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How to be Loved

Updated on February 15, 2008

Falling in love is easy. This is something that you can control. You meet someone who has all that you have been looking for. They are nice, honest, and fun to be around. They are also very attractive. Your love grows the longer that you know them. But do they love you? There are certain things that you can do to increase the chances of becoming loved.

Love Yourself

You can't expect anyone to love you if you can't even love yourself. Before you get into a serious relationship, you may want to work on your self confidence. No matter what society says, you are great the way you are. Feeling bad about yourself is just a waste of energy and time. You'll find that you are much happier once you allow yourself to love who you are.

There are side effects to loving yourself that can improve your chances of someone loving you. For example, when you have more self confidence, you will treat yourself better. These areas will likely improve:

  • Personal hygiene: keeping yourself clean and smelling wonderful
  • Physical appearance: with hair, clothing and/or makeup
  • Nutrition: you'll surely eat better when you respect yourself more
  • Fitness: in line with nutrition, you will care more about your body if you have more confidence.

Be Open to Love

If you want love to come to you, you need to be open to it. You have a much better chance of someone falling in love with you if you are sweet, nice and outgoing. Don't fold your arms or turn away from people you're talking to. Often the most important part of communication is non-verbal. Sit closer to the person that you're with. If you do, they will feel more comfortable about being around you. When you sit far away with a frown on your face, you are showing someone that you aren't ready to love.

Be Honest

When people are asked what they want in a relationship, the majority mentions honesty. For most people, this aspect is at the top of the list. A relationship built on a core of honesty has a much better chance of lasting a long time. When you're honest with your partner, or with a potential mate, you are showing respect to them.

It can often be very hard for people to be honest. In a way, they think that it's easier to lie. If you put the effort into being honest, it shows them that you care and that you are willing to make it work. If you want to be loved, you should strive to keep honesty in your relationship.

Be Yourself

As much as you want to be loved, that person should love you for who you are and not who you pretend to be. Anyone can pretend to be everything that his or her mate desires, and while this can lead to a relationship, it won't be fulfilling. This is an extension of honesty. Don't just tell the truth with your words, tell the truth with who you are. Do you like watching cheesy horror movies? Don't hide it. You should want to be loved by someone who has those same interests. This will help you achieve a deeper and more fulfilling love.

If you love yourself, are open to love, are honest, and are being yourself, there's no reason why someone can't fall in love with you. Follow these rules and you will have a much better chance at the relationship that you dream of.

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      dutch84 9 years ago

      This is great.

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      tbartle 9 years ago from Missoula, Montana

      I'm glad you liked it!

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      isra 8 years ago

      i'll give a try i've got nothing lose but to win.it's just that i'm fed ud wtih girls cheating on me.now they wanna come back and i'm happy to see they're the ones who are suffering now.greetins to my friends

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      torino70 8 years ago from Pueblo, Colorado

      Relationships and dating are never easy, but im gonna try some of the things on here. great hub.

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      cynch 8 years ago

      i will surelly try it man its cool i like it cos it kinda o tell me where im wrong

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      John Wayne 8 years ago

      "You have a much better chance of someone falling in love with you if you are sweet, nice and outgoing." and "Be yourself" can conflict!

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      Tanisha 8 years ago

      i will try to be myselff..but i always mess up relationships i love them at first and then it fades away i try to be sweet.honest,n myselff what can i do.you cant make someone love you at times specially the ones you want no matter how much you try

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      Anna 8 years ago

      well i liked the article a lot, but the problem i have is that at first the guy who likes me does anything i want, i mean he's always around me, gives me compliments and all that stuff, but when i show him i like him a lot, too, when we start a relationship for example, he chills out and becomes icy.. what should i do? i don't change my attitude at all - i just show him i like him... i really don't understand what the problem is.. Please help... Thanks

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      tarik 8 years ago

      well , to be honest I would say that this not always works since we are living in a material world.That is , to be loved you have to be rich at first not how nice or honest you are, and so on.

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      Emily  8 years ago

      the fist time I saw David O Sullivan I was falling in love with him and Can't thinking about him when go to Dublin

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      totta 8 years ago

      iloved some one very much but he didnot love me saying he didnot feel me

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      mehdi karimi suflu 8 years ago

      i love some parts.i hope i dont 4get 'em

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      mehdi karimi suflu 8 years ago

      i love some parts.i hope i dont 4get 'em

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      Emily  8 years ago

      I am very hosety girlfreind but still love him so much will feover foergt how much he manes to me and I wll always care about him so much

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      Alice 8 years ago

      I think you wrote something wrong. You said, "be yourself." and you also said, "You have a much better chance of someone falling in love with you if you are sweet, nice and outgoing."

      nah? everyone's different and not all of us are sweet, outgoing, and nice.

      but thanks a bunch for this. i'll try my best to do this rules!

