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How to Find Love on a Dating Site

Updated on April 29, 2018

Introduction

More and more people use online dating sites to meet people they later start relationships with and some agree that it is a good platform to use to meet a lover.

You may also be searching for a man or woman who will love you and with whom, hopefully, you can have a long-term relationship. How do you find true love on a dating website? What are some of the things you can do that can increase your chances of striking up a friendship that can grow into a love affair?

Let us look at a few of the strategies you can use to achieve this aim.

Your Written Profile

Make sure you tell the absolute truth when you fill your profile. This will give you a reputation as an honest person.

Don’t forget that there are many ways a person who gets attracted to you and wants to check you out can research about you and find out the truth about your life.

How do you think someone who sees you on the dating site and likes you will feel about you when he or she finds out that you are giving a false representation of yourself? That’s right! The man or woman will feel cheated. No one wants to go out with a dishonest person who is also a fake!

People are attracted to honest, trustworthy people and so proving to be honest will help you to win the love of someone who admires a man or woman who can be trusted.

Give Great Details in Your Profile

If you want potential lovers to really get a sense of the kind of man or woman you are so that they will desire to contact you and start a relationship with you, go the extra mile to give insightful details. It will make your profile stand out from the rest and you are more likely to get a lot of dates.

For example instead of writing something such as, “I love to watch Accra Great Olympics playing,” when writing your interests, which will make you sound like many other guys on the dating site, you may write something such as, “I just finished playing soccer with my friends. We do this every Saturday morning. It is great exercise and it keeps me fit. I have been doing this since I was six. Additionally, I go to watch the games of Great Olympics every Sunday. Moreover, I read their newspaper every Monday. I can’t wait for the next World Cup! I will watch some of the games live at the stadiums! Watching soccer makes me forget my worries and helps to brighten up my day”

Giving details will give your readers the message that you are passionate about what you love. Consequently, you can attract someone who is also passionate about your interests and that will increase the chances that you will find love.

Furthermore, saying why you love doing what you do will make your profile more compelling.

Your Picture

If you want to find love on online dating sites, then you must send the right signals. The signals you send will determine the kind of men or women you attract.

For example, if you are a woman and you upload a picture in which you are wearing a bikini, you are likely to attract men who may not necessarily be interested in having a long-term relationship with you, but men who will just want to have a one night stand with you.

On the other hand, if you upload a picture that shows you in decent clothes which cover your cleavage, and in a decent posture which does not highlight your hips or backside, such as one which shows you sitting, or which shows only your face and your torso, you are likely to attract a guy who is serious about developing a long-term relationship with a woman, and not a man who just wants to take a woman to bed.

If you want a member of the opposite sex to take you seriously, you must present yourself as such!

State Your Temperament and Behavior

People who have similar personalities and backgrounds are more likely to fall in love.

Therefore, make it a point to say whether you are an introvert or an extrovert. If you are an introvert, go further and state whether you are the melancholic type or the phlegmatic type. Likewise, if you are an extrovert, write if you are a sanguine or a choleric.

Additionally, give the readers an idea about how you act when you are sad, what you do when you are angry, how you motivate yourself when you encounter trouble, how you behave when you are in the midst of people of the opposite sex and so on.

Furthermore, tell the world about some of the interesting things about your background such as the adventures you had with your siblings when you were a child, the kind of people you moved with when you were in school, a few hurtful life experiences, some happy times you will never forget and so on.

Doing this will help you to attract someone who will understands you and who can connect better emotionally with you.

Upload a Picture in Which You Look Your Best

Before you upload your pictures, choose about five pictures in which you think you look great. Then, consult friends and relatives and seek a second, third, and fourth opinion. Yes, you may seem great to yourself but you may not look great to others.

Consulting as many people as possible will help you to choose great pictures that visitors to the dating site or members of the dating site are likely to appreciate.

Upload Pictures That Show You With Other People

Ensure that most of the pictures you put on your profile page show you in the company of other people or which show you doing something exciting, such as talking to others at a party, cooking with others, or hiking with your friends.

Doing this will give prospective lovers the sense that you love people. Furthermore, it will tell prospective lovers that you have good human relations. Consequently, many members of the opposite will contact you because a person who loves people is great fun to date. This strategy can help you to find love online on free dating sites.

