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How to be a loving and caring wife?

Updated on January 30, 2014

‘The beauty of a woman is not in a facial mode but the true beauty in a woman is reflected in her soul. It is the caring that she lovingly gives the passion that she shows. The beauty of a woman grows with the passing years.’- Audrey Hepburn

The way a man looks at marriage is entirely different from the way a woman looks at it. While there are many changes in the concept of marriage during recent times, the inner core of a man and woman remains the same. A husband wants attention and care from his wife to feel happy in his marriage.

You love your husband, but the trick is to make him realize it. You should make your husband turn towards you in trust by your dedicated care and attention. You think that it is rather selfish of him in wanting you to take care of him when you are famished and fatigued by your tight work schedule.

But his male mind always craves for the care he enjoyed with his mother. He has a child inside him which refuses to grow up and when you fulfill his expectations with your motherly attention he feels emotionally secure.

It is very easy to win over the love of your husband as his needs are not very complicated but very simple.

The easiest way to show your husband your love is through his stomach. He craves for yummy food like what his mother cooked for him and feels downcast when you cite your tiredness and ask him to adjust with a menu he hates. Cooking his favorite food is an effective way of showing your love.

Do you nag him? He hates it! When you feel he is irresponsible you want him to realize his faults and so you keep saying the same things over and over again which make him fume inside in frustrated anger. When he forgets paying a bill, when he strews things around, when he spends time with his friends or when he watches his favorite sports you nag him threadbare.

Do you know this is one quality which makes him highly irritated and furious? It is true your husband is not as responsible towards family as you are, but you cannot make him understand his duties just by nagging him. When you are reasonable he listens to you and when you do not repeat the same thing again and again and leave it at that he feels comfortable.

You might have planned an outing and eagerly wait for him to take you out. But suppose your husband returns home looking absolutely famished! If insist on the outing totally ignoring his tiredness, he might take you out, but inwardly he curses you as uncaring and selfish. When you tell him that the outing can be planned another day and that he should take rest, you win his love and respect in tons.

Has he done a financial blunder which cuts through your budget? You fume that he has unthinkingly squandered away the hard earned money. It is true that you cannot ignore it as a minor fault as money is so hard to earn and very much needed for family needs. Such repeated mistakes can ruin the financial security of the family, but when you reprimand him softly and explain to him his mistakes he feels ashamed of himself and never wants to repeat the blunder ever again.

Your husband as a man is always physically inclined and when you spot it as his weak point and make sex a bargaining ground, he hates you. He might surrender to you due to his urgency, but in his inner mind he denies you the pedestal which would have been yours if you understood his male needs and given him the pleasure he needed without putting forth your demands as a price.

When you do not compare him with others he feels relaxed as your degrading comparisons make him feel less about him. When you support him in his defeats and failures you become his anchor, when you trust his ability he is motivated to do better for his family and when you make his life comfortable you become his world. The peace he has when he enters his home is the result of your relentless care and love and this is what he needs from you.

© 2014 mathira


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      Francesca 3 years ago

      Brialilnce for free; your parents must be a sweetheart and a certified genius.

    • MG Singh profile image

      MG Singh 4 years ago from Singapore

      Excellent post and certainly one of the best on the subject

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      daydreamer13 4 years ago

      Very very good! Bravo!!

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      Eiddwen 4 years ago from Wales

      Once again Mathira; so well written interesting and useful.

      Voted up and shared.


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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Great advice again my friend.


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