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      Fado ,,,, 8 years ago

      Well ,,,, yea I guess to be yourself is the best way , because if someone really loves you he will not love you for who you pretend you are ,but for who you really are ,,,,

      so i guess this a very good advice :)

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      Giorgio  8 years ago

      Love is a shit i which I dont believe because of so many love stories gone bad or the wrong direction, or somebody being hurt at the most important part (the heart), that is why I dont believe in that shit. I believe in friendship, in which you can pass the time with the girl and does not mean she is your posession or vice versa, and when you are horny you can have kisses foreplay or sex and there´s compromise only if comes a kid. But you can still be friends. Love sucks.

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      terry 7 years ago

      there is a guy that hates me but ..i fell inlove with him

      how to let him love me ?:o

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      terry 7 years ago

      what is love:

      love is when u put in your head that this guy u have feelings toward is the exact one for u ..that doesnt meen u love him

      love is when u accept others ..but this feeling u feel toward a boy is different but similar ..& also wrong sometimes ,when u start to CONVINCE ur self that this person is the best for you ..then this is love ...dont be sure that this partner is the best for u ..try to know him or her more & then think,,''should i be with him ..do i really love him?&why?

      if u love a guy that critisize u or hate u ...or maybe doesnt have the same feeling well dont be afraid ..sad,mad,cry,or maybe HATE him

      maybe he has his own reasons.,,if his in ur school or collage &he is popular ..his crowd force him to only love POPULAR GIRLS...or vise versa!!..or maybe he doesnt like u because u made him or her think u are a bad person or unlovable ..try to prove the opposite now..gd luck ,dnt fuck bye :)

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      me 7 years ago

      wash and eat well? are u serious? farken bukarken..

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      Hannah Whatley 7 years ago

      Nice Post I recommend you read my post 'Don't fall in Love'

      The title doesn't give it away, I promise.(laughs)

      -h

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      Tei 7 years ago

      Personaly, i don't believe in love.

      Might happen one day though =) thing is I always have big crushes.. never end up having them. :'( It hurts a lot, even if I am myself and that includes being sweet and laughing a lot (i'm well known because of that). I never manage to go out with the guys I have feelings for. Annoying huh?

      Nice hub

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      khalid  7 years ago

      I LIKE IT BUT IF ALL THESE TRUE IT'S goning to be difficult but there is a solution to be perfect not only to be loved it's to be very self confident of yourself

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      juliana 7 years ago

      LOVE IS SOMETING COMES AND GOES..IT" DEPANDS ON US HOW TO UPHOLD IT..SOMETIMES ITS HURTS SOME TIMES SWEET...

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      kcal 7 years ago

      hi i am dating a girl, this is my first love, she had boyfriends before, she is nice, but i feel like she is not intrested in me, she doesnt call me, even if i call her we talk for few minutes and then she says she got something to do and make me hang up the line. we meet every other day and spent an hour together during that time she is sweet, i dont know weather this relationship will last long. i love her, dont know she take this seriously??

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      d3a2 7 years ago

      i am arabian girl - this is great

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      spinoza 7 years ago

      i think i can now win her ,.,.,.,thanx

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      Little1 7 years ago

      I like this article but he told me he will never marry me. He keeps pictures of his exs hidden,the one who got away. I try to please him in EVERY aspect but he still doesn't love me. I can't be without him, I hope that by following steps in this article it might help bc I'm in a rut. From being the prettiest girl everywhere I went the fact that he says negative things and I don't feel loved led me to be depressed n feel ugly n worthless:-( once more, hope it helps me

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      hamid 7 years ago

      Hi, Ifact i didn't read at yet, but I just belive on my love in any case I love her and I'll die for her. Just she is the only reason of my breathing. I know to days there is not any real love mostly they are looking for in

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      halem / from libya 7 years ago

      love is the greatest thing in life . Without we can not live starting from our parents love up to loving to our children and grand chldren this love makes us love others . There is something wrong in there home . If u try to love the life ,the pepnle, the mature the , and the god surly u will be loved by evrybody

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      halem / from libya 7 years ago

      love is the greatest thing in life . Without we can not live starting from our parents love up to loving to our children and grand chldren this love makes us love others . There is something wrong in there home . If u try to love the life ,the pepnle, the mature the , and the god surly u will be loved by evrybody

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      maria 7 years ago

      love is wonderful feeling we should not say that there is no live nowdays but we hve to trust the one we love

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      Rishfa 7 years ago

      great artilce..well advised thanks

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      RETARD NATION 7 years ago

      love is so hot and u guys all r retarded....................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................really.............................................................................................................................................................................4.real...........................................................................................................................................................................................................................xD......................................................................all of u.......................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................XD............................:D...........................................................................................................don't delete this or block it plzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz....................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................

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      me!!!!!!!! 7 years ago

      i've never been in love!! it just hurt to have crushes on people who don't even know u're smile or face... love sucks

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      geoff 7 years ago

      this is very good. such deep and complex issues couldnt be said more concisely.

