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Dating Tips|Common Teenage Dating Issues|Teen relationship problems

Updated on August 15, 2012
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Dating has fast become a very useful tool in modern days when it comes to selecting the right future partner. But if proper dating procedures are not followed, results can be detrimental.

Not all societies encourage teenage dating. I can remember growing up in my country where seeing another girl was almost like a sacred activity. Lolz. I can’t question why that was so. While my age group in developed world countries were holding hands with their girlfriends and walking along the street or beaches, I was never allowed to do that.

Whether one is allowed to openly or secretly date when it comes to teenage dating, there are some common dating issues experienced in both scenarios. The public and the secret teenage dating.

Dating for the first time can be emotionally difficult for young boys and girls, and sometimes their lack of experience with dating can negatively affect their lives and the lives of the people who care about them.

Because dating involves a person’s physical, mental and emotional being. Therefore complications that arises during the course of dating affects the person involve very deeply.

Because of lack of knowledge or pure ignorance by the teenagers themselves or the parents, teenagers run into problems that affect them psychically, mentally or emotionally. Some of these teenage dating issues are avoidable. This is unless those responsible take drastic actions to guide and mentor the teenage that are undergoing dating process.

Here I list some common issues that are face by teenagers who are dating. Note that most of them are related. So as I discuss I will use almost all three of them.

Drug and Alcohol

Recall back to the time when you were a teenager. Infect, it is common to hear most people saying, the most enjoyable stage in their life was teenage years. As teenagers taste freedom for the first time, their curiosity runs riot and they try to learn everything at once. Teenagers often experiment with a variety of activities and substances especially during the dating stage when they are exposed to network of friends. This experimentation can lead to substance abuse and addiction. Without treatment, the effects of drug abuse on teens can lead to serious consequences and well into adulthood.

Alcohol like drugs, alcohol has similar impacts to the dating teenagers. The effects of alcohol abuse on teens can lead to serious consequences now and later in life, including health problems, social problems, permanent damage. Teens who wrongly associate dating with drugs and alcohol have a high changes of being affected by problems

Impacts of drug and alcohol use

Emotional problems

Those who use drugs can be vulnerable to serious emotional problems. Their normal emotions are disturbed and they tend to have false emotions that lead to more problems. Depression, anxieties etc are few of the many emotional problems teenagers experience.

Behavioral problems.

Drugs and alcohol alter the behavior of teenagers who take them. Some become violent. Others crawl back into their shells. These behavioral patterns are then wrongly perceived to be good and it’s quit difficult to talk a teenage out of those illusions if they go into it very deep. This irrational behavior leads to fatal accidents or even death. Some teenagers end up having unwanted pregnancy or contracting sexually transmitted disease all because they can’t control their behavior.

Mental problems

Drugs and alcohol have serious short and long term impacts. Both of them are addictive and both are capable of damaging the brain of the user. This can affect learning and in the long run cause severe mental problems.



Recall the time when you first kissed your boy or girlfriend. You were talking and all for a while in a quiet place I don’t know, probably in your room or in the club or beach or somewhere. You know where I am talking about. After a bit of talking, you started touching each other’s bodies…Uh! I can imagine your heart searching for an opening to jump out of your body. Noting mattered but his/her touch. It was all rainbows. Now you know what I am talking about. This is the feeling that the teenagers call true love. Love of their life...What an illusion if that person tends out not to be their dream guy or girl?

Sex is an exciting part of dating, but for a teenager, the results of having sex at such a young age can be devastating. A dating teenager may not stop to think about what the future would be like after having sex.

  • Sex can lead to an unwanted pregnancy, or a sexually transmitted disease, such as herpes, gonorrhea or AIDs.
  • Having sex with someone who cares only about having sex can also leave a teenager with hurt and regret.
  • A teenage boy may try to talk his partner into having sex with him by making her think she can prove her love for him by giving in.

Final words

Teenage dating can be an enjoyable experience but if teenage are not thought how best to date, they can run into into many problems, like drug, alcohol and sex.

This article covered common problems in teenage dating. There are more articles coming up under this niche so keep coming back right here for more.


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      Ian D Hetri 5 years ago from Papua New Guinea

      Hi Biggs

      . Veri insightful comments. Thanks


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      Angela Biggs 5 years ago from United Kingdom

      Dating is something parents can't stop now a days. So they have to let their children go. But as far as these problems are concerned, parents can avoid them to a great extent by knowing their children's date to make sure that they are not putting them into danger.

      Getting into problems while dating, will make you regret later on in your life. At some or the other stage you will realize that it would have been better if you could have waited or stopped. God has chosen the perfect one for you and will get it to you. So casual dating is fine, but don't let anyone take your advantage or force you to cross you ethical boundary. You need not change yourselves for dating, be yourself. You will see the change it makes.

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      Ian D Hetri 5 years ago from Papua New Guinea

      Thanks Ardie for the adding bit of advice to the teenagers out there. There is time for every as you said...

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      Sondra 5 years ago from Neverland

      So my advice to ANY teenage couple thinking about dating? DON'T DO IT! Okay, I know that wont happen so my next piece of advice is to take it slow. No drinking, no drugs, NO SEX. There is all the time in the world later. For now be casual and have fun hanging out. Great Hub Ian :)