Sometimes, your anger may save you from adverse situation. It is a way of subduing your rival.
Suppression of Anger
Suppression of anger is likewise important to control your anger. Suppression of anger involves diverting your attention to something constructive activity and preventing yourself from expression of your anger. When you get angry, try to focus your attention on something positive. It should be noted that there is a little bit danger in this type of method. Unexpressed rage may result into complications for you. According to American Psychological Association, “The danger in this type of response is that if it isn't allowed outward expression, your anger can turn inward—on yourself. Anger turned inward may cause hypertension, high blood pressure, or depression.” Our holy prophet Muhammad (P.B.U.H.) said: "A strong man is not he who defeats his adversary by wrestling, but a strong man is he who controls himself at the time of anger."
Calming down means getting control over outward and inward anger. It is somewhat a difficult task to calm down, but it can prevent you a great deal from the dangers of anger. It is to subside the level of anger inside and refrain from shouting, kicking things, and screaming at others. The best way to calm down is to take things lightly and ignore whatever is provoking your anger. Just divert your attention and control your anger as much as possible.
Water Can Cure Anger
Prophet Muhammad (SAW) said, “Anger comes from the devil, the devil was created of fire, and fire is extinguished only with water; so when one of you becomes angry, he should perform ablution.”
How do deal with anger?
In every religion, anger has been considered as a sin and a root cause of evil. Anger may lead to evil. According to the teachings of Islam, anger has been forbidden. Narated by Abu Huraira : A man said to the Prophet , “Advise me! “The Prophet said, “Do not become angry and furious.” The man asked (the same) again and again, and the Prophet said in each case, “Do not become angry and furious.”
Our holy Prophet has also taught us how to control anger. He said, “When one of you becomes angry while standing, he should sit down. If the anger leaves him, well and good; otherwise he should lie down.”
The teachings of Islam also throw light on how to calm down. Water is the only thing that can decrease our anger. Prophet Muhammad (SAW) said, “Anger comes from the devil, the devil was created of fire, and fire is extinguished only with water; so when one of you becomes angry, he should perform ablution.”
In Christianity, anger has also been criticized a lot. Know this, my beloved brothers: let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger; for the anger of man does not produce the righteousness of God. (James 1:19-20)
According to Christianity, anger can be controlled through recitation of Bible, prayer and reliance upon God’s Holy Spirit. Thus in every religion, there is a specific panacea for controlling anger.
Water has a great power to control your anger. When you get angry, try to drink a glass of water as it subsides your anger.
I hope this hub might have helped you in getting control your anger. Please let me know about your feedback.
© 2014 Muhammad Rafiq