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The Best Five Minutes You Will Ever Spend in a Single Day with Your Spouse
I know what you are thinking…what possibly can a married couple do for five minutes a day to guarantee staying married for life? Surely this sounds like some sort of fairytale or a bit delusional, does it not? Sure it does! Well, have a little faith, for I would never steer anyone in the wrong direction intentionally, especially when it comes to such an important issue as staying married for life.
Although, I have been married myself for life to date, I truly would have loved to have realized such a simple, yet life giving act, blesses the marriage immeasurably. Best of all, you can really do it anywhere. Further, it does not cost you one single dime.
Intrigued yet, if so, please continue reading. So what is it that couples can do for five minutes a day to stay married for life? The answer is pray together! It is really no great mystery at all; however, most couples are not engaging in and experiencing the immense benefits of…praying together in marriage.
Yes, praying together as a couple while holding one another’s hands for just five minutes a day, pretty much seals the deal as to having that strong and secure marriage. Just think about it, for when you take your sweetie’s hands and hold them gently and begin to share your most intimate thoughts with each other in prayer and speaking such to God, watch out! By allowing yourself to be this vulnerable in front of your spouse and God, creates a level of intimacy not reached in any other way.
What Studies Have Shown
There is an old saying; “Couples that pray together, stay together” and this has actually been found to be true.
Recently, in a poll from Gallup, it was revealed that married couples who pray together daily, the divorce rate actually drops to one of 1,153. What an astounding revelation as to just how powerful praying together is as a couple. This research now confirms that married couples who pray together have a divorce rate of less than .01%. Is your marriage not worth spending just five minutes out of your day praying together?
Why Is Praying Together so Powerful?
Other than creating a level of intimacy like never before, as stated above, praying also allows couples to come together in agreement when thanking God for all blessings and making requests to God for those things you desire or seek as a couple. Sure, one can pray individually for one’s spouse, but there is great power when a couple prays together, as it acts as a lifeline that connects you, your spouse and God all together, which is crucial to a lasting marriage. By keeping God at the center of your marriage you are supporting the covenant made between you and your spouse.
Building a Good Foundation from the Start
Reaping Endless Benefits
In reality, there are no negative effects on marriage when it comes to praying together, only positive. What a profound thought! Yes, there is not one single negative aspect to praying together as a couple. For in this world, almost everything one does can either have a positive outcome or a downside.
Of course we all know that good communication is essential to a successful marriage, and one of the real benefits of praying together with your spouse is deeper communication. When we allow our deeper feelings to come to the surface, this reveals parts of you that will create a strong bond.
Developing Mutual Respect and Deeper Trust
It May Be Difficult at First
Praying together can be hard, even for those who pray all the time, including pastors and their wives. You will be delighted at just how much your marriage will grow when you allow yourself to be honest and open. Most importantly, it creates an atmosphere of mutual respect. When this happens, then that deeper trust is developed by holding each other accountable, especially when you realize you can bring all of your problems and concerns before the Lord together in prayer.
Away with Self-Centeredness
A lot of us have to be reminded at times that it is not about us at all. Once we get that thought out of our heads, the better the marriage. We should never enter into a marriage with the thought ...now what can I get out of this marriage. With such a mentality as this, the marriage is bound to crash and burn rapidly.
This is the very reason why praying for your spouse and asking God to help with your spouse’s needs will actually keep you from being self-centered in only asking for yourself. Continually lifting your marriage in prayer daily helps to keep it as top priority in your mind, as well as keeping your spouse as second priority after God, who is number one. When God is truly at the center of all of your relationships, it has a ripple effect of good in all relationships in your life.
How Marriages Are Changed by Praying Together
- Strengthening the bonds of marriage
- Encouraging unity
- Promoting emotional intimacy
- Inviting God into your relationship
- Deepening communication
- Developing mutual respect and deeper trust
- Providing accountability to each other
- Reaffirming your desire to make your spouse second priority (God first)
- Promoting selflessness
Keeping it Real
Now, I wish that I could say that my husband and I pray together daily, but we do not. We do pray individually of course and I know all too well the power of prayer in my life. However, after hearing of the endless benefits of praying together as a couple this past Sunday in church, my husband and I have talked about taking five whole minutes out of our day praying together. We have been married since a very young age. Although we are still married, oh how I wished that we had the mindset from the start of our marriage to pray together.
Of course, there are no set rules for praying together with all of the crazy schedules we have going on in this life; however, please do take time to find what works for you as a couple. It can be simple, spontaneous without thinking it out, yet powerful---together.
Which reason/excuse hits home with you as to why you and your spouse do not pray together, if any?
The Future Looks Brighter
It is that togetherness in praying which keeps us mindful and reinforces the fact that we are on the same team with common goals and direction. Our hearts become aligned as couples, which is a natural thing, for one shared hope and outcome.
I can think of nothing more precious than getting a glimpse into my loved one’s heart. Such tender moments together sharing our deepest longings and desires in prayer grows our love.
Please ask yourself how can you fit prayer into your marriage, and what exactly is holding you back?
© Copyright Faith Reaper, September 27, 2014
This song I want to dedicate to all the married couples or those who seek to marry someday or soon...hoping all couples/singles put God first in everything they do. May all the men and women seek to love God more than anything else. They did an awesome job on this song of lifting up one another to God and asking for God to help lead them to love one another.