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How to get over a breakup and live a healthier and happier life

Updated on December 1, 2015

Living a healthier and happier life after a breakup

It is vital that you go through the grieving process of losing someone you love. However, it is also vital that at some point you pick yourself up, move on and live life to the fullest. We only get one life, we can’t spend it sulking over the loss of an ex. Get out there and live! in this article, we talk about different ways you can begin to get over your terrible break up and move on and work towards a healthier and happier life. It is not going to be easy, but you can do it!

Accept it

One of the first things you need to do is actually accept the fact that the relationship is over. It might be difficult at first, you probably feel like your life is over. You might even feel like you cannot live without that person. You might even want to end it all in a heartbeat. But stop for a second, are you still living and breathing? Do you still have air in your lungs? Well, as long as you have air in your lungs, you can live without this person. So, in order to accept it you kind of have to go through that grieving process. There is nothing wrong with crying, screaming, shouting and tearing up all the pictures you ever took together, snapping all the CDs with all your songs on it. You can do all of that however, you have to accept that the relationship is over. It is exactly like accepting that you have an addiction, before you can actually begin to recover from your addiction, you have to acknowledge that you have a problem in the first place. Once you have done that, you can begin to rebuild.

Write down all the reasons why this person is not the right person for you. Write down all the things that point to the fact that this relationship is all wrong. Do not focus on all the amazing things that happened in the relationship, there is nothing wrong with remembering the good times. However, dwelling on those good times will only make it much harder for you to move on and live your life.

Throw it out

Get rid of all the things that remind you of that person. Give them to charity, throw them out. Do whatever it takes but just get rid of them! You don’t want to be constantly reminded of your past relationship. Another thing you should do is delete/block them on social media, messaging platforms and telephone numbers. You don’t need to have any contact with them whatsoever. As tempting as it might be, you don’t want to get yourself into a cycle of trying to move forward, and then taking two steps back because you couldn’t help sending him or her a message on Facebook.

How to get over a breakup

Write it Down

Write down your feelings, if you feel angry, sad, whatever it is. Just write it down, writing your feelings down is therapeutic, its better out than in, so write it down. Also make a list of your best qualities. Tell yourself how fabulous you are and that you deserve the best of the best! Stick your list of amazing qualities on your wall, look at it every day.

Set a Goal

There is nothing better than setting a goal and working towards it. if you want your life to have meaning, set a goal. If you spent most of your time focusing on your ex partner, and you feel like now your partner is gone, your life no longer has meaning. Well, set yourself a goal and give your life meaning. It doesn’t have to be a huge goal, just do something. You can decide to run a marathon, you can decide to set up a blog, or YouTube channel. You can even decide to find a whole new career path which means you have to take a course to work towards that goal. Whatever it is, set a goal and work mighty hard to achieve that goal. This falls in line with keeping busy, some people say that when you break up with someone you should just keep busy in order to forget about the person. I agree with this to a certain extent however, I think it is important that you work through the emotions that you are facing. Accept the negative feelings and process them. Then start working towards making that step towards becoming happier and healthier.

Embark on a Health Journey

Get healthy! Go to the gym or work out at home. Just get that heart racing! Switch up your diet, drink plenty of water, pamper yourself. All that love that you were giving to your ex, give that love to yourself. You deserve to look your best, you deserve to feel your best, you deserve to be the best.

Get a Makeover

Do something different with your hair, get a facial, change your wardrobe. Just make sure that you look fabulous! When you look good, you will feel good. You might not feel amazing straight away, but the more you try, the better you will feel. Fake it to make it.

Spend more time with friends
Sometimes when you are in a relationship it can be quite easy to neglect your friendships. It can be quite easy to place so much emphasis on spending all your time with that person that you spend less and less time with your close friends. Get out there and spend some more time with friends. Go to the movies, go for dinner, have some fun. Even arrange a holiday with a group of friends, get out there and enjoy life.
Embark on an adventure
If you never liked adventure before, now might be the time to embark on something adventurous. Go abseiling, rock climbing, canoeing, quad biking. Do something that you have never done before. Shed the old you, put on your new clothes!

Get out there again
When you feel ready to start dating again, get out there. You don’t necessarily need to go out looking for a new partner. You can just go out more, put yourself out there more. If you are too shy for that, why not try online dating and speak to a few prospects before committing to a date? Whatever the case, at some point you will need to get yourself back out there, don’t search for it though. Let love find you! When you feel happy, confident and you know your self worth, you will attract the right person for you.


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      intriguewriter 2 years ago from worldwide

      dashingscorpio, yes you are right! thank you for commenting! It is very hard to let go and accept that the person doesn't want to be with you anymore. But for the sake of ones self respect, you just have to do it. Once again, thank you very much for commenting and leaving your thoughts.

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      dashingscorpio 2 years ago

      Great advice!

      Accepting it's over seems to be the hardest task for a lot of folks. Unfortunately you can't "move on" until you "let go".

      Too often people "romanticize the past" and hope for reconciliation.

      I often ask them: Why would you want someone who doesn't want you?"

      In order for him or her to be "the one" they would have to see (you) as being "the one". At the very least a "soul-mate" is someone who actually wants to be with you! (And vice versa).

      "Never love anyone who treats you like you're ordinary."

      - Oscar Wilde

      If someone hurt or dumped you they didn't think you were all that "special".