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How to Love a Black Woman in 5 Easy Steps.

Updated on June 4, 2012

Love is Hard Work

Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus. African-American Women are from the rough side of Venus. This article is not to disrespect my Nubian Sisters but to rather lift them up as the special women they are. There are some very important dos and don'ts when it comes to winning the heart of a Black woman. Black women are strong and very independent. They demand a kind of love that can only be learned through careful observation. As an African- American man with many years of experience with the opposite sex, I am quite qualified to give my advice on the matter. Enjoy!

Step 1: RESPECT THE HAIR. Whether your lady decides to use weave or she goes au natural, you have to respect the hair. Black women are passionate about their hair as if it is some sort of emblem of their individuality. When they ask you for an opinion on their hair, have a good answer like "Yes, baby I love it" or change the whole subject. The average Black woman spends somewhere between 700-800 hours and over 1500 dollars a year taking care of their hair. This is like a second job to them and they take it extremely serious. RESPECT THE HAIR.

Step 2: Keep your hands to yourself. There are instances when you are going to want to go Muhammad Ali on your lady. Please, for your sake and the men who follow you, refrain from violence. Domestic violence only causes more violence and a huge headache that you can never get rid of. When she's going off about a number she found or complaining about your underwear on the bathroom floor, go to your "Happy Mens Place". She will not follow you there. Walk away and assess the situation. Don't raise your voice because that usually makes you want to raise your hands. When all else fails, tell her how much you love her and then leave her. No one is worth your freedom or your life, even if she started it.

Step 3: Don't ever call her lazy. Black women loathe that ish. Appreciate the fact that she cooks and cleans. Appreciate the fact that she takes care of your children. By calling her lazy one time, you are subjecting yourself to the argument of a lifetime. Since the days of Harriet Tubman, Black women have molded our society. They have endured the struggles of being ostracized for their color as well as their gender. If anybody has worked hard to gain respect, it is the Black Woman.

Step 4: Love the kids. Loving the woman isn't that hard after you get the hang of it. Loving the kids is a whole different ball game. The fastest way to a womans heart is through her kids. When she sees the way they look at you, there is a plethura of emotions that strikes her. If you can love those kids and show them the way a woman should be love, you are halfway their my man.

Step 5: Throw arguments. When I say throw arguments, I mean throw arguments like a boxer throws a heavyweight match. Even when you win, you lose. When your right, your wrong. Give it up, throw in the towel. This doesn't make you weak, it just gives you the strength to fight another day. If it isn't life threatning LET IT GO.

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      andrekennedyjr 3 years ago from Washington D.C.

      It's easier for us to just let you guys think your winning, when in fact we are winning because we get the peace anc quiet we long for. Thanks for reading!

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      Levertis Steele 3 years ago from Southern Clime

      OK!! When my husband formed the habit of letting me fuss by myself, I got tired of the onesided arguments. I felt like I was talking to myself. So, I stopped it. That works for some couples, but what about the woman who whacks him across the head and yells, "Didn't you hear me talking to yow!! Answer me!!" Just kidding.

      Interesting and funny hub!

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      thertastore 5 years ago from Oakland, NJ 07436

      michememe you are very funny indeed..

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      Shayna Cacho 5 years ago from Brooklyn, NY, Living in Delaware

      Love your hub on loving a black women and that you touched up on the difficulties that we go through. Keep up the good work!

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      andrekennedyjr 5 years ago from Washington D.C.

      Thanks Juanita!!

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      Juanita 5 years ago

      Love it!!!!

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      Miche Wro 5 years ago

      I am following you. I look forward to reading more of your work.

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      andrekennedyjr 5 years ago from Washington D.C.

      Thanks Michememe, I appreciate the feedback, please follow me and my hubs and I will do the same for you.

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      Miche Wro 5 years ago

      I am laughing, throw the agurments. Yeah, I think this is a woman's thing period. Men, will never win. I have a friend who tells me that, well this is a losing battle. So I'm going to just shut up. But we are fair, if you have good points and you can see things from our perspective it's a win win. Good article. I really enjoyed it.

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      thertastore 5 years ago from Oakland, NJ 07436

      Thanks Andrekennedyjr..and you are also a very good writer.. i m impress with writing..

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      andrekennedyjr 5 years ago from Washington D.C.

      Thanks for the comments, I have seen your work also and you are a very talented decorator.

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      thertastore 5 years ago from Oakland, NJ 07436

      Great work buddy keep going..