- Gender and Relationships
How to Prepare for a Blind Date
If you've ever been on a blind date, you know how nerve wracking the days leading up to it can be; let alone the cab ride to the restaurant. I've been on several blind dates, some of them great, some of them not so much, and I'm here to let you know that preparation is key when it comes to blind dates. Just because your friends are hooking you up with someone doesn't mean there isn't homework to be done in advance. The following tips will help you prepare for your blind date and give you an out if you need one.
Step One: Grill your friends
Whoever is setting you up on this date is responsible for sharing as much info as they possibly can about the guy or girl they are matching you up with. You want to know what line of work they are in; are they divorced/widowed/separated; do they have kids; have they got any sort of handicap you should be prepared for; have they got shocking pink hair (just so's you won't do an unflattering double-take when you meet them); are they devoutly religious or political? The answers to these questions (the last two in particular) will help you avoid certain topics that might lead to overly passionate responses that aren't really something one wants to deal with on a first date.
Step two: Dress comfortably
Blind dates are stressful enough without showing up in high heels and a mini skirt. It's difficult ot relax if you can't even walk like a normal person. You want to as natural as possible for this type of meeting, as it will help you process the situation more easily. If you've got to worry about the shirt that might be showing too much, or the skirt that keeps hiking up, you will have less time to interact normally with your date.
Step three: Choose a low key location
Do not meet your blind date anywhere fancy; you want to be as comfortable and low-key as you possibly can. Good blind date locations include cafes, public parks, casual restaurants, casual pubs. The fancier your location, the more pressure both of you will feel, and that can become very uncomfortable if the physical attraction isn't there.
Step four: "Just friends" should be your mantra
Don't go into a blind date expecting Prince Charming, cos he doesn't exist. The lower your expectations, the more pleasantly surprised you will be when you finally meet your date. If you show up expecting instant chemistry and feel nothing, you will be disappointed. If you show up expecting to meet a nice person who would make a good friend, you can come away from it feeling like you gained something valuable from the date.
Step Five: Have a backup plan
Even if you're really good at step 4, your date could still turn out to be a bit odd. When meeting a complete stranger, even one a friend has recommended, it's a good idea to have a backup plan in case you want to end the date early. You could have a friend call you at some stage, but it would be better to start out by saying you might have to leave early, and then give a specific reason why. (You don't have to use the plan, just have one ready!)