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How to Know If Your Relationship Is Moving Too Fast

Updated on March 31, 2012

If you have ever been in a whirlwind relationship, you know that it can be very easy to be sucked up into the tornado of lust, of passion and of love.  It is an exhilarating feeling that has adrenaline coursing through your veins, hormones rushing through your system and stars getting in your eyes. You are in love!

Well, here come the brakes! You have to distance yourself just a little lest your whirlwind romance make a mess of your relationship and your self esteem, leaving in its wake hurt feelings, a bitter taste in the tongue and broken hearts. 

Then again, why be sucked into the vortex of a whirlwind romance?  With these ways on how to know when your relationship is moving too fast, you can apply the brakes and take it just a little bit slower.  This way, you can enjoy a happier relationship based on a stronger foundation. 

Undue Pressure on Either Party

When in a relationship, there is a certain kind of pressure to be the ideal mate for the person.  But as human as we are, there will come a point when the pressure just becomes too hard to bear and either party wants out, if only for a while. 

Or the pressure can come in the form of work, which has been neglected in favor of nurturing the relationship.  Although it is a good idea to place personal life over professional work, you do have to earn a living. 

The pressure can be from all sides!  No matter the source, however, you have to take a step back and assess your priorities in life.  This is especially true when you feel uncomfortable with the level of intimacy in the physical and emotional sense that the relationship has achieved in such a short time. Indeed when a physical relationship is entered into the consequences emotionally and spirutually can be quite devastating.

 Doubts in Either Party

Yet another way in how to know when your relationship is moving too fast is to listen to your gut instinct.  In most instances, you can rely on it because it is your inner self talking to your besotted heart. 

When either of you start to experience doubts about yourself, about each other or about the relationship, then take a step back and just breathe.  You might be suffocating each other's personal space, which is not a good sign for any relationship. 

You have to establish that the doubts are not because of lack of love per se.  It might be that there are still unresolved issues in the relationship that, in the heat of passion, has been set to the back burner.  Keep in mind that these unresolved issued will come back sooner than later when the honeymoon stage has passed. 

The ultimate way in how to know when your relationship is moving too fast is when you feel that it is indeed moving too fast, pure and simple.  When you have been in past relationships, you will know the normal pace where you are concerned. 

Past experience together with present priorities and future plans often will not mesh as smoothly as you expected them to be where your relationship is concerned. Cool off for a while, take it slower the second time around and see where the relationship is headed.  If you end up with each other in the end, then it was meant to be - cliché, yes, but nonetheless true. 


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