Relationships: What is True love and How to have a Wonderful Relationship.

"In this was manifested the love of God toward us, because that God sent His only begotten Son into the world, that we might live through Him. Herein is love, not that we loved God, but that He loved us, and sent His Son to be the satisfaction for our sins."

~John 4:19~

Could any of us give up ot children for the sins of others so that they might live in majesty after death? I know for me my love for my children is so deep that it is difficult for me to send them on a mission trip to help teach others about the love of God.

I am not sure we actually can ever experience the kind of love that God has for us. It is much too great and awesome.

Luke 6:35

But love your enemies, do good to them, and lend to them without expecting to get anything back. Then your reward will be great, and you will be sons of the Most High, because he is kind to the ungrateful and wicked.

Mark 12:31

The second is this: 'Love your neighbor as yourself.' There is no commandment greater than these."

These are two other biblical quotes on love. Can any of us love our enemies? I mean REALLY love our enemies? I know there are people that have forgiven the leaders of 9/11 even after all they lost. To carry hatred in out hearts only destroys us from within like a cancer slowly taking over our entire body's until we have nothing but bitterness and hatred in our hearts.. This hatred will eventually make us ill. It will cause us to develop autoimmune diseases emotional problems and more. Hatred will kill us from the inside out. A bitter person carrying hatred in their hearts can be so ugly thing to be around that a person carrying it will find others avoiding them. It is like a parasite and can be felt vividly and destoys the soul.

1 Corinthians 13:4-8

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away.

This may be my favorite scripture verse on love. It is so popular you may often hear it read during a wedding ceremony. But how many of us truly listen and acknowledge and live these words? How easy it to not be self-seeking? We all want our way but in marriage and other relationships we have to learn to think of others first. How do we know they may have had a more stressful day than us or are not feeling well. Love is so giving and impatient. The biggest lesson to take from this is that we will actually be on the winning side when we can put our own needs aside and think first of our loved ones.

Do we protect our spouses. Wives do you cook healthy food for your spouses? Husbands are you envious of your wives if they have a job making more money. Do we belittle our spouses, especially in front of our children? Do we think about special things we can do to make our loved ones feel our love? Is it envious? Who is the first to ask forgiveness? Human beings are so self-centered that to truly love the way Christ loves us is almost impossible. When we argue who is the first to apologize? Do we really forget arguments and throw them "into the se of forgetfulness as Christ would or do we use those arguments as ammunition in the future to throw at our spouse.

Eash day we should spend time thinking of the dear and special things that brought you to that special person. Sometimes we spend too much time thinking about the negative, the little irritating habits that we all have that drive you crazy. These are the thoughts that can lead to divorce. Think more about how you felt in the early days when you were being courted and neither one of your could do no wrong. Strange as it sounds it can be the little things that you admired the most but come with little eccentricities that later come to bother you. A good example is a hard working husband that being a type A person works too many hours each day. These very qualities may be what brought you to love him and now seem to be unbearable to deal with. Being a good provider can be a great trait but can be difficult on a wife trying to care for little ones.

A wife may have been very sweet and sensitive but now she seem overly emotional and it may drive a husband crazy even though it was that kind, emotional sensitiviity that made your fall in love with her.

To love we have to be bendable and try to allow our differences not to come between us. When two people give and take love shows through and you will be able to endure the differences and disagreements of marriage