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How to deal with Peer Pressure
How to deal with peer pressure?
Peer pressure exists in schools, colleges, universities and even offices. Each and everyone of us is affected by peer pressure in one way or the other. If you've been a victim of peer pressure, let's sort out one primary fact, there is nothing wrong with you. All you need to do is tweak some aspects of your behavior and fend off the nasty vibes that may come from classmates or work colleagues. Here are 10 tips and tricks that you can use and learn how to deal with peer pressure.
1) No means no
Follow this rule all the time. Over time, the people around you will realize that you stick to your thoughts and there's no point in using persuasive tactics to try to convince you into doing something. Even the bullies will realize that there's no point messing with you. Saying no is difficult, but it is often your most lethal weapon against peer pressure.
2) Never drink with people who you think might want to impose peer pressure on you
Alcohol will decrease your judgemental skills and make you do things that you'll regret. Like adding fuel to fire, adding alcohol to relationships that are affected by peer pressure is a recipe for disaster.
3) Don't imitate fashion trends of the fashionable divas or the chick magnets around you
This is the biggest mistake you can make while trying to fight peer pressure. Girls and boys who try to imitate the looks, behavior and style of the so called popular bunch are prime targets for bullies and people who feed off imposing peer pressure on others. The best advise anyone can ever give you is to carve out your very own niche style and attitude.
4) Be yourself
Don't think twice before doing something that you feel is right. Do not let peer pressure affect the way you walk, talk or behave. It is better that people and friends around you like you for who you are rather than for who you can be.
5) Look into the eyes of the person who's trying to coax you into doing something you don't want to do
A strong gaze and a stare into the eyes can weaken even the most powerful of offenders. So the next time someone tries to coax you into doing something, simply look into their eyes and put your foot down. Your inner strength will shine through your eyes and will help you to deal with peer pressure.
6) Don't ever play the sympathy card
This is a strict no-no, folks. Many people play the sympathy card hoping that it will save them from peer pressure. The sympathy card may help you once, but definitely not in the long run. In fact, playing the sympathy card often may get you labelled as a weak person. So avoid the complications later on and don't use a sympathetic excuse to ward off peer pressure.
7) Laugh it off
The importance of laughter as a tool to fight off peer pressure is priceless. If you ever feel that you are in a complicated situation, find a genuine funny point in the conversation and laugh your guts out. Happy people laugh, and happy people don't give into peer pressure.
8) Don't be afraid of sounding rude
The fear of sounding rude by saying no to someone's demands often triggers peer pressure to set in on a day to day basis. If you give into peer pressure simply because you are afraid of offending someone by saying no, you must think again. If others are not afraid of sounding rude while they try and coax you into doing or saying something, why should you be worried about sounding rude?
9) Feel free to take advice
Yes, if you think that you have no solution to the peer pressure problem you are facing, talk to someone. They can be your parents, siblings, partners, friends or even relatives. Tell them about your battle in learning how to deal with peer pressure and confide in them the problems you are facing on a daily basis. There's one thing to watch out for before you use this tip. Make sure that whoever you talk to is worthy to trust, and worthy to give advice.
10) Don't do 'favours' to get into a group
One favour today, second tomorrow, third day after...... don't put yourself into this vicious circle. Your true friends need no favours from you. They only need you to be there.