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FAMILY, LOVE AND RELATIONSHIP: Choosing A Lifetime Partner

Updated on September 15, 2016

Happy Marriage


How to choose your partner in life?

Millions of people are mated but they are not matched. The path of married life may appear beautiful and full of happiness but thousands of others have been disappointed after marriage because they are not warned to make haste slowly in the choice of the companion.

The Vital Factors in your choice

One of the important in your life is the step you are about to read and should not be taken for granted. You may love but do not believe that love is blind.

*Watch out every development of character in the person with whom you think to link your life destiny that is why you need to weigh every sentiment.

*You need to examine carefully to see if your married life would be happy in the future so you need to reflect.

*The couple should realize that farther than whether they loved each other, they should be responsible enough in the marriage relation.

*The choice of a life companion is to secure the physical, the mental and the spiritual being for parents and children that will enable them to bless others and God.

*Many of the couple are entering marriage relation without realizing the responsibility rests upon them.

Wife Prospect

The following are duly considered:

*Is she the one to stand by his side?

*Will she be patient and painstaking?

*Will she make him happy in her love?

*Has she anything now to depend upon?

*Will she bring happiness to your home?

*Will she not leave her father and mother?

*Are her principles correct in this direction?

*Is she fitted to bear her share of life's burdens?

*Will she use all your earnings and hers to gratify a love of appearance?

*Will she not withdraw him from their society just to suit her own pleasure?

*Will she have care for your mother and father at the very time when they need a strong son to lean upon?

Husband Prospect

All girls should ask the following:

*Is he worthy?

*Is his life pure?

*Will he be patient with my mistakes?

*Does he respect and honor his parents?

*Does he recognize his obligations to her?

*Has he the traits that will make her happy?

*Is he mindful of her wishes and happiness?

*Can she find true peace and joy in his affection?

*Will she be allowed to preserve her individuality?

*When the novelty of marriage is over, will he love me still?


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      Robelyn Yambao 4 years ago from Philippines

      Thank you dashingscorpio, I know many women did a wrong decision when they didn't plan before entering marriage life. I have a friend that always insist to me to get married since I am 29 at the moment. I told her I am not ready for it. I need to save money and be stable in my career to support my children in the near future but sadly she has wrong insight about marriage. She thinks if the woman is old already, it will be hard for her to conceive or have a baby. We are completely opposite opinion about marriage. Now, I saw some difficulty in her marriage life but I don't want to blame her, that's her opinion. But I do give her some advises about how to handle and face early marriage life. :)

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      dashingscorpio 4 years ago

      You have provided some good tips here. Voted up and useful!

      Personally speaking I believe it always comes back to knowing one's self. The majority of relationships are formed by "happenstance". Very few people sit down and figure out (who they are) let alone what they want and need in a mate. Once they are knee deep in a relationship they try to change their mates. Another group is too unrealistic or unprepared for marriage. Too often people get married without having a (plan). They assume everything will just work itself out. Some start having children before they complete their education/training or establish a career for themselves. They make it harder on themselves than it had to be.

      The biggest mistakes people make is ignoring red flags during the courtship and not sticking to their own "shopping list" when it comes to selecting a mate. Being unrealistic is also very big especially for young women. They need to know most men don't seriously start thinking about marriage until they are in their (late) 20s or early 30s. Guys who are in their late teens or early 20s are in no rush to become their parents!

      Men don't grow up pretending to be fathers playing with or nurturing dolls, decorating Ken & Barbie's Playhouse, cooking cakes in an Easy-Bake Oven, dressing up like "Prince Charming" or dreaming about their wedding day. In essence women have several years of head start thinking along the lines of marriage and parenthood than most men. Any woman in her late teens or early 20s is probably setting themselves up for heartache if they believe their counterpart wants or is ready for a "lifetime" commitment. (In the U.S.A)

      One man's opinion! :-)

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      Robelyn Yambao 4 years ago from Philippines

      Thank you so much for dropping by. I love what you have said about this topic. God bless

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      HattieMattieMae 4 years ago from Limburg, Netherlands

      You have a good list here. Fortunately, there are many families from broken homes, have abusive families and addictions. As a minister myself, as well as human/social worker I would say not in all cases, but in some you can be a healthy women or man regardless of past family back ground, but at the same time estranged from mother or father. It's not a perfect world and although we'd love to assume that is the best case scenario we all get along with our parents, not every does.