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How to Love Other People

Updated on February 17, 2009

Is there a person in your life who you find difficult to love or be nice to? Or do you simply believe that the greatest thing in the world is Love, and that Love conquers all?
Do you need a reminder how to love people?

1. See the person as God sees them. Loved, special, unique, worthwhile & valuable. It will be much easier and worthwhile for you to love that person when you get into the habit of viewing them as God does.

2. Do good things for them; be nice to them. Go that extra mile to be respectful, courteous, and nice. People really appreciate kindness and can tell when someone is sacrificing something for them. Your acts of kindness will mean that much more to them.
Even if you are not at odds with someone, being nice to people in general makes them happy, which causes them to have happy feelings. Those happy feelings cause them to view you in a positive, better way. So when you treat them as you would like to be treated, they feel inclined to return the favor.

3. Now that we're on that subject: treat others as you would want to be treated. This is not just for people of faith; this is a rule that all people should live by. The "eye for an eye" rule got overturned by God in the New Testament of the Bible, and a new law took its place. Jesus said to "Love God, and love other people." He sums up all the strict Old Testament laws up into 1 sentence: Love God, and love other people.
This is the way to God's heart, and to everyone else's.

4. Still need help feeling those waves of love in your heart? Don't worry; love is true only when it goes beyond words and is acted upon. Love felt is merely wasted words; love acted upon is true and lasting love. So do something about it!

You don't need to "feel" loving to do loving things for people. Those feelings will grow later. Start doing nice, loving things for other people, and your heart and spirits will soar, as will theirs. It's a win-win-win situation that will please you, the other person, and God!

Also, ask God for help and wisdom. He will help you learn how to love people as they need and will help you develop a healthy habit of loving others. It is a lifestyle; a habit. Think how the world would change if we would all put each other above ourselves! What a day that would be.

  • These tips do not have to be for when you're mad or fighting with someone, or when you've got that co-worker who thinks she's better than you and you can't stand each other. These tips are for everyone in your life, including your spouse and children. Sometimes it's easy to focus on everyone else in our lives, but overlook those closest to us. Start loving them first.
  • You don't have to be a person of faith to understand or apply this concept.


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    • rainbow742002 profile image


      8 years ago

      Wonderful words from you friend!if only all poeple are like us.....what a beautiful world to live in!you are so loved!

    • Tyhill27 profile image


      10 years ago from Red Deer, Alberta

      I have a sticker on my computer that reads, "What wisdom can you find that is greater then kindness?" How true! After all it's a fruit of Love. I don't know why but I have noticed that this is a difficult concept for so many people. It seems some people can't even say the word "love" without some kind of embarrassment or something, it's sad!

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      Rebecca Graf 

      10 years ago from Wisconsin

      Very good advice. I have to remind myself to see them as God does. He can see their potential. It is hard. But in constant prayer it can be done.

    • k@ri profile image

      Kari Poulsen 

      10 years ago from Ohio

      Very good advice for day to day living. If we could all keep this in the forefront of our minds, the world would be a much better place.

    • amber lynn profile image

      amber lynn 

      10 years ago

      I agree completely! Jesus said the greatest commandments were to love the Lord your God and love your neighbor as yourself. Thank you for that reminder...

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      10 years ago

      I was just at a Unitarian discussion group, where we were talking about what love is, and what it isn't, and how to show it to others. Interesting...


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