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How to ask a guy out: Cute and creative ways to ask him out on a date without sounding desperate

Updated on July 3, 2013

How to ask a guy out? There are many sweet and cute ways in which you can ask a guy out on a date and tell him that you have a crush on him. You can avoid sounding desperate by being creative, romantic and girly. It is not weird for a girl to ask a guy out so stop feeling nervous and afraid. Even if you are a shy girl, there are ways in which you can say I Like You without facing an awkward situation. If he likes you back, there is no reason why he will not be your boyfriend.

Feeling shy? Send him flirty but incomplete messages. He will figure out that you have a crush on him.
Feeling shy? Send him flirty but incomplete messages. He will figure out that you have a crush on him. | Source

1) Send him shy and incomplete text messages: Let him figure out what you want to say

You can use incomplete text messages to give a guy hints that you like him if you are extremely shy. Such cute advances are generally self-explanatory and the guy will pick up your clues easily. Here are some examples of incomplete text messages that you can send.

  • I want to say something to you, but I don't know how to say it.
  • Can we go on a .... Never mind.
  • I have a crush on someone. Should I tell you?
  • I want to say something. But I don't know how you will react.
  • Do you know who I like in class? Umm.... Never mind.

The guy will eventually figure out that you have a crush on him. If he has a heart, he will put you out of agony and ask if you like him. Utter a cute yes and then ask him out on a date.

2) Send a cute note by post

Writing a full page handwritten letter is out-of-date, especially when you haven't even begun dating a guy. But the intense cuteness of a handwritten note is still alive.

Take a small square piece of cardstock or cardboard and write I Like You with a colorful pen. Draw a tiny rose, balloon or a small kiss on the corner of the card. Put this in an envelope and send it to your guy by post.

Don't write your name on the card. Give the guy a heads up by telling him that you have sent something for him. The expectation will create a small flutter of excitement.

3) Find ways in which you can get his help

The easiest way to ask a guy out without sounding desperate is to think about how you can get his help. For example, if your crush is a cool geeky guy, you can ask for his help to install new software on your laptop. If he is a real estate agent then you can ask him about the latest property prices on behalf of a fictitious friend.

The excuse of getting his help will let you to meet him more often. You can use these opportunities to impress him and get him to like you.

4) Ask a guy out on your birthday

This works best when the guy is already your friend. He should be a part of the people who wish you on your birthday and give you gifts. Be sure about your feelings because falling in love with friends can either be extremely blissful or extremely messy.

When he comes to wish you a happy birthday and gives you a gift, flirt with him and say that no one gave you what you really wanted on your birthday. When he asks you about it, make a sweet face and tell him that you have a crush on him. Tell him that a date with you is what you really wanted as a birthday gift.

Plan a casual outing where you can hang out as friends but come back as boyfriend and girlfriend.
Plan a casual outing where you can hang out as friends but come back as boyfriend and girlfriend.

5) Go out as friends and come back as boyfriend-girlfriend: Sneaky but cute

If you are crushing on one of your guy friends, ask him if he wants to hang out with you at the movies or at a fast food joint. Don't tell him anything and just go as two friends hanging out with each other.

Pick a sweet moment and tell him that there was a specific reason why you called him to meet you. Be open and let him know that you don't want to remain in the friend zone any longer and that you have a big crush on him.

6) Give a note to a guy when you are going separate ways

A super romantic way of asking a guy out is to give him a note just before you are going separate ways. For example, if you and your crush take separate buses from the same bus stop, hand him a note from your seat window while he is still waiting for his bus.

This way you can avoid the awkwardness associated with the whole situation. You can look at the expression on his face as he unfolds the note and reads it while your bus starts pulling away.

7) Ask his best friend to introduce him to you

This generally works well only if you are friends with your crush's best friend. Confess your feelings for your crush to his best pal and ask him to introduce the two of you.

The best part about taking this discreet route is that the friend will tell you upfront if you are the type of girl your crush would like to date. You can also ask questions to find out a bit more about your crush's personality, likes and dislikes.

8) Make him ask you out: Play the 'Do you have a girlfriend?' game

If you think that your crush likes you too, you can start a flirty conversation that eventually leads to a situation where he asks you out. Below are some questions that you should ask him when you have a chat with him on the phone over text messages.

