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How to be a good and understanding wife
'Marriage is like a song, where the Lord's sweet melody of love comes from two hearts joined as one, husband and wife'-Unknown quotes
The success of any marriage is dependent on love the couples share between them. The love they shared and enjoyed before marriage should be kept alive even years after marriage. Both of you should work towards making your marriage happy, but a woman finds it easier to adjust and tolerate mistakes than her husband and that is why the happiness of a household is mainly a woman’s prerogative.
But one sad factor very noticeable nowadays is with both husband and wife going to work it has become a war of egos between couples in most families. The patience your mother and grandmother showed in pulling a family together is now slowly disappearing. The working woman say that the woman of yester days had no need to go outside to work and so led a more relaxed life.
Nothing can be farther from truth. With no modern technologies and a planned family life that today’s woman enjoy, the former generation had to cope up with large families and had to do every household chores manually. I can remember my grandmother cooking for her fifteen grandchildren and also for about eight servants.
A man will always want certain things from his wife and if it is fulfilled will become completely dependent on his wife.
No man likes a nagging wife. It is basically a woman’s nature to be fidgety. You keep on saying things over and over again till your husband gets completely put off. Instead you can be mild in your words and say whatever you want to say with a smile. Say it once and leave it. Do not talk back when he is in anger. Wait for his anger to cool down and when he comes to make up with you, do not go back to what happened and nag him for his temperament.
It is good if your husband shares your household work, but if he doesn’t, do not be too critical and irritable towards him. A woman has immense capacity to handle work, so why don’t you use it, instead of being grumpy. A man feels cozy and secure when his wife is there to look after him.
Men love eating, whereas a woman adjusts with whatever is available at home. Make it a happy and welcome duty to cook his favorite dishes for him. You cook your children’s most favorite food without any second thinking, but what about your husband? You want him to eat whatever you make. Cook with his taste in mind. Serve him with a loving smile and man loves his wife who sits with him and serves when he is having his food.
Do not take your fight or argument into the bedroom. You should make him happy in the bed as a man is more prone to physical hunger. It is a wife’s duty to satisfy him. Look and smell good when you are with him. Do not talk anything that might irritate him and put him off his mood, as an unsatisfied man in the bedroom tends to be harsh and irritable when the day dawns.
Try to look presentable when he returns from office and greet him with a warm smile. Some women do not know the importance of looking good. A presentable appearance soothes his tired mind and gives him a happy state of mind.
Another aspect which your husband hates is the calls you make during work hours to make complaints about this and that. He loses his momentum and carries same mood back home. Also give him some freedom to do certain things he wants to do, like meeting his friends, or watching his favorite TV channels.
Your husband becomes completely dependent on you when he feels secure and happy with you. He feels a vacuum in himself when you are not with him. Actually a marriage is successful when both husband and wife share that unique bond which is build upon love, trust, tolerance, compatibility and wonderful sense of belonging.
‘She is but half a wife that is not, nor capable of being a friend’- William Penn
Yes, you should be your husband’s best friend and if your husband turns and seeks you to share everything in his life, you as a wife has accomplished a wonderful bond with your husband which will give you an encompassing happiness.
© 2011 mathira