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How to Leave a Bad Relationship

Updated on August 21, 2017
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Mary has loved writing ever since she was a young child, writing and reading have helped Mary through some very hard times in her life.

How To Deal with Leaving Someone You Love?

The first step you need to take when you begin to notice your relationship is going sour, is ask yourself if the person you're in love with, feels the same way you do? I mean you can't have a one-sided relationship, who wants to be with someone who doesn't love them back. Below are a few ways to spot if the flame has started fading in their hearts.

1. Do they tell you they love you?

2. Do they show you they love you?

3. Have they stopped communicating on a regular basis?

4. Are they spending more time away with (work, friends, anything but you)?

5. Are they cold and complacent?

If you have answered yes to any of these and nothing major has happened such as (death in their family, lost job, or lost wages, etc...) then more than likely their love for you has faded. Below are some tips on how to deal with leaving someone you love.

So What Now?

So now that you have figured out your relationship is kind of like a daytime soap opera and literally falling apart at the seams, you realize you have to make that big decision. Do you leave, or stay?

I mean you could stay and wait for them to make that final break and be miserable but why put yourself through the unnecessary heartache and pain. Breaking up with your partner may be painful and hard, but you can get through this. Below is a couple of ways to ease the pain of your broken heart.

Keep Your Friends Close

Having a good, long talk with one of your best friends can be very helpful when trying to cope with your breakup. A good friend will usually let you burn their ears up for hours, three or four good talk session and you should start to see and feel a difference.

You could even plan a girls/guys night out to take your mind off things (but please don't go looking for love again just yet).

Don't Doubt Your Decision

Don't ever doubt yourself for leaving an unloving partner, why live your life like that. People fall out of love sometimes, it hurts, but that's a part of life. You making the decision to walk out of a bad situation might end up being what will put you in the right situation. I promise you will find love again.

Enjoy Some Me Time

Spend a little time doing stuff for yourself, this will always uplift your spirits. Get a manicure, massage, or whatever else you want. Spending this much needed alone time will not only help relax you it will also help you see things more clearly. There is nothing selfish about rewarding yourself, your heart deserves it.

Take Care of Yourself

Exercise, get some sleep and eat right, never feed a break-up, or stay up all night wallowing in self-pity. Treat your body right, take care of yourself. If you don't the only one who will suffer will be yourself.

Love Yourself

Love yourself, this is the most important thing you can do to help heal your heart. Without love for yourself, this whole scenario will keep finding its way back into your life. You have to love and respect yourself in order to attract a loving, respectful, partner.

Move On

Breakups are hard but so is life, sometimes the best thing you can do is just move on and realize your life will go on. This is just another stepping stone added to your path of love, life and happiness.


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      Dianna Mendez 4 years ago

      I have a couple of friends who have recently broken up after years of being with someone they loved. It is so hard. Your advice is excellent and will help many to work through the pain. Loving yourself is to key.

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      Mary 4 years ago from From the land of Chocolate Chips,and all other things sweet.

      Thank you for commenting billybuc and Angela Blair, I too have finally found my lovie. I had quite a rough route before meeting him, glad he came.

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      Angela Blair 4 years ago from Central Texas

      Excellent and informative Hub -- and who among us hasn't been there? I'm among the fortunate, as is Billybuc -- I've found the love of my life and we've been hanging out together over 20 years now BUT I sure had a rough road until I found him. Even with that being true -- I'm still among those who believe it's better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all. Best/Sis

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Wise suggestions my young friend. It is painful for sure. I'm glad I have found the love of my life so I no longer have to concern myself with this kind of pain.

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      Mary 4 years ago from From the land of Chocolate Chips,and all other things sweet.

      Thank you Vacation Trip and Mhatter99 for your comments.

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      Martin Kloess 4 years ago from San Francisco

      Thank you for sharing your perspective on this.

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      Susan 4 years ago from India

      Hi prettynutjob30, it is right that the relationships are formed from both the sides and the suggestions that you have given is very practical and right. Interesting hub. Good day.

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      Mary 4 years ago from From the land of Chocolate Chips,and all other things sweet.

      Thank you Faith Reaper for the comment and sharing.

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      Faith Reaper 4 years ago from southern USA

      No, you can't make anyone love you, and you're right, one must take those steps. Great advice here. That is hard, but why would you want to stay in a relationship that is one-sided, not healthy at all.

      Voted up ++++ and sharing

      God bless, Faith Reaper