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How to Choose Your Life Partner

Updated on December 21, 2015
How to Choose Your Life Partner
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Choosing a Life Partner

Choosing the right partner is a major problem for everyone in this era of materialism. It requires a lot of prudence to make a precise decision. Nobody knows how his proposed life partner will behave in the near future after becoming his spouse. Choosing your spouse is important because you will have to lead the rest of your life with your spouse. That is why, it carries so much importance. Your life will be joyous and full of pleasure if you find a compatible life partner. There are many individuals who are looking for wealth not for a life partner. They are interested more in your wealth. That is why, you should be more careful while choosing your life partner as it is a matter of whole life. One bad decision can ruin your whole life. So, follow the following steps to avoid any mistake while choosing your life partner:

A Difficult Decision

Choosing the right partner is a major problem for everyone in this era of materialism. It requires a lot of prudence to make a precise decision.

Step 1

Ask yourself! What are your ideals? What sort of spouse do you want? What are you looking for in your partner? This is the most important step in choosing your life partner. Once you have made up your mind that your spouse should have the qualities and peculiarities that you want, then, it is pretty possible to proceed further in the matter.

How to Choose Your Life Partner
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Step 2

The second step is very important in your hunt for a right and better life partner. You might have already someone in your mind. If you think she is the one whom you are looking for, then never hesitate to start courtship. When you embark upon courting your proposed life partner, try to be open. Let her know who you are and what you are. Never hide anything from your lifer partner as it will have very negative consequences in the long run. You must ask her a lot of questions so that you may get to know about her personality, likes and dislikes.

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Step 3

When courting your proposed life partner, it is mandatory to find out as to whether she possesses sacrifice or not. Matrimonial relationship is the name of sacrificing one’s whole life for his partner. If there is no element of sacrifice in both of you, then, it your matrimonial life won’t last for long. It will fall flat and will lead to separation. So, find out whether she is ready to sacrifice everything for you or not. You must also ask yourself as to whether you are ready to sacrifice everything for her. Think over it and proceed further.

Step 4

Mutual understanding is a backbone of matrimonial relationship. While courting your life partner, try to understand her thoroughly in terms of her likes and dislikes, interests, eating habits etc. Likewise, let her understand you well. Inform her about your likes and dislikes and interests. Ensure here that you will not be her life partner rather you will be a part and parcel of her wellbeing. Ensure her that your happiness depends upon your happiness and joy.

Who is an Ideal Life Partner?

An ideal life partner is the one who knows the importance of family. A person who knows how to treat your parents, sister and brothers will be a suitable spouse for you.

Step 5

An ideal life partner is the one who knows the importance of family. A person who knows how to treat your parents, sister and brothers will be a suitable spouse for you. While courting your life partner, find out about her opinion about family life. Will she respect your parents, sisters and brothers? Will she adjust herself to the conditions over there in your family? Will she raise a better family with you? Will she become an ideal member of your family? These are the questions, which must be answered in courting your life. The question is: “How to know your life partner will respect your family members?” There is a simple criterion. If she respects others, she will certainly respect your family members as well. So, make sure she is not saucy, loquacious, ill-tempered and too much reserved.

How to Choose Your Life Partner

Step 6

This step has a paramount importance in matrimonial relationship. While courting your life, find out whether the person you are courting is amicable, responsive, passionate, amorous or frigid. You might have noted that many matrimonial relationships get ruined due to frigidity of a husband or wife. Lack of feelings for sex is the root cause of separation in most cases. While courting your proposed life partner, try to know about her response about sex matters. It will give an in-depth analysis of her personality.

Step 7

Remember that marriage is not a bond of two people. It is a union of two souls, who merge with each other and take the shape of one being. If one soul is suffering from pain, then the other must also realize the same pain. There should be physical and spiritual attraction between you and your spouse. What keeps this relationship is love and affection. While courting your proposed life partner, it should be noted that what force is attracting you both together. Ask yourself. Is it love or something else? Is it a compromise? Is it an arranged marriage? Always follow the dictum,” Marry the one, who loves you. Not the one, whom you love.”

Frigidity Ruins Matrimonial Relationship
Frigidity Ruins Matrimonial Relationship | Source

Step 8

While courting you proposed life partner, find out her views about raising children. Some people do not want to have children. That is why many relationships get ruined due to unwillingness of a partner to have children. One partner wants to have children, while the other is not ready to raise children.

Step 9

This is the last step, which is extraordinarily important.While courting your proposed life partner, test her as to whether she will walk up to your expectations or not. A loyal woman will never run after other man. She will not establish any other relationship outside the boundaries of marriage.

Loyalty Keeps the Relationship Evergreen
Loyalty Keeps the Relationship Evergreen | Source

Remember

Nobody is perfect. Man is to err. According to Sam Keen, “We come to love not by finding a perfect person, but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly.”

You cannot find a perfect person in this world. Everybody has got some flaws in their character. Still we have to compromise on many things to keep the vehicle of life running and on the right track. Moreover, marriages are settled in the heaven. It is already written in your fate that who will be your life partner if you believe in divine powers. The best way to find your life partner is to follow the above-mentioned steps and ignore minor flaws and blemishes. Just propose the one you want to be your life partner and enjoy your life. Happy-go-lucky people enjoy the life in full essence.

© 2014 Muhammad Rafiq

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      FlourishAnyway 3 years ago from USA

      This is one of the most important decisions a person will make. I am intrigued by your recommendation to marry who loves you, not necessarily who you love ... Mr. Right vs. Mr. Good Enough. Eventually it all comes down to deep friendship and admiration. A lifetime is a long time.

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      Muhammad Rafiq 3 years ago from Pakistan

      Thanks FlourishAnyway for your comments. Remain blessed.

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      C E Clark 3 years ago from North Texas

      Very interesting article. There are a good many things 2 people considering marriage should learn about each other before deciding to marry. Often sexual attraction takes over, but as my article on evolutionary psychology explains, one's nose should be the starting point of a lifelong relationship. Read it and see what I'm referring to.

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      Muhammad Rafiq 3 years ago from Pakistan

      Thanks Aufait for your comments. Remain blessed.

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      Muhammad Rafiq 3 years ago from Pakistan

      Ok, I'll definitely go through the pages of the said article.

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      Word 12 months ago from Chicago

      This seems to be some excellent steps to follow in finding a suitable mate. This was well done. Thanks for sharing Rafiq23.

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      Muhammad Rafiq 12 months ago from Pakistan

      Thanks Word55 for your comments. I am glad you liked it.

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