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How to Love a Black Woman in 5 Easy Steps.
Love is Hard Work
Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus. African-American Women are from the rough side of Venus. This article is not to disrespect my Nubian Sisters but to rather lift them up as the special women they are. There are some very important dos and don'ts when it comes to winning the heart of a Black woman. Black women are strong and very independent. They demand a kind of love that can only be learned through careful observation. As an African- American man with many years of experience with the opposite sex, I am quite qualified to give my advice on the matter. Enjoy!
Step 1: RESPECT THE HAIR. Whether your lady decides to use weave or she goes au natural, you have to respect the hair. Black women are passionate about their hair as if it is some sort of emblem of their individuality. When they ask you for an opinion on their hair, have a good answer like "Yes, baby I love it" or change the whole subject. The average Black woman spends somewhere between 700-800 hours and over 1500 dollars a year taking care of their hair. This is like a second job to them and they take it extremely serious. RESPECT THE HAIR.
Step 2: Keep your hands to yourself. There are instances when you are going to want to go Muhammad Ali on your lady. Please, for your sake and the men who follow you, refrain from violence. Domestic violence only causes more violence and a huge headache that you can never get rid of. When she's going off about a number she found or complaining about your underwear on the bathroom floor, go to your "Happy Mens Place". She will not follow you there. Walk away and assess the situation. Don't raise your voice because that usually makes you want to raise your hands. When all else fails, tell her how much you love her and then leave her. No one is worth your freedom or your life, even if she started it.
Step 3: Don't ever call her lazy. Black women loathe that ish. Appreciate the fact that she cooks and cleans. Appreciate the fact that she takes care of your children. By calling her lazy one time, you are subjecting yourself to the argument of a lifetime. Since the days of Harriet Tubman, Black women have molded our society. They have endured the struggles of being ostracized for their color as well as their gender. If anybody has worked hard to gain respect, it is the Black Woman.
Step 4: Love the kids. Loving the woman isn't that hard after you get the hang of it. Loving the kids is a whole different ball game. The fastest way to a womans heart is through her kids. When she sees the way they look at you, there is a plethura of emotions that strikes her. If you can love those kids and show them the way a woman should be love, you are halfway their my man.
Step 5: Throw arguments. When I say throw arguments, I mean throw arguments like a boxer throws a heavyweight match. Even when you win, you lose. When your right, your wrong. Give it up, throw in the towel. This doesn't make you weak, it just gives you the strength to fight another day. If it isn't life threatning LET IT GO.
Hope you enjoyed my steps, leave a comment please.