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How to Get Over a Bad Breakup

Updated on May 11, 2012
The pain from a breakup will never last forever.
The pain from a breakup will never last forever.

When you have just experienced a break up, things are going to look pretty rough at first. There are a number of things that you can do to try and get yourself into a happier mindset.

Stay Busy

Keep yourself occupied. It can help keep your mind off of the breakup, and stop thinking about your ex. Watching TV helps, though keep in mind that relationships show up often in shows and movies and they can call up memories that can make you more upset. Playing a video game, watching Youtube videos, listening to music, exercising, reading books, or any other activity, can keep you preoccupied.

Be With People

Go out with friends and family. After a breakup, it is common to feel lonely, and fearful of being lonely in the future. Being with people, and realizing that people want to be around you even after the breakup can be an awakening to some people, as they are so used to being part of a couple that they forget how to be just them.

Get Space

Try your best not to talk to your ex for a little while after a breakup. While it is possible to remain friends after a relationship has ended, it is hard to do and requires a lot of effort, which can dredge up old feelings in one of the parties. It would be a better idea to stay away from each other for a little while in order to give each other time to get over each other before talking again.


Repressing your thoughts about your relationship won`t make things better; it will probably make things worse, as you won`t give yourself time to emotionally recover from the breakup, and you`ll be setting yourself up for more pain down the road. Allow yourself to think through everything that has happened in your relationship, but make sure that you look at everything from the viewpoint of it being over; don`t hold out for reconciliation. The odds of getting back together with your ex are low; after all, there was a reason that you broke up in the first place.

Remove Their Stuff

Finally, if you find that you own a lot of things that your ex has given you, you can give it back or give it away to someone else, as they will serve as triggers for your past with that person. Of course, if you have too many good memories associated with these gifts, you can always put them out of sight in a box in your closet, or elsewhere in your house, so you aren’t constantly reminded of your ex.

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      6 years ago from Brasil, Vitoria - ES

      Great tips for anyone going through this bad experience.


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