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How to Leave a Bad Relationship

Updated on January 23, 2019
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How to Leave a Bad Relationship

The first step you need to take when you begin to notice your relationship is going sour, is to look at your partner and be honest. Assess your relationship and think about both the positives and negatives in your relationship. Then ask yourself one very important question and that is whether they show you love and affection.

You can't have a one-sided relationship, when the love leaves a relationship that relationship is over. Besides what's fun about being with someone who would rather be with anyone but you. We need that extra care and love, living like this can harm both your physical and mental health. Here are a few ways to help you spot if the flame has started fading in their hearts.

1. Do they tell you they love you?

2. Do they show you they love you?

3. Have they stopped communicating on a regular basis?

4. Are they spending more time away with (work, friends, anything but you)?

5. Are they cold and complacent?

6. Do you have a toxic relationship?

If you have answered yes to any of these and nothing major has happened such as (death in their family, lost job, or lost wages, etc...) then more than likely their love for you has faded. Below are some tips on how to leave a bad relationship.


So What Now?

So now that you have figured out your relationship is kind of like a daytime soap opera That's falling apart at the seams. You now need to address the problem with the significant other and talk to them. See if the relationship can be fixed or if it's even worth the time to fix it.

If you have talked with them and they still act the same way, it's then time for you to come to the realization that you may need to make that gut wrenching, life changing decision. Do you leave, or stay?

I mean you could stay and wait for them to makeup their minds, all while making you miserable in the process. But why put yourself through the unnecessary heartache and pain. Breaking up with your partner is going to be painful and hard, but you will get through this.

Below is a couple of ways to ease the pain of your broken heart.

Keep Your Friends Close

Having a good, long talk with one of your best friends can be very helpful when trying to cope with your breakup. A good friend will usually let you burn their ears up for hours on end. Three or four of those good long talk session and you should start to see and feel a difference.

You could even plan a girls/guys night out to help you take your mind off things. Please don't go looking for love again, at least until your heart has a chance to heal.

Don't Doubt Your Decision

Don't ever doubt yourself for leaving an unloving partner, why live your life like that. People fall out of love sometimes, it hurts, but that's a part of life. You making the decision to walk out of a bad situation might end up being what will put you in the right situation. I promise you will find love again.

Enjoy Some Me Time

Spend a little time doing stuff for yourself, this will always uplift your spirits. Get a manicure, massage, or whatever else you want. Spending this much needed alone time will not only help relax you it will also help you see things more clearly. There is nothing selfish about rewarding yourself, your heart deserves it.

Take Care of Yourself

Exercise, get some sleep and eat right, never feed a break-up, or stay up all night wallowing in self-pity. Treat your body right, take care of yourself. If you don't the only one who will suffer will be yourself.

Love Yourself

Love yourself, this is the most important thing you can do to help heal your heart. Without love for yourself, this whole scenario will keep finding its way back into your life. You have to love and respect yourself in order to attract a loving, respectful, partner.

Move On

Breakups are hard but so is life, sometimes the best thing you can do is just move on and realize your life will go on. This is just another stepping stone added to your path of love, life and happiness.


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      Dianna Mendez 

      7 years ago

      I have a couple of friends who have recently broken up after years of being with someone they loved. It is so hard. Your advice is excellent and will help many to work through the pain. Loving yourself is to key.

    • prettynutjob30 profile imageAUTHOR


      7 years ago from From the land of Chocolate Chips,and all other things sweet.

      Thank you for commenting billybuc and Angela Blair, I too have finally found my lovie. I had quite a rough route before meeting him, glad he came.

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      Angela Blair 

      7 years ago from Central Texas

      Excellent and informative Hub -- and who among us hasn't been there? I'm among the fortunate, as is Billybuc -- I've found the love of my life and we've been hanging out together over 20 years now BUT I sure had a rough road until I found him. Even with that being true -- I'm still among those who believe it's better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all. Best/Sis

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      Bill Holland 

      7 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Wise suggestions my young friend. It is painful for sure. I'm glad I have found the love of my life so I no longer have to concern myself with this kind of pain.

    • prettynutjob30 profile imageAUTHOR


      7 years ago from From the land of Chocolate Chips,and all other things sweet.

      Thank you Vacation Trip and Mhatter99 for your comments.

    • Mhatter99 profile image

      Martin Kloess 

      7 years ago from San Francisco

      Thank you for sharing your perspective on this.

    • Vacation Trip profile image


      7 years ago from India

      Hi prettynutjob30, it is right that the relationships are formed from both the sides and the suggestions that you have given is very practical and right. Interesting hub. Good day.

    • prettynutjob30 profile imageAUTHOR


      7 years ago from From the land of Chocolate Chips,and all other things sweet.

      Thank you Faith Reaper for the comment and sharing.

    • Faith Reaper profile image

      Faith Reaper 

      7 years ago from southern USA

      No, you can't make anyone love you, and you're right, one must take those steps. Great advice here. That is hard, but why would you want to stay in a relationship that is one-sided, not healthy at all.

      Voted up ++++ and sharing

      God bless, Faith Reaper


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