- Gender and Relationships
Dating tips: How to date a Chinese girl
Some guys show great interest in Chinese girls (not foreign-grown ones whose mind is just like a westerner’s) since they think girls from H.K., Taiwan or the mainland of China seem quite different from western girls. In their eyes, Chinese girls are quite special due to the rich cultural heritage, very tender, considerate, kind and alluring.
Their outlook on life is often different from westerners'.
Yeah, you want to have a go. But meanwhile you may feel a sense of lacking confidence due to your fear of dealing with the cultural differences.
Do not lose heart. A Chinese girl also wants to be loved by an excellent guy, including one from a foreign nation. It is acceptable for her to date or even marry a guy of different culture, minority, or nationality.
So what you need are confidence and action. Besides, it will be of great help to your date if you are provided with tips on how to date a Chinese girl successfully.
Attach great importance to First dates. First dates are very important. During first dates, cultural differences, which will not come out immediately, are usually not the top concerns. What you should do is just follow some general rules for first dates. You should try your best to give her a good first impression. And there are :
(1) Dinner is a good choice when meeting her for the first time. Nobody hates to eat. Choose a nice but not too expensive place. Bar is not a good place to date a Chinese girl. Remember to pay the bill by yourself instead of going-touch.
(2) Be yourself. Don't be too forward, for haste makes waste. Try to impress her with your personality instead of showing yourself off. Even if you decide to have further contacts with her, wait to tell her later.
(3) Choose good conversational topics. When talking with her, you can ask her questions that can help you know more about her. When she talks, listen to her carefully and pay attention to her answers. One way to keep the conversation moving forward is to avoid dead end questions. Never ask too sensitive or sexual topics. Humor is one of the best weapon.
If you are lucky and get steady with a Chinese girl, then you should pay attention to the cultural differences between you and your girlfriend during your date. Don’t be too nervous. Normally the Chinese girl you date is westernized to some extent. However, it is of great significance to you to keep the following tips in mind.
1. Show due respect to her Family. Family ties are more respected within Chinese. So try to learn more about her family. When you date a Chinese girl, you actually date her family to some extent. Be interested in her family and endeavor to develop a good relationship with her family if necessary, which sure would be beneficial to your relationship with her.
2. When dating a Chinese girl, you must take the problem of Marriage into consideration. You guys may just want dates only instead of marriage. But a Chinese girl dates a man usually with an intent of marrying that person. So if you do not want to marry her, please stay away from a Chinese girl. Otherwise, both of you will be deeply hurt.
3. When you date a Chinese girl, you should carefully deal with your relationship with other female friends. Though a Chinese girl might rate you more if she discovers you are admired by other Chinese girls, she will definitely feel a sense of insecurity. Loyalty is a quality that is highly respected in the China’s culture. Being too intimate with other girls can be easily misunderstood as being not loyal to your lover. If you wish to impress a Chinese girl you have to prove to her that you can be such a man of loyalty.
4. How to deal with controversial issues like religion, nationalism, Taiwan, sex, and so on? Well, face them bravely. A Chinese girl who wants to date you is ready for this discussion. But you should keep in mind that conversational skills and mutual understanding are needed. Compromises and sacrifices should also be made. If you love each other, this is not a real issue.
So guys, wish you good luck!