How to Make Everyone Love You for Girls
As females, we are people pleasers. We want to be loved, liked, admired, and respected by everyone around us. We don't want anyone to hate us or, worse, talk bad about us! We don't need to be popular, but we do need to be liked.
I'm not saying every female has this need, but the one's that I have come across do!
Take the poll below so we can see just how many of us want to be loved! Be honest so we can get a better picture of reality; nobody will know that the answer came from you!
Do You Have a Need To Be Loved By Everyone?
How To Make Everyone Love You
So, if you have a need to be loved by everyone around you, then here is the good news. There are things you can do in life to make yourself a girl that is admired and respected. You can become the type of girl that everyone wants to be around - including guys.
There is nothing that will make everyone like you more than kindness. Bullying, fighting, and rudeness can actually make you less attractive in the eyes of everyone around you. They may tell you that you are cool, but as human beings we would rather surround ourselves with people who are kind and understanding.
Not only will being kind make everyone love you more, but it will make you love yourself more! When you treat other people well you feel good about yourself.
For example, random acts of kindness can help you make a miserable day disappear into something better. This is because the negative focus is broken and, instead, you are focused on doing something good. When finished, your mind can't help but be more focused on good, positive thoughts. Then you can be even kinder and make more people love you!
Make People Laugh
Have you ever been around someone who genuinely made you laugh and thought "I can't stand this person!" during your laughter? I doubt it. There is a reason for this.
Laughter is like a hormone regulator. It increases feel good hormones like endorphins and decreases stress hormones like adrenaline. In short, it makes us feel good naturally.
If you can make others laugh, then they will love you - no doubt. Even a smile can create good feelings towards you. I dare you not to love the baby in the picture to the right!
Remember though, that just because you think you are funny, it doesn't mean you are. Gauge how people react to your humor. You could be pushing them away if you are being rude, sarcastic, or mean.
Practice Proper Communication
I am not talking about grammar and spelling; I am talking about listening and speaking in a courteous and understanding manner.
People who lie or are loud, rude, arrogant, and selfish while speaking are less likely to be loved by people around them than people who are respectful, kind, thoughtful, and honest.
For example, lets say there are two people in front of you. One woman is loud and rude and the other is kind and thoughtful. Which one would you rather be stuck on an island with?
Want another example? Listen to the woman in the video below. She is not a young girl, but she is an example of how rude words can instantly make you unlikeable.
If she had worded it a little differently, then she would not be so ugly in the eyes of viewers.
In addition, people who do not listen, but instead are only thinking about what they are going to say next, are not loved as much as people who make an effort to understand what other people are saying and validate their words by acknowledgement.
I had a friend like this. She would call to talk about herself and when she was done, she would hang up the phone and get on with her life. She never asked me about my day, my thoughts, my feelings, or anything else...it was all about her. I didn't love her that much during that time.
Then, one day she came around and started listening to me without interruptions or turning the conversation onto herself and it instantly changed the way I felt about her.
Try this: If you are out in a group and a guy comes over to you, practice your listening skills. Be the one person who responds to what he is saying, gives him eye contact while he is talking, and laughs in all the right places. Do this and I guarantee you will be the one that stands out in the group!
Sometimes, Not Everyone Falls Prey To Your Charms
Now for the bad news, not everyone is going to love you in life.
There are many reasons that people will not love you in life, but usually it has to do with them, not you. I know, it sucks. I have encountered many people like this in my life, and although I have never done anything wrong to them, they still don't think I am all that.
The sooner you accept that not everyone will love you, the happier you will be. When you understand that, then someone's mean words, unkind gestures, or rude actions will not hurt as much.
And more importantly, you will not waste any time trying to make them love you. Instead, you will move on and connect with people who admire your strength, kindness, and personality.