- Gender and Relationships
How to Survive Dating Prince Charming aka the Good Guy
Why Good Girls Love Bad Boys
This Hub was inspired by an article Why Good Girls Love Bad Boys which I highly recommend you read if you have not yet committed to giving that Good Guy a chance to be your Prince Charming. Once you say yes, come back here to figure out how to get your Happily Ever After.
Happily Ever After, Right?
You now have your very own Prince Charming. Now what? Happily Ever After, right?
Nope. It's hard. Really hard. But worth it.
A while back, I decided to give the good guy a chance. I made a great choice! He is amazing. Kind, respectful, helpful, responsible, fun, funny, am I gushing yet? Because I could go on.
I'm Not Princess Perfect
So why is it so hard? Because I'm not Princess Perfect. He knows I'm not Princess Perfect. He knew I wasn't Princess Perfect when he started dating me and now he wants to marry me. What's the problem then, you may ask? This is hard to admit. But, I'm not yet comfortable with not being Princess Perfect. You see, when I was with Asshole #1, Asshole #2 and every other asshole I dated, I felt like I was Princess Perfect who just made a bad choice. It's easy to feel Princess Perfect when the bad boy you are with so incredibly awful.
But put me next to Prince Charming? I know I'm not terrible, I know I'm a good girl, but I'm not Princess Perfect. Honestly, this is my problem, not his. He wants to marry me! Apparently, beauty isn't the only thing in the eye of the beholder. Goodness, Princess Perfect-ness, is also in the eye of the beholder. How do I know this? Well, to me he is Prince Charming and imperfect. But his imperfection are things I can deal with, overlook and understand that without them I also lose the things I love. For example, he gets filthy dirty and sometimes drags that mess through the house. But if he didn't get filthy dirty it would mean he was sitting on his butt being lazy rather than going to work or fixing the house. Filthy dirty is not perfect, but it is a-okay! So the reverse must be true too. He must understand that I am Princess True Love and imperfect. And maybe that means that he can deal with, overlook and even understand that without my imperfect parts, he would lose the things he loves.
So dating and, gasp, marrying Prince Charming is really, really hard. But worth it. He makes me want to be a better person. And in the mean time, I'll keep working on accepting myself, imperfections and all. If he can love me, then maybe I should love me too.