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How to Leave a Bad Relationship
How to Leave a Bad Relationship
The first step you need to take when you begin to notice your relationship is going sour, is to ask yourself if the person you're in love with, feels the same way about you? You can't have a one-sided relationship. Well technically you can, but what's fun about being with someone who would rather be with anyone but you. Who wants to be with someone who doesn't love them back. Here are a few ways to spot if the flame has started fading in their hearts.
1. Do they tell you they love you?
2. Do they show you they love you?
3. Have they stopped communicating on a regular basis?
4. Are they spending more time away with (work, friends, anything but you)?
5. Are they cold and complacent?
If you have answered yes to any of these and nothing major has happened such as (death in their family, lost job, or lost wages, etc...) then more than likely their love for you has faded. Below are some tips on how to deal with leaving someone you love.
So What Now?
So now that you have figured out your relationship is kind of like a daytime soap opera That's falling apart at the seams. You have come to the realization that you have to make that gut wrenching, life changing decision. Do you leave, or stay?
I mean you could stay and wait for them to makeup their minds, all while making you miserable in the process. But why put yourself through the unnecessary heartache and pain. Breaking up with your partner is going to be painful and hard, but you will get through this.
Below is a couple of ways to ease the pain of your broken heart.
Keep Your Friends Close
Having a good, long talk with one of your best friends can be very helpful when trying to cope with your breakup. A good friend will usually let you burn their ears up for hours on end. Three or four of those good long talk session and you should start to see and feel a difference.
You could even plan a girls/guys night out to help you take your mind off things. Please don't go looking for love again, at least until your heart has a chance to heal.
Don't Doubt Your Decision
Don't ever doubt yourself for leaving an unloving partner, why live your life like that. People fall out of love sometimes, it hurts, but that's a part of life. You making the decision to walk out of a bad situation might end up being what will put you in the right situation. I promise you will find love again.
Enjoy Some Me Time
Spend a little time doing stuff for yourself, this will always uplift your spirits. Get a manicure, massage, or whatever else you want. Spending this much needed alone time will not only help relax you it will also help you see things more clearly. There is nothing selfish about rewarding yourself, your heart deserves it.
Take Care of Yourself
Exercise, get some sleep and eat right, never feed a break-up, or stay up all night wallowing in self-pity. Treat your body right, take care of yourself. If you don't the only one who will suffer will be yourself.
Love yourself, this is the most important thing you can do to help heal your heart. Without love for yourself, this whole scenario will keep finding its way back into your life. You have to love and respect yourself in order to attract a loving, respectful, partner.
Breakups are hard but so is life, sometimes the best thing you can do is just move on and realize your life will go on. This is just another stepping stone added to your path of love, life and happiness.