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How to Say "I Love You" to Your Partner for the First Time

Updated on March 28, 2013
Love is two hearts becoming one.
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Saying "I Love You" for the first time is actually a big deal, as it should be. Those three little words are not just words when you combine them together. Make sure that when you say it, you are ready. That is the biggest part of saying "I Love You" for the first time. You need to know that you really do love the person. Then the actual act of saying it is easier, sort of.

When to Say "I Love You"

Don't say it too soon. This can scare your partner off very quickly if the three little words are used too soon. Generally, you don't want to say it if you have only been seeing each other for a few weeks or even a few months in some cases.

Don't wait to long to say it. If your partner has already fallen in love with you but is afraid to say it, they may think you don't feel the same if you haven't told them how you feel.

Make sure you have fully evaluated your feelings and your relationship. Once you have said "I Love You", you can't just take it back. Dig deep and understand your emotions before you take this big leap.

For more information read When Should You Say "I love You" for the First Time


When Not to Say "I Love You"

Just as their are times when it is best to tell someone you love them, there are also moments that you should really avoid.

After intercourse: If you are getting intimate before you have said "I Love You", you are asking for trouble. Intercourse is called "making love" for a reason. It is a physical act expressing an emotion. This is not a plea for abstinence but if you are going to say "I love you", don't do it after sex. You partner could easily be convinced you are only saying it because you just "did the deed".

Before intercourse: This has much the same meaning as saying it afterwords. It is not the appropriate setting to say such a thing. Hormones are flying and words can be misconstrued at this time.

After a fight: If you have just had an argument, you typically will be more vulnerable. This is the moment where you are trying to apologize and console each other. Your looking for words to say to make the person feel better. Although, it seems like a good time to tell them you love them, it is not. This moment is too surrounded in negativity from your arguing. Save it for another time.

How to Say "I Love You"

Saying "I Love You" is a big moment in a new relationship. Make sure the moment is everything you both had been hoping for. Don't just blurt it out like a rabid animal is trying to escape. This usually happens on the phone or while your parting ways after a date.

You want to create a moment that your loved one will remember for ever. A romantic story you both can think back on in the future. Find some place quiet and romantic where you can be alone and talk uninterrupted. Set the mood, cuddle up, light some candles, go out for a romantic dinner or walk on the beach.

The most important thing to remember to make the moment as special as possible is to tell your partner why you love them.Shower them with compliments and not the physical kind. You should have thought of all the reasons why you love them if you evaluated your feelings and the relationship before you got to this step.

What does he or she do that made you fall in love with them? Are the kind? Are they caring, sweet or intelligent? Have they always been there for you in your time of need? "I Love You" is just a phrase unless you put your heart into it.

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    • justateacher profile image

      LaDena Campbell 

      5 years ago from Somewhere Over The Rainbow - Near Oz...

      My husband told me he loved me about two weeks after we met...which was fine with me because I was already in love with him, too! :)

    • CarlySullens profile image

      Carly Sullens 

      5 years ago from St. Louis, Missouri

      Saying I love you is a big deal. I like that. Yes it is, but once you say it and proclaim it, it can be so freeing.


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