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How to Write a Love Letter Your Woman Will Cherish

Updated on January 10, 2014

This article is geared toward men who are writing love letters to their wives or girlfriends. If you'd like to read an article for women about how to write articles for their husbands and boyfriends, that article hasn't been written yet. You may, however, wish to read an article about how women can romance their men.

Men and Women Speak Different Languages

Although many people try to deny it, the simple fact remains: Men and Women speak different languages. Certainly not in the literal sense of the expression. We speak the shared language of the culture in which we live. However, the way that we perceive language (both verbal and kinesthetic) differs, often by gender. Whatever the reason for this phenomenon (which isn't up for debate here), culture has shown us that men and women think differently, and that they express and receive information in different ways from one another.

While most women seem to believe that men simply aren't romantic, this is because they aren't speaking the same language as their husband or boyfriend.

Your job, as a boyfriend or husband, is to learn how to speak your woman's romantic language, and to appeal to it on the right occasions and settings. This sounds much easier than it is.

Women want to feel cherished and loved: This is the foundation of the way that they receive love. Most women are sensitive to the way men perceive them, and want to know what men like about them.
Women want to feel cherished and loved: This is the foundation of the way that they receive love. Most women are sensitive to the way men perceive them, and want to know what men like about them. | Source

Write a Love Letter in Your Wife's Language

The key to writing a love letter that your wife is going to cherish for years to come is in making sure that you're expressing yourself while also speaking her language. Women have a very specific way of receiving love, and you want to word your letter in a way that helps her to understand the message you're trying to convey. Have you seen Cloudy with a Chance of Meatballs? Flint's father struggles so much with sentimental conversation that he uses fishing (and sardine) metaphors in an attempt to communicate with his son. Flint doesn't speak the same language that his father does, and however loving his father may attempt to be, the message is lost.

It takes the monkey thought translator to help him communicate with Flint in a way that allows them to bond with one another.

Thankfully, you don't need any kind of translator. A few tips about how to communicate with the women in your life should do the trick!

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What Your Wife Wants to Hear

When composing a love letter to your wife, you'll want to focus on what she wants to hear from you. This will be different from the sorts of things that you want to hear from her. As much as you may be inclined to tell her how much you admire her or appreciate her, save these messages for Mother's Day and stick to something much more romantic to your wife:

Tell her that you cherish her.

Most women will spend their entire lives making up for a gap that's left (often by their fathers or first loves) in their hearts. They may feel that nobody has ever loved them the way that they want to be loved, or they may feel that they aren't beautiful. Perhaps not most, but certainly many women have issues with low-self esteem, and desperately need to be affirmed. Use your love letter to tell your wife or girlfriend everything that you've never been able to say to her face, and say it as though you'll never have another opportunity to say it again.

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Some Things to Write in a Love Letter to Your Wife

If you don't know what to write, then you're certainly not alone! We've lost the art of letter-writing and have forgotten what it is to write in the romantic forms of days gone by. As a society, we're not accustomed to being romantic or prosaic and to putting our thoughts down into words, so this might take some practice for you. Try to start out by jotting down notes about your feelings for your wife or girlfriend, then work those notes into something that fits in with these simple things your wife wants to hear:

  • She wants to know she's beautiful. But not just that she's beautiful; She wants to know what it is about her that makes her beautiful in your eyes. Be specific. What is it that makes her beautiful? Make sure that if you're going to name attributes of her personality that you also name some physical attribute(s) as well. Make her feel that she is beautiful on the outside as well as on the inside.
  • She wants to know that you can't live without her. Most women like to feel that they're needed. This is an important part of a women's emotional well-being. Make sure that she knows how much you need her, and how you feel when you're separated from her. Go ahead and be sentimental: Many women appreciate sentimentality, particularly when it's romantic.
  • She wants to know what you love about her. Your wife or girlfriend wants to know how much you love her, but more important than that, she wants to know what it is (specifically) that you love about her. Is it something she does, the way she wears her hair, the way that you've bonded together? She wants to hear those things.
  • Tell her how much you miss her (if you're separated). Women want to feel that they are cherished and loved, and telling her that you miss her when you're apart is a wonderful way of letting your wife or girlfriend know that she's needed and wanted. It's okay to be sentimental, so pour your heart out and let her know why it is that you'd rather be spending the night next to her rather than wherever it is that you are.

Don't Be Afraid to be Sentimental

Women -- in general -- appreciate sentimentality and emotion. We are emotional creatures and we want to know how much you love us, and how you'd do anything for us. Don't write your wife or girlfriend the letter that you'd like to receive from her: Write her the letter that she'd like to receive from you. Bear in mind that the two of you are speaking two different languages from one another, and that what she hears when you tell her how much you appreciate the things that she does for you, she may hear that you're asking her to do more of those things.

Use her language, and the list of tips of what to include above, to write a love letter that your wife will appreciate and cherish. Your goal is to create a simple letter that she will hold onto for years into the future.

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What to Include in a Love Letter

What Women Want to Hear
What Men Want to Hear
How You Love Her
How You Appreciate Him
What Makes Her Beautiful
What Makes Him Strong
What Makes You Miss Her
How You Admire Him

Creating a Peaceful Writing Space

  • Turn your cellphone off. Not just vibrate, but turn it off. If you have a land line, consider unplugging it from the wall so that phone calls can't distract you at all. You don't want it ringing.
  • Turn the television off. Don't sit in front of the television to write your letter. Turn it off and find somewhere quiet where you can relax. The same goes for the radio (with the exception of romantic music that will inspire you).
  • Get yourself a drink. Make sure that you have enough to finish with your letter. Don't use getting up to get another drink a distraction from the work before you. If you drink a lot, pour a pitcher of something that you like and have that with you.

Overcoming Writer's Block when Writing a Love Letter to Your Woman

Writer's block is, perhaps, the biggest hurdle that any letter-writer will ever face. Sometime's it's difficult to block out the world and simply write to someone you love, and it can certainly be difficult to avoid writing about something mundane. While love letters should certainly be inspired, many writers find it difficult to block out the worries of the world and simply sit down and write.

The first thing to look at is your writing environment. Make sure that the area where you're writing is free of distractions. Try using the list to the right to help you to promote a good writing environment for composing your love letter to your wife or girlfriend.

Once you've managed to eliminate distractions (using the list of ideas to the right), try jotting down some simple ideas.

  • What do you love about your wife?
  • What makes her beautiful to you?
  • What would it do to you to lose her?

Make some notes about your feelings for your wife and work them into words that you believe she'll appreciate. Remember to be sentimental and romantic! She will probably enjoy that quite a bit. Once you have your notes, you can begin composing your letter.

Want More Romance in Your Life?

If you've enjoyed this article about writing romantic love letters for the woman in your life, you may wish to explore more romantic topics to enhance your relationship.

If you're writing a love letter to your woman because you're in a long-distance relationship, you may enjoy reading something about celebrating Valentine's Day in a long-distance relationship. Keeping romance alive in a long-distance relationship can be particularly difficult, and writing love letters is just one way to stay connected to your partner during long separations.

For those men trying to show their wife or girlfriend love during a time of low income, it may be helpful to read about celebrating Valentine's Day without spending a dime. These ideas work for any time of the year!

© 2014 Becki Rizzuti

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      AJ 3 years ago from Pennsylvania

      Beautiful and romantic beckisgiftguides! I can't believe no one has commented. This section: Some Things to Write in a Love Letter to Your Wife, is so great! Thanks so much! Shared

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      Dee 2 years ago

      Thank you for the great tips and suggestions. I've used this article as motivation to write a letter to an ex-girlfriend who remains the love of my life.

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