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How to Purchase Lingerie as a Gift

Updated on June 18, 2013

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Buying Lingerie

Depending on the relationship, buying lingerie can be perceived as a sweet gift or possibly a bit creepy. If you have been with that special someone for a long time it might be an appropriate present. If your relationship is still blossoming it might be viewed as untimely, especially if intimacy hasn’t developed yet.

Fortunately I believe that the majority of guys know when they can explore lingerie as a gift. Some will err on the side of caution and wait longer than they might have to (so they aren’t viewed as the creepy guy) while others guess correctly when it is acceptable.

For me buying lingerie was always a little bit weird, I could never feel 100% comfortable walking through the store looking at everything trying to find something to get. There is just something about a grown man walking through all of these items while other ladies are shopping for themselves that doesn’t sit well with me. I guess I don’t want them to feel uncomfortable about me there so it has always bothered me a little bit; I know I don’t feel great when I’m buying underwear and a woman is standing next to me. Call me self-conscious but it has, and still is, an obstacle for me.

Luckily I did learn a little trick that makes me feel a bit better about shopping for lingerie; I’ll share that discovery in a bit.

What to Buy your Girlfriend

Purchasing lingerie for that special lady should be an intimate and special thing. It means that your time together continues to mature and progress, which is what most of us hope our relationships do.

For many intimacy is a connection that can cement what has been developing or be a final test of compatibility between two people.

There are a few things that you can do to make your lingerie purchases well received and enjoyed by both of you. Remember that tastes will vary between and men and women so what might be appealing to you might not be something she is interested in putting on.

Women can also be very self-conscious about their bodies so be prepared if she doesn’t jump at the chance to wear the skimpiest thing you can find.

The best thing I have learned about lingerie buying is to talk to your partner. Show her the respect that she deserves and ask her what she would like and what she will not wear. Whatever you do please do not just buy something without knowing what her tastes are. If you are set on surprising her see if you can discover what she already has in her wardrobe but keep your detective work brief, too much investigating will make you join that creepy guy group mentioned earlier.

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Buying Underwear

The biggest mistake a guy can make is getting the wrong size lingerie. If you are not 100% certain about the correct size go one smaller. Just imagine her opening up your gift to find out that the sexy underwear you bought her is too big, the mood will change immediately I guarantee you.

If you can determine her size in your style investigation then you are set.

It is also in your best interest to have a general understanding of what kind of lingerie she prefers to wear. For example, if she has voiced displeasure for thong underwear then don’t buy her any. Getting her a gift that she flat out doesn’t want is not a good move with lingerie.

Underwear Shops

Whenever I first enter the department I make a bee line for an employee and ask them to help me. I tell them what I am looking for and the proper size (since size is critical right guys?) and they usually are more than happy to help. I now have an escort in the department and my discomfort slowly disappears. I can now find what my expert guide thinks would work and the other ladies shopping know I’m not one of those guys who might be there shopping for himself.

I would also advise against any kinds of behavior that might draw unnecessary attention from the other shoppers or employees. Refrain from too many comments about how sexy your wife or girlfriend would look in something. Excessively touching everything might be viewed as a little bit odd too so just be conscious about how you are shopping.

It probably isn’t a good idea to be too loud either when looking at the merchandise and definitely no hooting and hollering if you see something you really like. Remember this is a woman’s environment and you need to act appropriately.

If you are just not comfortable stepping foot in a store don't forget that your computer and internet connection can be your friend here. Buying online will allow you to shop in privacy and still be able to buy something that will be very nice.

I’m not trying to scare you guys because giving lingerie as a gift can be a wonderful experience. Just remember to be a gentleman in there and you should be just fine.


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    • adjkp25 profile image

      David 4 years ago from Northern California

      Thanks Marcy, if they are anything like me they will need all of the help that they can get.

    • Marcy Goodfleisch profile image

      Marcy Goodfleisch 4 years ago from Planet Earth

      Good tips! I will save this one to share with all the guys I know who are out shopping for birthdays, anniversaries and special events!