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How to deal with a jealous neighbor?
Love your neighbor as you love yourself,should be the guiding principle among neighbors. Equally the same, do to others as you would like them to do to you is also another golden rule for life which all of us must adhere to wholesale.When a homeowner purchases a new home, the homeowner doesn't know what kind of a neighbor lives at number 10 Hastings Drive.The new homeowner would be able to know only when he/she moves in at number 9 Hastings Drive.That is when the homeowner can give precise answers to the following questions: Are our neighbors good neighbors? Are they rumor mongers and jealous type neighbors? Are they the ones who peeps through the window and close their curtains and smash their doors behind you,instead of congratulating you when you buy a new car or when you have a new baby ?
So often the internet is awash of stories of neighbors who do odd things to their neighbors.Some neighbors have been exposed to harm's way by their jealous neighbors.How can a homeowner avoid bust-ups with a jealous neighbor?
Maintain a cool head - If the family next door is hotheaded and jealous of you.Try to maintain a distance and avoid confrontational approach. Don't add fuel to fire by losing your temper and start name calling. People might not differentiate between a moron and a genius - don't retaliate by foul- mouthed words for you all become the laughingstock in the neighborhood.If the neighbor doesn't greet you or talk to you , make an effort to greet that neighbor first.If you are consistent in greeting this rebellious neighbor this may make the neighbor repent and start greeting you in turn.Indeed a good turn deserves another and evil begets evil.Extend an olive branch to your neighbor in most cases.It pays to maintain a cool head and give peace a chance.
Show your neighbor that you do care -Invite your jealous neighbor for a meal and a barbecue at yours.Remember to buy a present or card during Christmas time.This may soften the heart of the rowdy neighbor. A good approach to a rowdy neighbor usually yields success. A softly,softly approach can make the good for nothing neighbor become ashamed of the uncouth behavior and change for the better.Politeness begins by giving a small gift to your neighbor. Be there for your neighbor even if the neighbor is jealous of you,the wise always say two wrongs don't make a right.Praise your neighbor where praise is due.Reinforcement of good behavior with positive rewards can promote good relationship with your jealous neighbor.
Be a helping hand to your jealous neighbor - Help your neighbor with constructive ideas on how to become successful as you are.The rule of the jungle is if you can't beat them join them.If you extend help to your neighbor in most cases the jealous neighbor would see that you are as peaceful as a dove and would return the good favor you would have offered.Pump out a little bit of money if you can,to help them out if they are in financial problems.The upheld belief is that money can't buy love,I beg to differ a small token of money to help your struggling jealous neighbor can win you respect in return.This would be a token given out of necessity,so it would go a long way in harmonizing your relationship with your neighbor.If your neighbor is insecure in life and you are doing fine in life the neighbor becomes jealous.
Identify the reason why your neighbor is jealous of you - Evaluate yourself first by answering some of these questions:Are you not the one who is causing the rift between the two of you? Are you not showy to your neighbor? By answering these questions earnestly one can be assured whether the problem starts with him or her.If one identifies the reason why a neighbor feels threatened, the best way forward is to adjust and be accommodating - this is a neighbor you have to live with for the rest of your life as long as you still own that home, If there is bad blood between the two of you it won't solve anything.Talk to the jealous neighbor always,for this would make the neighbor see sense that you are not showy or an enemy but you are living your life according to the standards it had offered you.
Alert the police - If you have exhausted all channels of bringing harmony between the jealous neighbor and yourself the best way forward is to inform the police that you are not in good books with your neighbor.This is sensible because the jealous neighbor might harm you and your family.If this happens the police has a suspect to arrest.At all cost harmony between neighbors must be upheld - Blessed are neighbors who see eye to eye.United neighbors can weather the storm,divided they fall.