  • Do you have a girlfriend?
  • Why don't you have a girlfriend?
  • What would your girlfriend be like?
  • Do you like me?
  • I wouldn't mind dating you.
  • Are you asking me out?

A series of such flirty questions will help you find out if he likes you too. Keep giving hints that you have a crush on him and by the end of the conversation he will probably have asked you out on a date.

Tell your best friend about your crush and ask her to talk to him.
Tell your best friend about your crush and ask her to talk to him.

9) Tell your best friend to ask him out for you

An easy way of asking a guy out without sounding desperate is to get one of your best friends to do the job for you. Just make sure that your friend isn't prettier than you are.

Your best friend can simply walk over to the guy and ask if he has a minute to talk in private. She can then reveal that you have a crush on him. She should also suggest that she personally thinks that you both would make a cute girlfriend-boyfriend pair.

10) Slip a note in a guy's bag to ask him out

Notes slipped into bags, wallets and pockets have forever been a way in which lovers have expressed themselves. This is a cute and no-nonsense way to tell someone that you like them.

Write I Like You on a simple piece of paper and fold it many times so you can hold it on the tip of your fingers. Slip it into your crush's bag or jacket pocket.

11) Sit next to him on the bus

Does your crush take public transport? If he does, make sure that you sit next to him on the bus, train or tram. Strike up a conversation and as you 'accidentally bump' into him more often, you will get more chances to give him subtle signs that you like him.

Find excuses to do stuff together while you are on the bus. For example, you can grab a sandwich which you both can share. Or you can take your tablet along ask him if he wants to watch a movie with you and you can both share the headphones.

12) Be bold and take the direct approach to ask him out: Just say it

Girls who are complete extroverts can just use the direct approach and ask a guy out. Boys will love it because they find themselves turned on and intimidated at the same time when a girl is direct about her feelings.

Flirt with him on the phone or when you talk to him in person. Look out for signs in his body language that he likes you. Muster the courage to speak your heart out and just blurt out the three words – I Like You.

If you decide to take this route, you should be mentally strong and prepared to handle an instant rejection. Don't break down if he says no, just walk away.

Feeling creative? Write down four to five cute lines that rhyme in a sweet poem.
Feeling creative? Write down four to five cute lines that rhyme in a sweet poem.

13) Ask him out by writing a short I Like You poem

The cutest way in which you can ask a guy out is to write a sweet poem for him. Write an introductory line to the poem and explain to him that you have a crush on him and this is how you feel.

Keep your poem subtle and don't sound too desperate. Don't write more than five or six lines. At the same time, you must convey that you have a crush on him and that you would like to go on a date with him. Sign off the poem with either your email or phone number and ask him to get in touch if he feels the same way.

14) Get cozy with your crush: He is yours if he makes the first move

Find out if your crush likes you by getting cozy and personal with him. Start giving hints of your crush on him by sitting very close to him, standing in his personal space and getting touchy feely with him.

Plan a moment when you are both alone, either in a park or at a place where it is no one else but you both. Move closer and sit right next to him. If he likes you, he will immediately reciprocate by getting touchy feely or may be even by giving you a cute kiss for the first time.

Limit your interaction to the cute peck and don't get too touchy feely. Back off and make sure that he is genuine about his feelings. Start dating each other and don't get too intimate until you are ready to take your new relationship to that level.


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      dashingscorpio 11 months ago

      As long as women (worry) about sounding/looking desperate when it comes to dating men they will never truly be their equals.

      After you get beyond a certain age being direct is the best route to take.

      Truth be told I believe most women are afraid of rejection and that's the real reason why they don't want to approach men.

      Note: Rejection isn't the end of the world! It saves you time. Next!

      Others fear they will be taken advantage of or used because the guy knows she is romantically interested in him.

      Truth be told every budding relationship is a gamble!

      Take your time getting to know someone and hold true to your values. Essentially after few conversations or dates you'll have a better idea of whether this person is worth investing more time with.

      Asking a guy if he wants to grab some lunch or a cup of coffee shouldn't be a case of trying to decide on whether to cut the red wire or the blue wire!

      Just because you think someone is cute or hot doesn't make them any better than you! It's just a case of one human being interacting with another.

      We all eat, belch, fart, and crap. No one's wearing a halo!

      Thank God we live on a planet with over 7 Billion! We've got lots of options!

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      Landy 14 months ago

      I really like someone but I don't know what to tell him dat I like him. Please I need ur aid.