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How to Steal a Man and/or Make a Man Love You.

Updated on March 18, 2010

Well, if you are looking for tips on how to trap a man, you won't find any here. After seeing this question quite a few times, I decided to write about it. If you are trying to steal a man and make a man love you, you are wasting your time. That is manipulation and it will not work out in the long run. If you are going to such extremes, then you are not being yourself. Wouldn't you like a man to fall in love with the "real" you, and not who you are trying to be? Trying to make a man fall in love with you would be equivalent to trying to use your eyes to vacuum your carpet, it's just not going to happen! What is going on in your head, that you feel this is the only man in the world for you? If he is not interested in you, then nothing you do will change his mind. It's as plain and simple as that! You can not make the sun come out on a rainy day just because you don't want to carry an umbrella! You might even know this man to date smaller women (like a size 6) for example, and he might end up marrying someone a size 14. It is pointless. The mind of a man is something even they can't explain!

My grandmother use to say "Be careful what you ask for, because you just might get it"! Let's say you are doing everything you can to manipulate this man, to the extent of you trying to break up a marriage. You do not know what goes on behind closed doors. He might seem like the perfect man for you, meanwhile at night he comes home and beats the crap out of his wife. Are you sure you want to take her place? He may be single, and enjoying his single life. Are you going to try to trap him by telling him you're on birth control when you are really not? A wise woman knows that a baby will not make a man love you! If you are foolish enough to try this, don't get upset when he says "I'll take care of the baby, but I don't want to be with you"! What are you going to do then? Why involve an innocent baby in this situation?

Also, if you successfully break up someone's marriage, the same will happen to you.If he cheats with you, he will cheat on you! The same way you managed to steal him away, will be the same way he is stolen from you! I am not talking about affairs, I don't condone them and that is none of my business! I am referring to the desire to have one to the extent of breaking up a happy home. Relentlessy pursuing a man that has no interest in you whatsoever. There are a lot of good financially stable and sane available men out here. Why do you feel the need to try to take someone elses man? This type of behavior will only cause you misery in the end. The time you are spending on plotting on ways to break up his marriage, is time you are wasting on finding the special man that you can call your own.

If you happen to succeed in getting a married man to sleep with you, don't be upset a year later when he is still married to his wife. The woman he gave his last name to, and walked down the aisle with. While you are sitting there and waiting on him to have some free time, they are planning their family vacation! Why spend the holidays without your loved one? The truth of the matter is, he will spend his holidays with his family. Occasionally, a man will leave his wife because he thinks he has a better catch. Five years later, he will leave you for another "better" catch. Why risk that heartache and pain? Pain that you brought upon yourself. Yeah, I've heard of a small percentage of these situations actually working out, but the majority do not! Why embarass yourself like this? Why hold on to a dream? If he is telling you, he won't leave because of the kids then you are a fool. There is something called court and visitation rights. If he is saying he won't leave her because she is crazy and she might kill him, lol, once again you are being a fool. If she was that crazy, he wouldn't have married her in the first place. Excuses excuses, if he wanted to be with you, he would. In your mind, you may feel as if his wife is the stupid one, in reality you are! He can sleep with you, he may even give you a few dollars, but she is his wife! She gets it all, you are getting whatever is leftover. Is that how you want to spend the next few years? Getting leftovers?


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      He came back. 2 years ago

      When a man leaves his wife or long term girlfriend for another woman, it's a hollow victory for him. Good men really want women they pursue as gentlemen and not as something slick on the side.

      After a while, even if he leaves his wife or long term girlfriend, the man will not value the other woman because what she did was easy.

      What she did was disrespectful, he knows it, other people know and his family knows it.

      Most of the times, he will really want his wife or long term girlfriend. The other woman excited him for a quick second, but he will figure out that there was really nothing there for him.

      That's when he will start to falter, go back and forth, really try to break it off with the other woman.

      In the end, he will choose his wife or long term girlfriend because that is where his heart truly lies.

      He won't leave her.

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      hannah 6 years ago

      what i can if he is the only one i wonna be with ??

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      manic monday 7 years ago from USA

      thank you

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      Jane Adams 7 years ago

      Very nice hub.

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      manic monday 7 years ago from USA

      thank you

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      Deborah Demander 7 years ago from First Wyoming, then THE WORLD

      Excellent points. The best tactic is to be yourself, and wait for the right man to come along. I spent a long time trying to change myself in order to fit the need of the moment. Not only unsatisfying, but hollow as well.