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How You Can Read Someone's Body Language

Updated on October 5, 2013

Nonverbal Communication

How To Know How Someone Feels About You

By: Cow Flipper

Body Language or Nonverbal Communication

Social sciences tells us that over 75% percent of communication is nonverbal.

Facial expressions - we can make and recognize around 250,000 facial expressions.

Ever just meet someone and felt that they just didn't seem to like you. You couldn't put your finger on it at the time and it just made you feel sort of weird. Well more than likely subconsciously you were reading their body language. The body is constantly sending out messages in posture and position. Our perception of sight plays a huge role in what we perceive. Once you realize this fact you can use this information to gain the upper-hand in many situations. By better understanding a persons emotional state by reading their body posture and expressions will help you to gauge how to approach them or if you should approach them at all.

The most important time to read a person is at your first meeting. All associations break down to (do we connect or clash, like or dislike a person we meet). We evaluate people when we first meet them. We wonder if we can trust them or if we will like them and our body language reflects this fact. Most people's body language we pick up on a subconscious level .

The way to use this information would be to help you in meeting new people. To help when going on a job interview or when having a business meeting. It is information that can help you impress a client or a potential mate.

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Reading Body Language Correct Responses

Your Body Language

Anxiety / Dislike

Your Reaction:

  • This person feels uncomfortable with you.
  • Make them feel at ease by opening your body posture to them; uncross your arms and legs.
  • Face them and lean forward and in to show you are interested and focusing on them.
  • Maintain good eye contact.
  • Smile and be friendly.

Thoughtful / Undecided

Your Reaction:

  • This person hasn't made up their mind about how they feel about you.
  • Keep an open posture.
  • Mirror their positive body language.

Interest / Trust / Like

Your Reaction:

  • This person likes you.
  • This person feels comfortable around you.
  • What ever you are doing keep doing it!







Reading Body Language of Others

Their Body Language

Emotion: Anxiety / Dislike

Body Language

  • Looking away
  • Fidgeting
  • Pulling on ear
  • Adjusting clothing
  • Rubbing the neck and head
  • Playing with things in pockets, keys
  • Looking to windows and doors
  • Leaning back or away from you
  • Looking at the ground
  • Clearing of the throat

Emotion: Thoughtful / Undecided

Body Language

  • Hand to face
  • Chin stroking
  • Frowning
  • Squinting
  • Body turned partly away
  • Occasional quick smiles
  • Looking down

Emotion: Interest / Trust / Like

Body Language

  • Body facing you
  • Leaning in relaxed
  • Makes eye contact
  • Smiling and self grooming
  • Playing with hair and clothing
  • Head tilting
  • Laughing
  • Making physical contact




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Body Posture Communication

A diagram of nonverbal communication through body language.
A diagram of nonverbal communication through body language.

Comfort

Lips

  • Moist, licking, slightly open

Fingertips

  • Relaxed, still

Hands

  • Open, visible, palms open, relaxed

Discomfort

Lips

  • Pressed (often combined with raised chin), biting, curls down at the edge of smile.

Fingertips

  • Fidgeting, tapping

Hands

  • Fists clenched, fidgeting, hidden behind back or in pockets or under a table, palms are face down, clinging to objects like purse, wallet, keys, pens, clothing.

My Thoughts on Body Language

To be able to use this information one has to first recognize their own body language. Looking at this makes us evaluate ourselves and how we speak to others with our body. We see that far more communication happens between two people than we would expect when no words are exchanged at all. Always remember that what you say with your body is just as important as what you say with your mouth.

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    • Jay Rando profile image

      Jay Rando 

      6 years ago from England

      Thanks for sharing this hub, body language is a fascinating subject. I will no doubt be back here to read again :) It would seem most of the time i sit in a confident and readiness kind of way, cool lol.

    • yssubramanyam profile image

      yssubramanyam 

      6 years ago from india, nellore. andhrapradesh

      body language is more useful to study an individual which is hidden by means of artificial; presentation. good hub.

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      L Ryuzaki 

      6 years ago

      Thanks for the info :)

    • howtogetthegirls profile image

      howtogetthegirls 

      6 years ago from Global

      Great hub, love your body posture diagram. There is so much that people can learn from body language on a daily basis. It can be quite fun to watch other people who don't know what their body language is telling you.

    • MsTarrah profile image

      MsTarrah 

      6 years ago

      I have studied body language in depth. Although this didn't tell me anything I don't know. I think it's VERY USEFUL to the average person. Voted up :)

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