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      gareth 7 years ago

      What about for people like myself who do more or less everything as the article directs and still nothing happens? I believe that love in available to only a few special people and im not one of them :( hahaha

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      benedict velasco 7 years ago

      love iin this world is temporary. though you love someone and no matter how both of you show how you love each other and give time, efforts, importance to the one you love. love is just a new clothes when you bought it in a department store.. it is very exciting to wear coz u like it as well as your love one likes it too... love fades as time goes by.. True love comes from a loving God. He's love is genuine & perfect

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      Michael 6 years ago

      I like this article. I loved a girl,she said she's boyfriend she can't leave her bf because of me she loves her bf very much but she keeps sending SMS and even call me at 1 or 2:00am. When she calls me,she just asks me what I'm doing she wanna go out with me and we can just be friends. What can I do?

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      Edward  6 years ago

      I've loved this girl for ages now and when I got the confidence to ask her out I was shot down because she was not ready for a relationship again after been left by her ex I didn't know this so I'd taken I to Heart then tryed again but after pouring my heart an soul out

      she blanked me and walked away

      please help me I love her to much just to let her go please help me!!!

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      fastech 6 years ago

      pls heip me out, if am in a relationship i always discovered that it always re ach a certain stage the feeling will fade,pls what am i gonna do i need answer

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      sassybave 6 years ago

      this article is really great....

      i am willing to open my heart again and not to scared to fall in love again...

      thank u so much/....and more power(:

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      katrine 6 years ago

      well, it's interesting to try these tips because all work with love and care!

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      mehdiblanket 6 years ago

      Hi

      Before l read this beautiful article ,l know already those things ,and l did almost 90% of what you are saying below ,but my problem is the wheelchair ,l see the person in their eyes whom l met that they don't accept the fact of the wheelchair.

      And l am crying when l am writing this message.

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      krimo 6 years ago

      well.thank you for this article.i am sure that iwill do it

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      Mhmd 6 years ago

      well, great article Thx alot

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      mls  6 years ago

      i love someone but he don't love !!

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      Ashley 6 years ago

      Let's say a person is selfish, he/she can find someone as selfish--with more or less the same level of selfishness,then one can simply be oneself and "sweet".

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      seddik 6 years ago

      i m waiting for a women who realy love me

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      It works 6 years ago

      WOW thanks

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      ashey 6 years ago

      aaaaaaaaaaahhhhhhhhhhhh!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!shut up

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      yadasht 6 years ago

      thank's 4 ur advises..I hope everything will be..as we want...

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      anoynomous 6 years ago

      i will try being happy

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      Ashley 6 years ago

      A new discovery to share: be more generous with sharing one's piece of mind can increase the chance of falling in love/ founding a friendship.Not sure if anyone recalls the scene from 'A Beautiful Mind' when John Nash made his little Lewd speech and shut his eyes awaiting a slap from his companion (latter his wife). He received a kiss. The same "fluid exchange" speech got him a thwack from another girl in an earlier scene. The point: be and showwww ourselves and we will be loved, by someone, upon some future point of time. The downside is, without a more reserved approach i.e. testing water, observing etc, one can make people uncomfortable and lose associates/potential friends. Balance is hard to achieve.

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      Ashley 6 years ago

      I think I can support my point better: I met a guy in California about three months ago and I got quite attracted to this person after getting a piece of his mind. Such truthfulness is quite admirable, given the disapproval from majority and disadvantages it earns. There is no need to attempt to be sweet or nice or outgoing, they are simply a bunch of value-binding adjectives. Too subjective. I think we can all just be our "naughty" and "horrible" selves

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      Lily 6 years ago

      You know I love a guy who doesn't Love me.we study in the same class,and in the next year we'll graduate our school.but he is gonna come to San Francisco to study in a university, and I am gonna come too.but I'm gonna study in Los Angeles...please give me advices.cause I don't know if i can continue this thing...I think this is soooo stupid

      But I love him sooo much ...he is my life he is my soul, my sun....my everything....I can even give my life for him...please can you say me how can I be loved by him??

      Leave comments Please!

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      John 6 years ago

      Love is beautiful... It really is.

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      ChilliWilly 6 years ago from Kaunas, Lithuania

      Interesting hub, thanks for sharing!

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      petersteve. 6 years ago

      The only way to be loved is to give your love in exchange of other peoples love.God gave his love by giving his only begotten son,the only way is to give like your father if you are truely his son.

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      uche love 5 years ago

      i have been into a relationship that made me to hate myself for a long time and i was disappointed along the line i hate men who do not keep to their words i love him but suddenly he turned out to be something else and i ask myself what was going on, but there was no answer to my question and i wept do i still love? or do i remain single because of what i have gone through

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      alemu 5 years ago

      all things are true which show or speak about love, so thati want to membar of this.thamk you:

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