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How to Tell if You're Bisexual or a Lesbian
When it comes to personal and sensitive topics such as sexuality it all comes down to your own personal feelings. Many women have decided to not even bother labeling themselves because to definitively state your sexuality can be overwhelming. Love knows no true gender. If you must, or feel you should define your sexuality with one word there is one major factor you need to look at... Attraction.
The one thing that determines sexuality is attraction. Each person is different and each person is attracted to something or someone different. This a normal human reaction to life. You may be only attracted to women, men, both, certain types of each, etc. this is something you will learn throughout your life as you grow as a person and experience life.
If you only feel attracted to women and have no interest in men on a sexual level then it is safe to say that you are a lesbian. If you are attracted to men and women then you would be considered a bisexual. When you start to have those experiment feelings where you want to know what it would be like to be with a man it doesn't mean that you are a bisexual all of a sudden. Its just like every other aspect of your personality, its not just a switch that can be flipped back and forth.
You may find a man that you are attracted to, even if you have never had that attraction to men before, and that is okay and even normal.
Labels aren't needed
The typical thinking is that if you have to question if you are a lesbian or bisexual, you are probably bisexual. The reason behind this is because if you are questioning it you probably have felt some attraction to someone of the opposite sex. However, feelings of attraction come and go, they can change in an instance. Just an attraction or wanting to explore your options doesn't mean you can't still call yourself a lesbian.
In today's changing world sexuality is becoming a more openly discussed topic. The sigma of being a lesbian has finally started to wear off and in many places people don't even care what others consider themselves. This is way labeling yourself isn't as important as it use to be. Though many people still try to classify themselves to feel whole, it isn't necessary.