Try to Be Different

You must always remember that you are competing with so many other men and women for the attention of potential lovers. Therefore, you must portray yourself a little different from what everybody else is writing.

One way to do that is to let people feel that you are comfortable with your foibles, to let them see the fact that you have great sides, and also weaknesses you are not ashamed of.

So, let potential lovers know about your quirks. If you hate flying in aeroplanes because of a phobia, let people know. If you cry when you watch emotional movies, add it to your profile.

The right person for you will find that sexy and appealing and that will turn him or her on and make the person want to date you.

Be Humorous

Research shows that both men and women think that humor is sexy, and so feel attracted to people who they think are humorous. Showing a good sense of humor may make a member of the opposite sex develop romantic feelings for you which may grow into strong love feelings.

  • If you are a man, learn to make women laugh. It will make women like you, and that liking can grow into love if you water it with patience, kindness, appreciation of the woman, and tenderness. link in lifehack
  • If you are a woman, let the guy you are dating know that you appreciate his jokes. Add an emoticon showing that you are happy with his jokes when he writes or shares something funny with you.
  • You may respond by writing something such as, “Ha-ha-ha-ha! Very funny guy! I loved your joke. I must add that you nearly made me split my sides with laughter. Ha-ha-ha-ha! Keep giving me more of such jokes. Thumbs up!”

Pace Yourself

If you want to find your love on a dating site, and if you want to meet someone who is special and who will make you feel special, then you want something that is lasting and which will make you feel fulfilled at the end of the day. That requires patience.

So, don’t be desperate. Have realistic expectations and not lofty, unrealistic ones. Moreover, when you meet someone new who seems interesting, do not start wondering, “Is this the right one?” That will make you put pressure on yourself.

Rather, start very slowly. Keep the relationship at a platonic level for about three months during which time you should talk about things such as your childhood, your family, your career, hobbies and so on.

From the third month onwards, when you feel you can trust your date, move to a higher level of friendship. Talk about things such as what you think love is, your past relationships, your expectations for the friendship, your desires and so on.

Let the friendship develop gradually until you get to the point where both of you will feel you can commit to a long-term relationship. This will increase the chances that you will create a relationship that will be stable and sustainable.

Pray

God is the God of love. He is concerned about His children and wants us to be happy. Therefore, He will gladly assist you to find true love on a dating site, if you ask for His help.

Therefore, offer a prayer such as this to God, “Dear Heavenly Father, I thank you for giving us the gift of love. I thank you that you have given us this wonderful experience by which we can experience a bit of heaven on Earth. Father, I am lonely. I also want to experience love like my friends and relatives who are in relationships are doing. I have filled my profile on a dating site. There are a lot of pretenders and liars online. You search the hearts of men and You know what is in the hearts of men. Please help me to meet people who are genuinely looking for long-term relationships, just as You guided Isaac to meet his wife Rebekah. Let me know it when I meet the man or woman You created for me. And help us to understand each other, care for each other, and grow to love ourselves. You tell us in Your word that if we abide in You, and Your word abides in us, we should ask whatever we want from You. You promise to do what we ask so that we can glorify You. Please help me to find love and I will glorify Your name forever. Amen.”

Conclusion

To find true love on a dating site, ensure that you put together a winning profile in which your written profile depicts the kind of person you are and in which your picture makes you look exciting and attractive. Furthermore, try to be different, be fun, and ask for God’s help. Success is assured if you do these things.

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    • littlebluefeather profile image

      JL Reyes 

      11 months ago from Saturns Rings

      This is sweet and well-advised. My partner and I met online, and if it wasn't for a silly comment I made on a mutual friends post we wouldn't have met. Speak your passions, and you will shine!

    • dashingscorpio profile image

      dashingscorpio 

      11 months ago

      You've given some good tips.

      I would also advise people to (research) sites before choosing one to join. The vast majority of people act as if all dating sites are the same. There are different pluses and minuses for every site.

      Many of them have different target groups and demographics as well as niche traits or characteristics. You can find out what the male to female ratio is, the average age, income, and other details about the typical member of the site. Knowing what you want will also help you determine which site might be best for you to join.

      Note: Most people with discriminating taste avoid free sites!

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