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How to Spot a Loser in a Man
There are many things that make a man a loser or an asshole. If you have already read my asshole blog you will definitely love this one. Today, I'm going to talk about a subject women all know and love: dependancy upon the male loser. It has come to my attention that quite a few of my friends are going through this period of time where they attract loser men and for some reason want to stay with them. I want to put another disclaimer in here that this blog is for losers, not assholes. Believe it or not there is a distinction, but I'll delve into that later.
How to Spot a Male Loser
1.) He doesn't have a job. Of course there are stipulations to this. If he doesn't have a job because he went to college and is unable to find one at the current time but has a source of income then that's acceptable.
2.) It starts with "Can I borrow a few dollars for (whatever it may be)" and it ends up he's on your bankroll.
3.) He lives OFF of (not with) Mommy and Daddy.
4.) He has a drug habit that he says is recreational but somehow all your money goes to his recreation and you find yourself being able to eat less on your lunch break.
5.) He doesn't have a license because someone in law enforcement has removed it for something he states as "unneccessary".
6.) All of his friends have apartments that haven't been cleaned in years.
7.) He has no intention, nor will he ever, of bettering his life. He wants you to do it for him.
8.) I don't want no scrubs... scrubs is a guy that can't get no love from me. Hanging out the passengers side of his best friends ride trying to holla at me.
9.) If he smokes cigarettes, it will start with asking for a few when he gets a nic fit. After a short period of time though you're buying cartons so you can give him his own pack because he keeps stealing all of yours or because you want to save some money in the long run.
10.) He doesn't have a "real place" to live. He has no known address, and no phone number. He just shows up when he feels like it. This type of loser will also end up staying at your house for several nights... whether you sneak him through the window or not. Other than that I hope he has plenty of friends.
11.) He tells you that he loves you and makes you feel like you're the most important person in the world... yet can disappear for days on end without a phone call and have no excuse if he does get in contact with you.
12.) All your friends liked him at first, but now since you're not even able to go for a ride and get something at the dollar menu at wendy's with them, they don't seem particularly pleased.
13.) Because he doesn't have any source of income or any place to live, somehow you seriously contimplate spraypainting "TAXI" on the top of your car. Which coincidentially is always on empty from driving his ass around.
14.) They steal to get money for whatever the case may be. But don't worry, he won't steal from you.... even though you've thought about it.
15.) He has a warrant out for his arrest. He says it's nothing, and will tell you what it's about but somehow the story varies when speaking with his friends, family or even on the off chance he actually talks to YOUR family. Either way, no he's not going to court and nothing you can do will change that. And if he does, be prepared to bail him out.
Personally I have encountered a loser such as this years ago but I was able to get out and quickly. However, if you find yourself in this situation... and most likely more than 90% of this will apply to you, you need to get away from this man. Whether or not you want to believe it, he's sucking you dry and you're only going to be hurt in the end. If you haven't already noticed, most of your messages are from creditors because you did have great credit months ago.. what happened to that. Also, you're very familiar with your banks overdraft fees and how they operate... you definitely get enough of them. Just remember, you're not his mother, his caretaker or someone he can depend on for everything from his shoelaces to money for a haircut. Please stay away from men who just end up hurting you in the end after they bleed you dry and find someone else to leech off of. I'm sure if you've read this far I got to you in some way.I'm open to any comments or suggestions you might have.